May 6
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hot Air.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hot Air.
Certain dudes do it in particular ways that make this happen. It's something about the angles and the amount of withdrawal between strokes, god knows. It makes sense if you realize that the vagina swells and enlarges during arousal, and more space for p = more space for air, too. One of my past partners did this, and though we were both fine about the noise, it felt weird and uncomfortable, so I would just kind of reach down and let the air out. So don't stress about it, just start paying attention and figure out how it happens and fix it.
Also, ditto to the above. Sex is a weird sometimes sweaty, sticky, bodily fluid filled adventure - noises and smells and all kinds of things are going to happen. The worst thing you can do is freak out. Laugh it off and if he can't, he'll have to go fuck some boring betty who is so worried about how she looks and acts that nary a noise (or orgasm) escapes.
Also, ditto to the above. Sex is a weird sometimes sweaty, sticky, bodily fluid filled adventure - noises and smells and all kinds of things are going to happen. The worst thing you can do is freak out. Laugh it off and if he can't, he'll have to go fuck some boring betty who is so worried about how she looks and acts that nary a noise (or orgasm) escapes.
Apr 14
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Worrywarts.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Worrywarts.
@8 When was high school for you? That sounds awful, and I've never heard of such a horrible case. I'm sorry you had to deal with that!
I think now's a good opportunity to remind people to check out themselves with a mirror from time to time. Warts dont' usually hurt or become noticeable for awhile. You wanna catch anything before it goes apeshit.
I think now's a good opportunity to remind people to check out themselves with a mirror from time to time. Warts dont' usually hurt or become noticeable for awhile. You wanna catch anything before it goes apeshit.
Apr 10
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Kiddie Porn Catch 22.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Kiddie Porn Catch 22.
Super depressing. These aren't harmless images. They are images produced at great cost, irreparable harm, and destroying them is tantamount to burying ones head in the sand. Hand over that computer, now, or when he's dead. If there's the slightest chance that you can stop someone from downloading these images or producing fresh horrible violations, I don't understand how you could possibly ignore it. Even if those children are long grown - can you imagine having photos of you, even consensually engaged in something like that, passed around the internet forever? He got those photos from someone, and anyone, everyone, distributing those images deserves to answer for it.
Mar 7
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wipe Out.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wipe Out.
NO.
"How can I get her to blah blah blah blah?" You can't. And you shouldn't try. When met with avoidance from a woman who is not your girlfriend, not your friend, who owes you no explanation OR sexual opportunity, you take the hint. She's avoiding you because SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU. And it doesn't really matter why. Her call, 100%, move on. Wheedling your way into sex is such a whiny teenager move, so not sexy.
"How can I get her to blah blah blah blah?" You can't. And you shouldn't try. When met with avoidance from a woman who is not your girlfriend, not your friend, who owes you no explanation OR sexual opportunity, you take the hint. She's avoiding you because SHE DOESN'T WANT YOU. And it doesn't really matter why. Her call, 100%, move on. Wheedling your way into sex is such a whiny teenager move, so not sexy.
Feb 11
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Strap-On Prude?.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: Strap-On Prude?.
So fake, so obviously, boringly fake.
Also, do you know how hard it is to masturbate when you're busy fucking someone with a strap-on? Try and imagine the logistics of that.
Also, do you know how hard it is to masturbate when you're busy fucking someone with a strap-on? Try and imagine the logistics of that.
Feb 5
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
Also, can you imagine that convo? "I think you gave me an STI, and I feel really misled and I'm freaking out." "Herpes (a word I have carefully avoided until after your exposure) is no big deal, and you should have known better. You probably don't have it anyway."
Feb 5
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
Also, this isn't about HSV, and the bigness/littleness of it as an STI. We don't get to decide for this kid what the impact of it is on him.
Also, it's kind of surprising to hear people victim blaming. He made a dumb mistake, like everyone else who's ever been 18 has.
The fact is that MOST young people don't use condoms consistently, and that doesn't mean they deserve an STI. If you have something, and you knowingly expose someone, without being 100% sure that they know and completely understand the risks, you're an asshole. I wouldn't do so with anyone less than a long term, serious partner, personally.
Let's not equate minimizing the stigma of having an STI with going easy on people who transmit them. Especially older people who transmit them to clueless 18 year olds, when they damn well know better.
Also, it's kind of surprising to hear people victim blaming. He made a dumb mistake, like everyone else who's ever been 18 has.
The fact is that MOST young people don't use condoms consistently, and that doesn't mean they deserve an STI. If you have something, and you knowingly expose someone, without being 100% sure that they know and completely understand the risks, you're an asshole. I wouldn't do so with anyone less than a long term, serious partner, personally.
Let's not equate minimizing the stigma of having an STI with going easy on people who transmit them. Especially older people who transmit them to clueless 18 year olds, when they damn well know better.
Feb 5
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
secretagent commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
I hope she's getting checked too. Any rando who's fucking you without a condom is also fucking others without a condom. As a person who already has one STI, you're extra susceptible to catching another, bigger, badder virus.
Feb 4
secretagent commented on It Looks Like an Exoskeleton.
secretagent commented on It Looks Like an Exoskeleton.
Didn't do anything for me. It made him look inanimate a bit, more like a sculpture than a live human who has a sexuality.
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The boring, prudish, safe girl got the guy, and the one who blew him in the back seat of his car didn't, and now that he's (surprise!) not getting any (or lying about it) here he is, wanting Backseat Betty again. This is an obvious power grab, and an attempt to make herself feel superior, to make herself feel better for the disrespect she's suffered before. And the oldest story ever, really: denigrate, disrespect and diminish the wife so you don't have to think about her as a person and thus feel bad about what impact your actions will have on her.
My advice is to laugh at that idiot who passed her over so long ago and go catch one that's smart enough to choose her the first time. Rewriting history in this same old, sad cliche isn't going to make her feel better. When you've lost before, it's really tempting to play, play, play again until you finally win. Games like this though, even when you do win, the prize (some chump) sucks.
And no, violating the wife's trust 6 ways from Sunday isn't going to be improved by not letting this girl keep the photos. How horrifying, to use your wife to satisfy some piece on the side's perverse power issues. There's a reason doing this feels wrong for him, and it's because some part of him realizes that this crosses the line from ordinary CPOS into appalling CPOS.