May 16
Bugnroolet commented on Mitt Goes Home.
Please, somebody, close the door behind Mitt and keep him in Utah and out of the rest of the country. Let them deal with him. Harshly.
May 16
Bugnroolet commented on Occupy Offshoot Blockades Home to Save South Park Man From Eviction.
Yeah, I just don't get banks. I don't think this guy should be given a free ride, but maybe some pragmatic consideration. If his house can't be sold for enough to pay back the bank for the value he defaulted, then why not work with him? Otherwise, the bank is stuck with a property it can't sell at break even, it at all and every month it sits empty, the value goes down more.
Makes more sense to sit down with the guy and work it out. Say he didn't pay his mortgage for 10 months at $2,000 a month; that's $40,000 he owes them, plus fees and interest. I think if he can start paying again, the banks should re-do his mortgage with the delinquent amount rolled in, perhaps, with some kind of reasonable fee for re-processing a default mortgage (to pay the cost of the bank employee to deal with this) and start the guy paying every month again. Sure, it may extend his mortgage into infinity, but for right now, everyone wins. The bank gets a revenue stream going again and the guy gets to stay in his home. Ideally, the market gets better and he can then choose to sell, pay off the mortgage and maybe go to something cheaper.
Maybe, this is too simplistic for banks?
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Makes more sense to sit down with the guy and work it out. Say he didn't pay his mortgage for 10 months at $2,000 a month; that's $40,000 he owes them, plus fees and interest. I think if he can start paying again, the banks should re-do his mortgage with the delinquent amount rolled in, perhaps, with some kind of reasonable fee for re-processing a default mortgage (to pay the cost of the bank employee to deal with this) and start the guy paying every month again. Sure, it may extend his mortgage into infinity, but for right now, everyone wins. The bank gets a revenue stream going again and the guy gets to stay in his home. Ideally, the market gets better and he can then choose to sell, pay off the mortgage and maybe go to something cheaper.
Maybe, this is too simplistic for banks?
May 10
Bugnroolet commented on A New Person for the Internet to Love!.
No good deed goes unpunished. Most of us are truly imperfect, flawed individuals who fuck up a lot, but most of us aren't evil like the creep who abducted and tortured these girls. We just have to hope there is enough decency in each of us that when someone is screaming for help, you go immediately and don't stop to think about whether you want all your past transgressions aired nationally.
May 10
Bugnroolet commented on What Do You Think of the Gravity Trailer?.
@8 - tkc, you are so lucky. so so so lucky. The closest I come to George Clooney is when I drive to Cincinnati and remember he grew up nearby in Kentucky. But I live in hope he might walk into my store in Podunk Georgia because a lot of film and tv is made in the area now. Tyler Perry lives fairly close, so maybe he will invite Clooney to a fundraiser for the President there...a girl can dream, right? Meanwhile, I pass the odd moment at work role-playing such an encounter so I don't act like a complete moron when it happens...
May 10
Bugnroolet commented on Pea Season!.
I love your garden stories, Goldy, though depressed I don't have any garden stories to tell, too.
May 10
Bugnroolet commented on What Do You Think of the Gravity Trailer?.
If George Clooney is in it, it can't be bad.
Oh, wait. I forgot "Thin Red Line," but he was only in that for thee minutes.
Re-phrase: if George Clooney is in almost every frame, it cannot be a completely bad film.
Of course, I am not a reliable critic. I would pay $15 to watch him sit in a white room and do nothing for 90 minutes.
Oh, wait. I forgot "Thin Red Line," but he was only in that for thee minutes.
Re-phrase: if George Clooney is in almost every frame, it cannot be a completely bad film.
Of course, I am not a reliable critic. I would pay $15 to watch him sit in a white room and do nothing for 90 minutes.
May 10
Bugnroolet commented on Amazon Is Reportedly Working on a 3D Smartphone.
Amazon is working to take over the world. Maybe someone needs to investigate if their DNA is human.
I know, get Charles to do it. (I'm only half-kidding. Maybe Amazon is the alien zombie apocalypse)
I know, get Charles to do it. (I'm only half-kidding. Maybe Amazon is the alien zombie apocalypse)
May 8
Bugnroolet commented on The Customer Service Problem at McDonald's Is a Symptom of a Much Bigger Problem.
Thank you, Paul. It is my second job, my 20+ hours a week job on top of my regular office job. I actually love working there, it use to be a "hobby" job because I loved the place. Or I use to love working there before the recession made it necessary and before they made conditions so difficult. Still, sometimes, when it is quiet, I look around and think, in a world of bad workplaces, at least I once loved it.
May 8
Bugnroolet commented on The Customer Service Problem at McDonald's Is a Symptom of a Much Bigger Problem.
Thank you, Paul. You can say that again and again and again, but management types are paid to management speak, to create rules and models and ridiculous crap--all costing tons of money in consultant fees. All that money wasted to fix a problem that could be fixed if they spent that money paying employees better or scheduling more people each shift or providing benefits instead of claiming it is too expensive because of Obamacare.
But, oh, no, that would be so wrong, paying employees a decent wage? Employees don't deserve it, they don't work hard enough, aren't dedicated enough. Such fucking crap. The assholes at the top of the food chain are the problem. There aren't enough bonuses and salary increases and benefits for them, there can never be enough FOR THEM. They will never understand that treating your employees well means they will treat your customers well. Oh, there are a few out there that do get it, Starbucks, Costco, to name a couple, but on the whole, big businesses today just keep taking advantage of employees because they can. And they will.
