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8:30 PM yesterday clashfan commented on SL Letter of the Day: In Demand.
I live with my girlfriend and her boyfriend. He and I are not romantically/sexually linked, and he and I each date other people. We can't be THAT far out of the norm, surely?
1:14 PM yesterday clashfan commented on SL Letter of the Day: Unicorn Hunters.
She needs to figure out what she wants from the encounter, and what she's up for, and what she might consider but should warn there's a good chance she'll back out on. That might look like:
1--I want sex with the dude, in styles A, B, and C
2--I'm up for making out with the wife, and her watching the sex with the dude, or a 3-way with all attention focused on him
3--I'm up for trying receiving sexy actions X, Y, and Z from her, but there's a real good chance I'll back out pretty quick.

See what they say. They might be really focused on a sweetie for her, and pass on you. That's okay! It beats getting into a bedroom or hotel room, with a bunch of mismatched expectations, and everyone winding up grumpy or hurt.
Jul 27 clashfan commented on Savage Love.
@22: Hard luck for the poor girl whose breast you smother on!
Jul 26 clashfan commented on A Conversation With a #BernieOrBuster About Dinner.
I'm with @10. I voted for Sanders in the CA primary. I'm glad he ran, and I'm happy he moved the party--and Clinton herself--to the left. I'm grateful that he got economic disparity front and center in the Democratic Party discussion.
Let the BoBs have some time to handle their disappointment. Kicking them when they're down isn't doing anyone any good. Let them adjust, and most of them will come around. Keep poking at them, and they'll still be angry in November. And that benefits only Trump.
Jul 21 clashfan commented on Savage Love.
What would you tell a woman who wrote in that her brother in law kept saying "Sure do miss being single, and banging all the single ladies!" every time her sister left the room?
Jul 9 clashfan commented on Dumbest Letter Ever.
@50: No, you don't have to bake cakes for the KKK. Membership in the KKK is not a protected status by law.
Jul 7 clashfan commented on Baker Refuses to Make a Cake for a Same-Sex Couple.
@31: Due to mention of Girl Guides (and not Girl Scouts) I think 29 is not from the US. They also may be taking the piss.
Jul 6 clashfan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Bonus Advice From Esther Perel for "Heartbroken And Devastated".
@9: They had phone sex and online flirting up until LW discovered the whole thing two weeks ago. He's not really an ex.