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7:17 AM yesterday vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Cute @116 - You gave me the idea for a little skit in which there were a large party at which Ms Marcel felt creeped out after she noticed Dr Sean staring at her. Now Ms Erica or you yourself would likely be capable of leaving it there, and might be restored to good humour by going to watch Messrs Rhone and Ophian making out in the corner or a Henry Tilney Impersonation Competition or the relatively low investment of continued company until the possibility of threat had dissipated. So far, so good. But Ms Marcel would likely escalate, sending Mr Horton to beat Dr Sean up or throw him out, and demanding that others rally to her cause and that everybody saw the offence; should Messrs Rhone and Ophian claim to have been too busy making out in the corner to see anything, she'd label them Rape Apologists and try to get them kicked out as well.
5:19 AM yesterday vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Fan - [The "false accusations of rape" rate is estimated to be about 8%, with estimates varying from 1.5% to 10%. Funny how that is higher than the conviction rate, given that 92% of allegations are true. I wonder why this is?]

There are two lines of response that occur to me. The easy one is that all criminal justice comes with a decided lean. The other is that it would be really interesting to see what would happen if rape could be a civil charge rather than a criminal one. Presumably, if we follow the line of the Simpson murder, there would be a good many more convictions if the standard were preponderance of the evidence rather than beyond a reasonable doubt. How would societal attitudes change then?

I'm closing now before this gets too murky.
Oct 22 vennominon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Guys Keep Putting Him In "The Bottom Zone".
Poor lamb.

I'm going to take the flip side of Ms Fan's guess and speculate that LW is perhaps only/mainly attractive to dominant men or the dominant sides of versatile men. If we could be allowed a different context for the carpet's not matching the drapes, that can be a difficult. I'm almost surprised but probably encouraged that Mr Savage didn't just tell LW to redecorate.

I wish the whole of the response had been in the tone of telling LW not to un-noun tops and bottoms. The opening snark feels like a virtue signal lest people think he's being too nice to a LW he seems to want or expect the readers to dislike.

To say something not yet mentioned, the bit about, "You're good at X and like it, so you should be happy to X all the time, especially since I'd much rather Y," might have been met with the question whether BF might prefer LW to go outside the relationship when inclined to Y. Secondly, it reminds me a little of the passage in The Abstinence Teacher about how dinner has defaulted into being always chicken.

And, just because someone ought to pay some attention, it was paragraph seven.
Oct 21 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Thinking - Well, at least you're not one of those whose plan seems to be along the Magical Thinking line that the Ds can just take back Congress and keep it and the presidency forever and ever. I don't quarrel with anyone's wanting the next Republican administration to be "not this time", but it must be planned for. What the Rs will want to do after twelve or sixteen years without the executive will probably be much more extreme than after eight.

It reminds me of a Canadian right-winger (by Canadian standards) who correctly sensed the Harper government had lasted as long as it could and voted for the least intolerable of the parties that might win. Here we don't have that luxury.

On the anti-gay thing, I'm more concerned over numbers than over who has the microphone at the moment (and was perhaps a little misleading in my last post). The socially conservative wing of the anti-SJWs has been crowing lately over the newest round of studies indicating that the current generation of the Young is about four times more conservative than their predecessors. I don't know whether to be more frightened by what the regressives want to do or by what the repressives want to take back.

I would argue that Mr Savage has been as reasonable a claimant as anyone for the position of The One Gay Voice that society as a whole will allow, much the way left-leaning news channels will have a panel of four with one conservative (and not a robust one at that), or vice versa. Maybe Rachel Maddow is another possibility, but straight society won't allow for a wide range of non-straight voices - two or perhaps three at the most. I'd guess that Mr Savage has the highest level of name recognition, and not that long ago he had the Young. But now it seems he's losing them, and it's the non-7%er gays who will suffer for what the take-backers dislike about Mr Savage. Sorry I've no time to express this properly, but am leaving in four minutes.
Oct 19 vennominon commented on What If Donald Trump Were Gay?.
If the female Trump looked too young to run for the office, she'd have the election won already.

But this piece is a step in the right direction.
Oct 19 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Ms Thinking - Mr T is just the forerunner. I'm alarmed by the views of the 14-19 set. Abortion may be safe, but it's become cool again to be anti-gay, though for quite different reasons than the last time.

Is your plan for the Republicans never to win another presidential election? Even if that were a practical prediction, it would be worse for some of us. I'll grant that it might work out well for you, as you'll be at the forefront of The One Party Forever. But a lot of small fry could be dropped with impunity, and a poll follower is just the sort of person to do the dropping.

Perhaps instead you'll advance that the polls will never turn. If so, I can only hope you're right.

My main thought is that Mr Savage has become part of the problem instead of part of the solution. Which side is crossing the aisle? It would be lovely to be wrong, but it looks as if the young left is much more willing to lend an ear to the other side than the right. Is Mr Savage drawing in any conservatives any more? From here, it looks as if he's not even interested in trying, perhaps a side effect of having gone full Clintonista. I'd be quite willing to believe that he's been turning quite a lot of Sanders supporters into full-on anti-SJWs. I probably know at least half a dozen.

It's not entirely his fault. As we have in this election perhaps the most dislikable candidate ever and perhaps the most unlikable candidate ever, the campaign has required a hectoring style that isn't his strongest suit. That's been all he could do when there's no there there. The one thing for which I will blame him is keeping the F word in play as acceptable. One doesn't have to be Cassandra to have foreseen its eventual use by the other side.

Oct 18 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
If Mr Savage were still counter-culture, things might be different. As he is now The Establishment, his rants seem likely to do more harm than good by whipping up the young (who are much more conservative now than they've been for decades) and increasing the strength of the inevitable conservative backlash and takeback, whether that comes in 2017, 2021 or 2025.

I really wish he weren't pinning a huge target on my back.
Oct 18 vennominon commented on John Oliver Shreds Third Party Candidates Gary Johnson, Jill Stein, and Joe Exotic.
Ms Thinking - True. Maybe one ought not to have high standards for the office. (I spare the assembled company a reference to The Three Sisters and the differences between Mary's and Sophy's expectations of a husband.)
Oct 18 vennominon commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Her Girlfriend Won't Fuck Her.
LW should have included Bright (or Big, or Bold) in her signature.

Team Frida.
Oct 18 vennominon commented on Savage Love.
Well, it just occurred to me that a case could be made that it could appear as a similar attempt to piggyback (assuming "the N-word" was in wide use first) to the way some people saw the gay rights movement as an unacceptable copycat of the civil rights movement.