I, too, work for a big box employer that has cut staff to the bone resulting in customers waiting. The few of us left aren't in great moods, though we are grateful to still have the jobs. We're tired, physically and emotionally weary. It is hard to muster up a smile. I try not to take it out on the customers, I do the best I can. I don't need to be told I'm a bad employee. Of course I am, no one can do the job of three people and do it well. I'd like to see someone in their cushy corporate job work in a store these days. They wouldn't last an hour. Even our district manager doesn't come around much anymore because she knows she'd be forced to help us on the sales floor!
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But, oh, no, that would be so wrong, paying employees a decent wage? Employees don't deserve it, they don't work hard enough, aren't dedicated enough. Such fucking crap. The assholes at the top of the food chain are the problem. There aren't enough bonuses and salary increases and benefits for them, there can never be enough FOR THEM. They will never understand that treating your employees well means they will treat your customers well. Oh, there are a few out there that do get it, Starbucks, Costco, to name a couple, but on the whole, big businesses today just keep taking advantage of employees because they can. And they will.
I, too, work for a big box employer that has cut staff to the bone resulting in customers waiting. The few of us left aren't in great moods, though we are grateful to still have the jobs. We're tired, physically and emotionally weary. It is hard to muster up a smile. I try not to take it out on the customers, I do the best I can. I don't need to be told I'm a bad employee. Of course I am, no one can do the job of three people and do it well. I'd like to see someone in their cushy corporate job work in a store these days. They wouldn't last an hour. Even our district manager doesn't come around much anymore because she knows she'd be forced to help us on the sales floor!
May 8
Bugnroolet commented on Savage Love.
TWTQ, I am in agreement with what @35 & @36 said.
I, sadly, am in a similar marriage. I knew him 2.5 years by the time we got married, but never lived with him, which was a big mistake. I wasn't happy, but figured things would change. They did, and it would get better for awhile and then just revert back.
I made the mistake of buying a house, fortunately, in my name only as his credit is a joke. However, I was not smart and did put his name on one of my credit cards, which he ruined. He lost his job, though I had been begging him for months to find something else and after it happened, he admitted I was right.
He, too, lay around the house, doing not much. He admits to depression, but there is no money for him to get help and he won't look for free help. He didn't work at more than the smallest part-time job for two years. But I was too much of an idiot to do something about it. Because I didn't want my friends and family to think I was a loser. But I am a loser because I have tolerated this so-called marriage for 10 years.
I pay for 85% of our expenses. I work 80 hours a week at two jobs. He has managed to find some more work, but it still isn't much and I constantly have to give him money, so I guess I end up paying for most of our pathetic lifestyle. Our sex life has deteriorated to nothing and I have no desire anyway because all I do is work with a broken down house to show for it.
I wish someone had told me to move out in the early months or years before things got so difficult to separate. I agree that you should kick him out, though first you should call a legal hotline or ask some free legal service what kind of shit you can expect by doing that. I do agree that he may be clinically depressed, for the variety of reasons you gave AND because the reality of marriage is pretty overwhelming.
Maybe he does want out like Dan said, but I don't really think that is it. Some people are just like him and my husband. They are seemingly good people, but they are lazy and will just go along doing WHAT THEY WANT. It doesn't matter how much they love you, it never will. You shouldn't be married to someone that will not hold up at least 50% of expenses and housework. That I can say with complete authority.
Before you do anything else, tell him you think he is depressed and needs to seek help. If he still blows you off, then at least you tried. Kicking him out will be a good shock to his system. You didn't marry him to be his mother. Let him pay his own way or live in his car. It will be kinder to do this to him now that let the years roll by like I have. Maybe he will snap out of it eventually and you won't have to divorce him. But don't take him back until he gets a decent job and admits he is depressed and/or an asshole AND goes with you to talk to someone about what marriage should be. Good luck.
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I, sadly, am in a similar marriage. I knew him 2.5 years by the time we got married, but never lived with him, which was a big mistake. I wasn't happy, but figured things would change. They did, and it would get better for awhile and then just revert back.
I made the mistake of buying a house, fortunately, in my name only as his credit is a joke. However, I was not smart and did put his name on one of my credit cards, which he ruined. He lost his job, though I had been begging him for months to find something else and after it happened, he admitted I was right.
He, too, lay around the house, doing not much. He admits to depression, but there is no money for him to get help and he won't look for free help. He didn't work at more than the smallest part-time job for two years. But I was too much of an idiot to do something about it. Because I didn't want my friends and family to think I was a loser. But I am a loser because I have tolerated this so-called marriage for 10 years.
I pay for 85% of our expenses. I work 80 hours a week at two jobs. He has managed to find some more work, but it still isn't much and I constantly have to give him money, so I guess I end up paying for most of our pathetic lifestyle. Our sex life has deteriorated to nothing and I have no desire anyway because all I do is work with a broken down house to show for it.
I wish someone had told me to move out in the early months or years before things got so difficult to separate. I agree that you should kick him out, though first you should call a legal hotline or ask some free legal service what kind of shit you can expect by doing that. I do agree that he may be clinically depressed, for the variety of reasons you gave AND because the reality of marriage is pretty overwhelming.
Maybe he does want out like Dan said, but I don't really think that is it. Some people are just like him and my husband. They are seemingly good people, but they are lazy and will just go along doing WHAT THEY WANT. It doesn't matter how much they love you, it never will. You shouldn't be married to someone that will not hold up at least 50% of expenses and housework. That I can say with complete authority.
Before you do anything else, tell him you think he is depressed and needs to seek help. If he still blows you off, then at least you tried. Kicking him out will be a good shock to his system. You didn't marry him to be his mother. Let him pay his own way or live in his car. It will be kinder to do this to him now that let the years roll by like I have. Maybe he will snap out of it eventually and you won't have to divorce him. But don't take him back until he gets a decent job and admits he is depressed and/or an asshole AND goes with you to talk to someone about what marriage should be. Good luck.
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