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6:59 PM yesterday Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The Week in Review -- Pups
3 Letters, weak response.

Doggone-- Writer has coworker who is into gay puppy play. Writer claims to be puppy tolerant, but doesn't like that the pup wants all coworkers to call him by his puppy name, Spike, because the writer believes that makes him complicit to the Spike's sex play. Amp, puppy and porn performer, was Dan's guespert.

Kinky-- Writer synced their phone contacts and Twitter accounts, and discovered that a supposedly vanilla friend was cross-dressing and associating with a dominatrix. Writer says they're concerned that others might similarly discover the friend's kinkiness. Should they give him a head's up about his discoverability?

Peter-- 21yo gay Dan fan was delighted with the progress of gay rights, but is now depressed since Orlando. Seeking guidance.

Peter's letter offered the opportunity to wax oratorical about the Orlando tragedy, but I suspect most are still too numb. I thought Kinky offered good areas to explore, but few took the bait. Doggone took the majority of interest. Casual names in the workplace? Does knowledge of a person's sexlife involve you in it? CMD reported on a pride event-- peppered with references to other commenters. Some talk about Brexit. Alison presented data on the usage of names in commenters' handles.
Jun 24 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Getting back to the letter...

Spike has already cleared, or is about to, the hurdle of a casual name at work-- a case of him involving everyone at work.

The only one who cares is I don't give two shits Doggone, who knows of Spike via mutual acquaintances.
Jun 23 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.

Spike would be a good name for the Athletic Director.
Jun 23 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Granny Smith,

What's with your name? Like an apple? Because you want to be eaten? Don't involve us in your sex life!
Jun 22 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.

I've known people like you at work. They made the world a worse place.
Jun 22 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.

What is making me go 'eww, no,' about calling someone Spike 'cos he's a puppy,

Spike has not presented himself as a puppy. Doggone only knows about this because they have friends in the puppy community. Spike is a well-accepted male given or nick name. Spike Lee?
Jun 21 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.

The most sensible reason for transitioning that I've heard of is to appeal better to their target.

I'm afraid you're parading your ignorance. Many transpeople recognize their mis-assignment at a young age-- way before they have any kind of "target".

If PARK is mostly attracted to gay men.

She tells us clearly she's "a straight female". Wasn't it you, who loudly proclaimed on this board, that it was "rude" to deny someone's pronounced gender/orientation. She just likes to see guy-on-guy action. I believe she considers herself a strong gay ally. Some guys like to watch girl-on-girl, that doesn't make them lesbians (nor the actresses, either).
Jun 21 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The Week in Review -- Diapers and Peepers
3 Letters, weak response.

Diapers-- Writer has been recently dating a guy who likes to wear diapers. The bf says this behavior isn't sexual, it just makes him feel safe. Writer doesn't believe him. How to proceed further?

Cash-- Early 20s man is attracted to men and women, but thinks sexual activity is strange. He doesn't think he's asexual, not sure if he's bi. Should he wait to find the right person?

Park-- Het woman likes to watch man-on-man sex. She searched a known cruising park and found 2 guys blowing, but her presence scared them away. What are her options?

There was some interest in knowing more details of Diaper's bf's habits. There was broad disagreement whether people who have sex in public places can have any expectation of privacy (or whether the thrill of possible exhibition adds to the fun). 2 Abdl fans spoke up. A point to Ricardo for defending cruising. Sophie was a stand-out annoyance.
Jun 20 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
It was a complete knockout.
Jun 20 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.

No. What appalled me was your recommending to Park (a het female) that she misrepresent herself as a gay transmale. And my further surprise that no one in the Commentariat found fault with that.