Hunter78
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7:16 AM Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Pain,

She wants out. It hurts to be dumped. Don't expect to get back together-- that not only prolongs the agony, it grows it with wasteful fantasizing about a new life together.
4:00 PM yesterday Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Cpos,

There's a good chance you will cheat on her in the future. Irl. In your mind you will. Even Jimmy Carter had lust. It sounds like you're working on your issues. Is gf willing to continue working with you? Could she grow into that polyamorous godess many here celebrate?

Don't tell her-- that's just abusive.
Sep 27 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Bi,

I never claimed anything the like. I think both rules are dubious. Particularly the no piv rule is problematic-- if a man and a woman are going at it, that cock is likely to go where Nature wants it. The condom rule at least makes sense, esp when understood as part of a disease prevention routine.
Sep 27 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Bi,

This was a major theme of the column and this "no piv" rule was expounded by at least Squid, NoCute, and even Snip redux. "Taking piv off the table". How can a "no piv" rule be effective against undesired pregnancy yet a "wear condoms" ineffective? Both are entirely dependent on the strayer adhering to the unverifiable rule.
Sep 27 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The Week in Review -- Quickies
6 Letters, good response.

Tense-- 27yo het male high school teacher hasn't had sex since June. He wants to date on-line, but is concerned his supervisors will find out and he'll lose his teaching certificate. What to do?

Snip-- 26yo woman in open marriage with a well-endowed (financially) man. She's concerned he'll impregnate some other woman and jeopardize their relationship. She does not want any children. He says he doesn't want any children. Her plan is for him to get snipped, but he's been hesitating. Is she being unreasonable? Snip herself entered the lists @237.

CB-- Single gay male in his 40s. He's had several serious relationships, but he's noticed his ardor dies as he gets closer to these guys.

Happy-- Mid 20s woman who therapeutically takes antidepressants, which dampen her ability to orgasm. How can she roll out her problem to new potentials?

Baddy-- Newly single 30yo man fucked a married woman last week. Does that make him a bad person?

Wisf-- 64yo wants to get into gay sex. How to meet gays? Any other advice for a newbie?

6 Letters [Goof report: the Joe Newton cartoon shows "5 Therapeutic Opinions"], but the column was really almost all about Snip, and the pregnant perils of polyamory. We learned strange things. Feminists developed the Pill (huh?). For the advancement of Feminism we need the Male Pill (which is being suppressed by the Patriarchy). Polyamorists can enforce that their partners have no piv with others, but not that they use condoms.

I thought the other letters could have drawn more interest. A guy going gay at 64? The anxious teacher. Female anorgasmia (was that the norm in 50s?). A gay who gets colder as he gets closer. We had another double 69.

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Sep 26 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
The Huns are coming!
Sep 26 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
They're Alien Invaders!
Sep 26 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Sperm don't even have mitochondrial dna. They're not humans.
Sep 24 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Low-libido shaming?
Sep 23 Hunter78 commented on Savage Love.
Bi,

Happy Bisexuality Day.