Feb 20 drjones commented on Savage Love Letters of the Day: Reader Advice Round-up.
Mark my words: Stein fans will continue to be holyer-than-thou twatburgers.
Jan 18 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: What's Allowed In His Spank Bank?.
Whatever the topic, whatever the letter there is someone who will misconstrue it in the comments to make out the author to be a monster.
Nov 17, 2016 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Boyfriend on the Menu.
@9 I know what you mean, I was swallowed whole in 'Nam so these letters can be kinda rough
Oct 19, 2016 drjones commented on Savage Love.
There might be excuses to be made for someone voting for Trump (I'm a dumbass single issue voter who only cares about unborn babies or guns, etc.) but there are no excuses for buying into conspiracy theories, on the left or the right. They are intellectual weakness, bias confirmation worshiped as a god, intentional self delusion. There is no greater sin for an evidence-based human than to accept on faith and bias something that has not been reasonably proven to be true. living in a very liberal town I generally agree with my neighbors.. until they bust out the conspiracy theories then they sound just as dumb and deluded as bible thumpers.

So DTMFA LW2, any guy who will believe things that agree with his biases that easily will believe terrible untrue things about you if it suits him to as well.
Oct 17, 2016 drjones commented on The First Savage Love.
Cool! I recall reading Savage when he was in The Onion and it only ran here in Madison. Very informative for a high schooler.
Oct 14, 2016 drjones commented on Savage Love.
@38 it can actually have an effect on the intensity of orgasm. It could be a correlation/causation thing, but when I really have to come I tend to come longer, more copiously and it feels great.

Relatedly I was surprised that Dan did not mention prostate massage and edging. Maybe it is an old wives tale but I thought they both produced more prostatic fluid once you finally come.
Sep 1, 2016 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Should've Checked My Email Earlier.
@26 "Who calls you a degenerate and then in the next breath tells you you should kill yourself"
Oh honey, this must be your first day on the internet.
Aug 25, 2016 drjones commented on SL Letter of the Day: Natural Vs. Unnatural Threesomes.
you don't have to talk about boundaries, consent, birth control, likes/dislikes etc. before sex one on one either, we certainly didin't always in the past. I gave a lot of massages that ended 'happily'. Sometimes it was fine, and other times it was terrible. The 'natural' way just increases the odds that it's terrible but helps people who are too immature or shy to talk about sex and their desires I suppose.
Aug 17, 2016 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy's Pretend Girl Worried About Daddy's Actual Girl.
My wife and I are into some Dom/Sub play and we both get off on it but now and then mid-fuck I'll say or do something and she'll say "that's not very feminist" or the like and the scene dies. Everyone has their limits and I try to respect hers, but the same thing she is objecting to is what made her super wet and quivery last time. I try to get her to tell me in advance if she isn't in the mood to be treated mean but she does not like to talk about it and does not seem to know till we are well into it.

It's annoying that the sex gets sidetracked, but it is worse that she judges me like I am some kind of asshole selectively based on how horny she is. So from the other side of this equation: try to take Dans advice, and once your guy has proven himself generally decent try to cut him some slack and not project your guilty feelings post-orgasm onto him.