May 6
dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hot Air.
Yeah, the rest of these commenters are right - I can't imagine a queef situation in which a boner would be lost, an ice cream break would be had, or an anxious email would be sent to a gay sex-advice columnist. Ridiculous. Laugh it off and adjust your positioning.
May 3
dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: No Magic Beans.
@4: I don't think her freakout in a moment of frustration means she's not a pleasant person. If I'd had to put up with ten years of shitty sex, I'd probably be a lot ruder by the end of it. I think her level of restraint seems commendable.
Also, Dan, you mean "discreetly", unless you're advising NIB to get her sexual needs met in distinct and quantifiable units.
Also, Dan, you mean "discreetly", unless you're advising NIB to get her sexual needs met in distinct and quantifiable units.
May 2
dchari commented on Cutting Remarks.
Also, I second @2. Makes no sense that he preferred circumcision to those other two options. It's the most drastic...
May 2
dchari commented on Cutting Remarks.
@14: Why would you be *pissed*? Wouldn't you just be able to get the circumcision any time you wanted?
Apr 28
dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mixed Signals.
@4 - like most bigots, you're the only one in the room who always has gay sex on the mind. Contemplate that.
re: the letter - I also think there's a possibility that this guy is terrified of a romantic entanglement with someone who's rejected him so many times before.
re: the letter - I also think there's a possibility that this guy is terrified of a romantic entanglement with someone who's rejected him so many times before.
Apr 24
dchari commented on SL Letters of the Day: A Selection of Second Opinions.
Oh, and I second "procrasturbation". I always used to get horny when I studied. I think it's because I always procrastinated on studying by masturbating in order to calm myself down, so the nerves brought on by schoolwork were associated with arousal in my mind. Kind of a Pavlovian thing.
Apr 24
dchari commented on SL Letters of the Day: A Selection of Second Opinions.
Love The Show is probably pretty young (I'm smellin' early twenties). This line is especially hilarious: "I am assuming her pain was based on the boredom she experienced with having no one to make miserable." Oh, so because she withholds sexually/is emotionally abusive, she suddenly has no emotions or attachment to her husband?
Hon, the movies may have taught you to think a certain way, but nobody on this earth is pure evil. We only heard one side of the story; for all we know, TED could be such a tiresome piece of shit that it's obvious why his wife won't fuck him. Or he could be controlling and abusive. Or any number of other possible flaws.
I'm not saying he is the bad guy, but there are two sides to every story. More than two sides, actually, since we didn't hear about any aspect of TED's marriage apart from the sex/affection angle. It's a little premature to pull out the phrase "sadistic maniac".
Plus, if TED hasn't gotten out of his marriage by now, he has some very good reasons for staying put. I doubt an impassioned pipsqueak on the Internet will change his mind.
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Hon, the movies may have taught you to think a certain way, but nobody on this earth is pure evil. We only heard one side of the story; for all we know, TED could be such a tiresome piece of shit that it's obvious why his wife won't fuck him. Or he could be controlling and abusive. Or any number of other possible flaws.
I'm not saying he is the bad guy, but there are two sides to every story. More than two sides, actually, since we didn't hear about any aspect of TED's marriage apart from the sex/affection angle. It's a little premature to pull out the phrase "sadistic maniac".
Plus, if TED hasn't gotten out of his marriage by now, he has some very good reasons for staying put. I doubt an impassioned pipsqueak on the Internet will change his mind.
Apr 22
dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
Oh, the reason it doesn't work if you type it into a morse code translator is that it's supposed to be .-- .. -. -.-
but formatted text turned "--" into one long dash rather than two short hyphens, so it translates to "AINK".
Basically Dan is saying TED should see an escort.
but formatted text turned "--" into one long dash rather than two short hyphens, so it translates to "AINK".
Basically Dan is saying TED should see an escort.
Apr 6
dchari commented on SL Letter of the Day: Porn Conundrum.
I think an "epic bukkake" porno would require more than two horny 14-year-olds. Five or six, at the very least.
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@15: the study you're talking about only made claims about physiological arousal. It never claimed it was "discovering what women are REALLY turned on by" - that's a media spin. It only documented blood flow to the nether regions. We can interpret that how we wish. It's true that psychological arousal frequently doesn't line up with physiological arousal, but that doesn't mean that either type of arousal is "real" or "fake".
ABW, you're totally nailing it in this thread. Rock on.
And finally - Dan, your response was pretty reductionist, but this letter-writer sounds braindead, so you can be forgiven for thinking of this as a softball question.