11:45 PM yesterday
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Judgement Daze
This is just another instance where its best to ignore the judgments of others about stuff that ain't their business.
It really is analogous to Mr. Savage shrugging off homophobic bullshit. Why give those who aggressively violate the golden rule any credence, weight, or significance?
@2 Not wanting children is entirely legitimate. My views on ignoring those who stick their nose in the personal business of others applies to you in this instance. However, I don't like your assumption that for women it is ten times worse than for men. Who has the right to measure pain, and make absolute judgments like that? Certainly not you. So I shall return your presumptuousness with some of my own: you're a fucking bitch.
commented on An Open Dialogue About Sexuality
"This person" comes to ALL of Dan's college speaking gigs, is ALWAYS first to the mic, and ALWAYS has the same long-ass speech disguised as a question?
You all are missing the point, I think. The content of "this person's" speech is secondary, even trivial. What's important is "This person's" obsessive, very stalker-ish behavior, and single-minded axe-grinding.
She reminds me of Pooh from The World According to Garp--let's hope she never shows up at a speaking gig armed and ready for her Sirhan Sirhan moment.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Code Breakers
You can put pretty much anything in an OK Cupid profile.
I'd qualify things--I'm not a White Knight, its not about loving chaos--I just prefer uncertainty, someone still on the quest, someone still-posing-those-dorm room bull session questions of why we're here and what's the meaning of life and how do we find meaning in the darkness.
Maybe a pothead hippie chick?
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Neverlasting Love
Yeah, @15 nailed it.
Dan going down the mature poly road was extremely optimistic, and not very practical or realistic.
This is one of those situations where old school Ann Landers sort of advice is what's central--get the deadbeat dad on the hook for child support.
Being practical is what's most pertinent and relevant for this letter writer's sister--emotionally, the odds are very high the relationship will end, and working on that assumption, the most important thing is nailing down the child support/custody/visitation issues.
commented on Feeling Nothing About the Death of Robin Williams?
Loved him as a kid (I was 11 when Mork and Mindy premiered), began backing away in the 90's (too many sappy roles/films), went into a phase of actively disparaging him, and then was indifferent to him.
Now, I'm remembering being 11 again, and how Mork was must-see TV. That show was important to me.
Rest in peace, and sympathies to his friends and family.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: This Cheater Will Never Stop Cheating
Many people keep doing dumb stuff, knowing full well it is dumb, but they're so habituated to the pattern of behavior that they're effectively incapable of breaking the cycle.
This letter writer, or virtually any cigarette smoker, are examples of this cycle of self-destructive behavior that is so infuriatingly frustrating to observers.
So, how to break the cycle? A shrink? A self-help program like "Co-Dependents Anonymous", if such a thing exists? A hard slap to the face, or a bucket of cold water being dumped on the head? Being kicked around on an internet comment thread?
I dunno what will break the pattern.
I wish her the best, I really do--and not just for the sake of her children. Even with all her mistakes and her drama and her endless cycle of stupid behavior, even with all of that--she deserves better.
commented on I Saw Three Black People in Vienna Today...
The concept isn't okay (yet).
But it might be within a decade or two. It isn't mean-spirited. The wink, the irony, the whatever-the-fuck Tarantino-esque playful and affectionate retro-70's thing will probably be okay eventually.
And yeah, @2 and @10, it is nice of you to advise Dan to hit the 'real' Vienna, but I'm sure he's doing just fine on his own. His taste in restaurants and bars is sophisticated to the point of being "super fancy pants"--he's an American tourist who is among those LEAST likely to opt for chain shop slumming.
commented on This Is Such Bullshit
Why should those who don't neatly fall into an ideological camp be viewed with spurious contempt?
For example, a couple decades ago there were millions of Americans who would describe themselves as "fiscally conservative and socially liberal."
I can't believe all of those people have been absorbed by either the right or the left. Isn't the spirit of compromise essential to get anything done in a winner-take-all two party system?
If everything is seen as life-or-death ideological purity tests, and any compromise amounts to a betrayal, we have a formula for routine, broadly popular government functions becoming an ordeal to fund--and anything even mildly controversial becomes impossible to address.
commented on Savage Love
I'm confused. Was the first letter writer a woman or a man?
I confess that the gender ambiguity of the letter itself had me wondering prior to reading Dan's response to the letter. I appreciated Dan's slap-down regarding opposite sex couples trolling for thirds in lesbian bars, partly for the slap-down, and partly for clarifying the ambiguity, but now Joan's comments have left me re-mystified as to the facts of the matter.