commented on Savage Love
It seems to me there's some slim chance that SAD might have a chance to be happy with her relationship, but only if she buys into a BDSM sort of scene. He's the sexual dominant and ostensibly 'controls' that aspect of things, while she develops her acting chops and can summon her tearful begging for sex with relative ease and relatively little real anguish. Cops and robbers and crocodile tears for grown-ups?
Granted, the chances of that working seem slim, and her fella also seems like such an ass that it would probably 'ruin' things for him if he was consciously aware that her tearful begging included a significant element of the Actor's Studio.
commented on The Homeschool Apostates
My understanding is that the majority of parents that home-school their children have, at least in part, a religious motivation.
As I'm generally opposed to religion, and am more particularly troubled by childhood religious indoctrination, I feel secure in my opinion that home-schooling is a bad idea.
Of course there are exceptions, but I'm very comfortable with viewing things through a statistical prism: "more than half of the time, home-schooled children would be better off attending a public school; the burden of proving otherwise ought to be on home-school advocates."
commented on SLLOTD: Judgment Day
If you're kinky, it is essential to have an SAT Verbal score in the 700-plus range, and to be able to demonstrate that score-range in titillating conversations while inebriated.
I'll buy into that, but then I may be biased by being part of a rather slender portion of the bell curve of SAT Verbal scores.
Self aggrandizing humor aside, I agree that good judgment is particularly important when one's taste is decidedly non-vanilla.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Partners Still
@15. No physical relationship for five years--no sex, no affection--and you respond with thundering self-righteousness about honoring marriage vows?
I agree that this letter writer is frustrating, but I don't see how that translates into "therefore his marriage must never be ended."
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Over & Out
I'm on the letter writer's side, really. Being emotionally tortured for years--even when the torture is in some sense 'justified' by bad actions--is the essence of an abusive relationship. Fuck her fucking ex-husband.
But...her update leaves something to be desired. I wonder if Dan edited it? I hope he did. Because her praise of Dan's advice, and her joy about her sex-life aren't the only relevant details. How are the kids doing? How is the ex-husband doing? And other than the sex, how are things going with the fellow from her past?
I definitely support the dumping of the unforgiving asshole. But it is problematic that all she feels is worth mentioning is the awesome sex with the new/old guy.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Model Behavior
Isn't this one of those situations where his inability to forgive is a key factor?
The LW, in his current state, is not relationship material. His expectations are excessive, his hectoring/nagging/niggling is excessive, and his ability to forgive/forget/move on is insufficient.
He is not in adequate emotional working order to be in a relationship.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Widow's Dog Collar
I think part of the reason this letter writer was so profoundly stupid (other than being born that way) is all the right wing nonsense about the goddamned 'death tax.' You die, and the IRS is gonna tax you up the ass. Boo!
The 2013 exclusion amount for the Estate tax is $5,250,000. Even a fucking solid gold collar is not going to approach that.
I blame the Republicans--a stupid letter writer made more stupid by the Republican meme of the Death Tax.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Like, Say, DTMFA
Dan knocked this one out of the park.
I agree with schmacky that 'emotional tampon' isn't a new phrase, but it still might be new to Fnarf or others. It is appropriate to thank the person who makes a phrase stick in your mind, even if that person just used the phrase, and didn't invent the phrase.
And yeah, @40, moving in with family might be a viable option, but cut Dan some slack. He's in the problem-solving business, but that doesn't mean he is obliged to list every possible alternative solution. If family is a viable option for the letter writer, one hopes she's clever enough to think of that herself, as a quicker alternative to saving up the cash for a place of her own.