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May 3 Centrists Rule the World today commented on A Fourth Murray Accuser Files Declaration in Child Sex Abuse Case.
In the Cosby case, I knew it was serious when Gloria Allred and Judy Huth posed with her court filing like two rednecks and a goddamn trophy buck.

I thought this looked damning for Murray, but good god, Beauregard - could you make any more of a mockery of your own case?
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
@48 - if he stays with her, despite her dating this other guy over his wishes, and he's monogamous, while she's not, that to me is cuckoldry - in the archaic, not fetishistic, sense. She has in fact forced him into a subordinate sexual position at that point. She has cuckolded him. It's the most accurate term.
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
@53 - well put. I think your personal experience sums up what a lot of us are trying to say.
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
@38 - that's not what I said at all. She can want to open the marriage, and that could be just fine; but she's boxing him into a corner. She's already found this other guy, who was supposedly just a friend. That's the dishonest part. She should take a pass on the "friend" and then talk about opening the relationship separately.
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
That should have read: "he said that after he told him to take..." bad typing!
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
@37 - he slid that after telling him tot ale an inventory of his fears and then this "You can say no to opening up your marriage, HUSBAND, but your wife may decide she wants out of the marriage if no is the answer..." He closes with the advice that hey, he can always identify as monogamous while his wife is non-monogamous. They got a word for that - cheating, CPOS, cuckoldry...
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
Everything lavagirl said.
Apr 27 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
"I want to fuck my friend" is very different from "Honey, I'd like to explore opening our marriage." Being open to nonmonogamy does not mean he has to agree to this, and fearing he might lose her if he doesn't agree is the wrong reason to open their marriage. LW3 is under no obligation to "examine his fears." If he's uncomfortable with this situation (a more than fair reaction), he should be able to tell his wife that. If she doesn't respect his feelings, then they shouldn't open their marriage and if she does unilaterally, it's just cheating by another name and he should DTMFA.

I don't get Dan's advice on this one at all. If she developed feelings for the "friend," kudos for being honest; but she's the one re-negotiating the terms of their marriage and the onus should be on her to demonstrate patience and compassion. What happened to communication and honesty being so critical to nonmonogamy? Now it's: "she wants to open it, well guess you got no choice dude, since you're open to it in theory"?
Apr 14 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
@102 - but you'd agree that most guys want threesomes? And that the ratio of desire to realization (for straight men defining threesomes as two girls, one guy) is maybe 100,000-to-1? Maybe higher?
Apr 13 Centrists Rule the World today commented on Savage Love.
Has NAWT ever been monogamish in practice? What guy doesn't want threesomes? Unless he's actually lived out this sexuality he's so convinced is his, to me it sounds like someone is worrying about the sex he might miss out on rather than giving up the kind of sex he had been having. And I know everybody says the sex is the best it's going to be at the start, but it doesn't have to be. In my own experience, the best sex can (did) come 15 years into a relationship. If he's truly giving up something he can't live without, by all means, end it. If you're counting on your 30's being nonstop threesomes if not for your vanilla, super-compatible girlfriend depriving you even though your 20's were weirdly devoid of threesomes, stop being an idiot.