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10:54 AM Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
I just got back from a week-end in the Big Apple. Normally I spend a good amount of time walking around in the natural areas of parks. Yesterday I walked maybe 8 miles in the streets of Manhattan. Down in the canyons of buildings of sand, stone, and steel climbing into heaven. Natural high.
Jan 11 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
For those who have been curious about the "salacious aspects" referred to in the disputed intelligence report recently in the news, but haven't yet seen it (still available from Buzzfeed), here is my paraphrase:

Trump visited Moscow (2013?) and ordered a suite previously occupied by the Obamas. Trump, at least partially to defile the bed the Os had used, had prostitutes perform golden showers on it.
Jan 10 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
At first I thought Breeder was Venn being sarcastic.
Jan 9 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The Week in Review -- Just Drinks
5 Letters, relatively good response.

Mybro-- Writer's brother is 30yo virgin who wants to hire escort for drinks and conversation on his birthday. Where can he find a reliable source? Mistress Matisse, sex-workers-rights activist is Dan's guespert.

Mbtcg-- Guy's gf is a cam girl. How should he describe her occupation to colleagues?

Caw-- Tall, fit 65yo testosterone-taking woman, recently partnerless, is interested in nsa sex. Escort services? Perhaps w females?

Rwq-- Writer has advice for Gayman in the recent Husbandry column: Gayman, recently deserted by his abusive bf and abandoned in Portland after cross-country move. Writer recommends joining Frontrunners, an LGBT running group.

Scd-- Writer wants Dan to expand his standard advice how to get out and meet people with take dance lessons.

I say "relatively good", because it's not like the old days when we could get up to 400+ comments. Mybro and Caw drew most of the comments. Mybro's gender was challenged without drawing ire. There was also uncertainty about what their brother really wanted-- was it just drinks, or was he euphemizing a desire for sex. Or could he be just a curious asexual? The legality of escort service. A number of commenters suggested social websites. Craig's list got mixed reviews.

A lot of interest in Caw, too-- is she pre-transitional? Or late bi-curious? Testosterone treatment for women. Gamebird gave a very positive review. Things got kind of squabbly among some regulars-- to the entertainment of other readers but who may not have be certain why some feathers were ruffled.

Re Mbtcg: some commenters recommended tossing gf off as some kind of videographer-- without regard for any inevitable follow-up questions. Other commenters supported Sod's recommendation of dancing-- including the Lindy hop.

Cat Bro returned to give us a much needed new perspective. Solicited for free alternate medicine advice.
Jan 5 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
For the record--

Het males using Craig's List for hook-ups are likely to experience 99% pimp 'bots. At least that was my experience several years ago.
Jan 4 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
A replacement for what?
Jan 2 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The Week in Review -- Revolution Hall
18 Letters, very weak response

L1-- Tips for avoiding objects up one's ass?

L2-- How common is it for women to squirt?

L3-- How to get partner to really top?

L4-- Trans man and cis woman are happily married, but the husband is pregnant. How do they break it to the wife's unknowing family?

L5-- Woman married 40y to husband who says she still embarrasses him. Is this unusual?

L6-- How do white people talk to black people about Donald Trump?

L7-- "Hall passes" don't work for many women because they can't orgasm when having random sex once with a random guy. What alternative would you recommend?

L8-- How do you propose a foursome with your longtime friends without freaking them out or ruining the friendship?

L9-- How do you decide who wins an argument in a same-sex relationship?

L10-- All straight guys want to put it in your butt, but when you suggest eating it first, they run for the hills. How can I bridge this gap and get my ass eaten?

L11-- How do I avoid lesbian bed death?

L12-- I'm in a FMF poly triad, and I'm looking to incorporate another guy into the mix. I'd look online, but I'm a public-school teacher in a small town. How do I find someone without outing myself and risking my career?

L13-- If you're married and in an open relationship, do you need to include that info in your Tinder profile? Or can you wait until later?

L14-- My wife goes on long runs with her girlfriend. I'm sure they are having sex in the woods. I'm jealous because I'm not getting enough. What should I do?

L15-- I'm four months pregnant. My husband won't stop talking about how excited he is to taste my breast milk. I said he could try it from a bottle, but he wants it from the source. I want to be GGG, but this weirds me out.

L16-- I'm a 25-year-old gay man who doesn't resonate with hookup culture. If I'm not comfortable fucking right away, how can I compete/find a partner?

L17-- I'm too broken. I don't know where to start.

L18-- Not a question, but a thank-you for helping me to undo my "Utah damage."

18 questions left over from a lecture at Revolution Hall and only 92 responses at this time, half of them from Auntie. Not very encouraging, esp as many of them touched interesting topics. Many of them are so terse I gave up on trying to paraphrase them, and just pasted them in. Let's charitably write it off to Dan's excellent and hardly challengeable advice.
Jan 2 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Anyway, to radically change topic...

I happened to catch the new episode of Sherlock last night, and was surprised upon checking the Guardian to find we Yanks are running comtemporaneous with the Kingdom, and there was a review of the Six Thatchers, which confirmed my somewhat alcohol-befuddled memory of same.

At the end I came to believe that Mary's baby was actually from Sherlock. I was always thoroughly convinced ACDoyle's Sherlock was a closeted gay (jeez, that seems to be a favorite meme of mine here), but that Cumberbatch's Sherlock was more asexual, with a tinge of bi-- so this possible paternity surprised me.
Jan 1 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.

I'm not clear about your ref to my @55, but I will comment on your @70-- about my way-previous comment about the disappearance of het males here. As I said back then, I thought particularly Sean felt miffed about the cattiness he was encountering here. A couple Commenters indicated they would try to contact Sean (by email? other social media?) about his reasons for leaving, but they never reported back.

Het males are often picked on here as the group-think is that het males represent the Patriarchy (and hence the source of all evil in the world) or purveyors of rape culture. The column has become largely a women's club, which supports a feel-good community and where disagreement is discouraged. Contrary opinions are met more with insult than reasoned disagreement. Even gays (for whom Dan's column should be a natural) are disappearing-- Lolo's holiday salutation sort of makes that clear. Venn repeatedly talked about the dearth of gay advocacy here.
Dec 31, 2016 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Meanwhile, returning to the Letters:

L3-- How do I get my partner to top me "properly"?

[I will refer to LW3-- only for clarity of exposition-- as a woman.]

You want your bf to dominate you. Submission is an important survival skill, which some have eroticized. By being disrespected and maltreated, the bottom does not risk challenge.

Fortunately help is available. If your bf would consume enough porn, it will dehumanize women in his eyes. We know this to be true, because porn-hating Feminists have told us so often enough in this forum. You should provide him with extreme bdsm porn cds. If they're cds, you can narrowly control what he watches-- much better than letting him discover what he prefers by freely surfing. There are plenty of cds available showing men torturing and otherwise degrading women. When he has watched enough of these, there won't be any chance of him "melting into an ooey-gooey love ball."