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Sep 12 moosefan commented on Survivor of Homeschooling Moved By Joel's Story.
Three of my sisters and I were homeschooled by my atheist mother. There were curriculum guidelines to follow, there was oversight and testing, evaluations. My older sister has a PhD, one younger sister is a nurse and the other just entered dental school. I'm the "loser" one of the bunch - I only have a BA from a respected liberal arts college, am gainfully employed, about to get married, own two dogs and I'm saving for a down payment, after I pay for my wedding myself.
Homeschooling isn't the problem. Just like public schools aren't the problem. And Catholics aren't the problem. And living in the city isn't the problem. And living in the middle of nowhere isn't the problem. The problem is and always will be: people who abuse the system. People who abuse children.
My two brothers and three of their friends got arrested once and all five boys swore up and down that they were the only kids setting off fireworks. There hadn't been a sixth boy, no sir. The cops knew there was a sixth but with all five arrested kids swearing that there hadn't there wasn't anything to be done. After they were home my mom demanded to know who the sixth was and why the boys hadn't turned him in. The answer? JS and we didn't turn him in because his dad already beats the shit out of him for nothing and he doesn't need the beating that an arrest would lead to. JS attended Catholic school with the other boys. Because, again, the problem is people. And you find people everywhere.
Aug 27 moosefan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Forgiveness and Ashley Madison's Innocent Victims.
@78, how in the fuck was I shaming my brother? I'm so unbelievably proud of how he's handled himself this week. So proud I could burst. I meant "like a real man" with utter sincerity.
I have spent this week bawling my eyes out, offering my brother my support, making sure my SIL cannot try to hide the evidence of her affair and offering to uproot myself and my fiance to help my brother with his children. Believe me, my brother has gotten more sympathy than he knows what to do with. From me, from our other siblings, from our parents, from HER parents and her friends.
Fuck off with your assumptions. Asshat.
Aug 27 moosefan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Forgiveness and Ashley Madison's Innocent Victims.
My brother found out his wife was having an affair this week - not an AM one, just your run-of-the-mill fucking her trainer kind. And his reaction was not to physically abuse his wife but rather to lay on the floor sobbing. Like a real man.

LW, you do not owe your parents your silence. You don't owe them your forgiveness. They both fucked up. And they should get counseling and think about whether either of them really wants to stay in a marriage that includes physical violence and infidelity. However, THEY have to make that decision. You cannot make it for them. You don't have to trust them or trust that they're treating each other as they should. But you cannot make them bend to your wishes/vision of their relationship.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with this. I wish you serenity going forward.
Aug 4 moosefan commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Advising On a Tight Deadline.
@Eudaemonic, I think you're reading an intention in LW's option 1 that others aren't. Here's how I (a woman and one ocassionally prone to unwanted but uncontrollable tears) see it: LW is afraid that if she meets with the bf now she will break down in tears - not an unfounded fear considering she's been crying at work - and that because of the tears the bf will say something like "oh, I'm so sorry! I don't know what I was thinking!" and they'll get back together. Only for the bf to pull this again later. Or dump her later. Basically, I read it as the LW worrying that tears would derail an honest conversation about the relationship. Not that she was planning to use the tears to get whatever outcome she wants without consideration for him.
So, yes, you could claim she would be using the tears as manipulation BUT they wouldn't be serving either the LW or the bf. That's my two cents.
Dec 5, 2014 moosefan commented on SL Letter of the Day: Two Graves, One Book.
@38, It's Arlo not Arlington. But Alice's Restaurant is more than worth a listen. :)
Jul 10, 2014 moosefan commented on The Morning News: Emmy Nominations, German Expulsions, and How to Un-Sign a Sneaky Referendum,.
How not to be gored by a bull:
Step one: Don't run with the bulls.

Can I get a book deal? I promise to stick to my advice and not get gored.

Jun 16, 2014 moosefan commented on Hockey's Over—Now What Do I Do?.
Having lived in NYC for 6 years there's nothing I want more than to see the Rags and their fans crying and crying foul. Seriously, Rangers' fans who have fistfights in the stands over nothing? Fans unable to name members of their own team but who inexplicably have custom Rangers t-shirts that malign players on other teams? Fans who'll pay $10 for a Bud Light just to pour it over the head of the opposing teams' fan? They don't deserve to win the Cup. And, though I now live in the land of NASCAR and basketball, I get inordinate amounts of joy knowing that all the jackasses (and jackass bandwagoners) in NYC are busy crying and concocting conspiracy theories. If you're going to root for an NYC team root for the Islanders. For one, they are in the unenviable position of having Garth Snow as their GM and for two, they're not awful people.

As for summer sports: I love me some tennis. Not much blood nor as many missing teeth but some seriously amazing athletes and stunning shots. The Tour de France is also pretty cool, especially if you start to figure out team tactics, the peloton, and all the jerseys - it's not just the yellow jersey for the overall leader. If you want to watch some contact sports then I highly recommend rugby. It's probably best to watch with someone who knows the rules because otherwise scrums, rucks, mauls and lineouts don't seem to make a good deal of sense. It looks like some other sloggers have you covered as far as WC info is concerned.
Apr 9, 2014 moosefan commented on Knife Attack at School Outside Pittsburgh.
My mom works at Forbes Regional, not in the E.R., though. I don't know any of these kids but this feels so close to home for me. I know the hospital, I know Murrysville and Franklin. I hope everyone recovers quickly and fully.

@2, while Murrysville is relatively rural it's only a 30 minute drive from downtown Pittsburgh. And I knew a lot of people who lived out there but worked in the city. "Really rural and happy about it" is not a description that I'd use.
Mar 20, 2014 moosefan commented on Morning News: Murray Says Why Bother Disciplining the SPD, Malaysia Airline Debris Not Found, Drug News, and More.
Fred Phelps is dead.…
Kinda wish I actually believed in eternal damnation at the moment.