Oct 19 drjones commented on Savage Love.
There might be excuses to be made for someone voting for Trump (I'm a dumbass single issue voter who only cares about unborn babies or guns, etc.) but there are no excuses for buying into conspiracy theories, on the left or the right. They are intellectual weakness, bias confirmation worshiped as a god, intentional self delusion. There is no greater sin for an evidence-based human than to accept on faith and bias something that has not been reasonably proven to be true. living in a very liberal town I generally agree with my neighbors.. until they bust out the conspiracy theories then they sound just as dumb and deluded as bible thumpers.

So DTMFA LW2, any guy who will believe things that agree with his biases that easily will believe terrible untrue things about you if it suits him to as well.
Oct 17 drjones commented on The First Savage Love.
Cool! I recall reading Savage when he was in The Onion and it only ran here in Madison. Very informative for a high schooler.
Oct 14 drjones commented on Savage Love.
@38 it can actually have an effect on the intensity of orgasm. It could be a correlation/causation thing, but when I really have to come I tend to come longer, more copiously and it feels great.

Relatedly I was surprised that Dan did not mention prostate massage and edging. Maybe it is an old wives tale but I thought they both produced more prostatic fluid once you finally come.
Sep 1 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Should've Checked My Email Earlier.
@26 "Who calls you a degenerate and then in the next breath tells you you should kill yourself"
Oh honey, this must be your first day on the internet.
Aug 25 drjones commented on SL Letter of the Day: Natural Vs. Unnatural Threesomes.
you don't have to talk about boundaries, consent, birth control, likes/dislikes etc. before sex one on one either, we certainly didin't always in the past. I gave a lot of massages that ended 'happily'. Sometimes it was fine, and other times it was terrible. The 'natural' way just increases the odds that it's terrible but helps people who are too immature or shy to talk about sex and their desires I suppose.
Aug 17 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy's Pretend Girl Worried About Daddy's Actual Girl.
My wife and I are into some Dom/Sub play and we both get off on it but now and then mid-fuck I'll say or do something and she'll say "that's not very feminist" or the like and the scene dies. Everyone has their limits and I try to respect hers, but the same thing she is objecting to is what made her super wet and quivery last time. I try to get her to tell me in advance if she isn't in the mood to be treated mean but she does not like to talk about it and does not seem to know till we are well into it.

It's annoying that the sex gets sidetracked, but it is worse that she judges me like I am some kind of asshole selectively based on how horny she is. So from the other side of this equation: try to take Dans advice, and once your guy has proven himself generally decent try to cut him some slack and not project your guilty feelings post-orgasm onto him.
Aug 10 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Worst Breakup Story Ever.
I don't have any advice for the LW, This decision she can work this out on her own with the understanding that she is better off without this crap dude.

But I am someone whose life was saved by safe, legal abortion. Birth control failure at 16 with an older girl who turned out to be a bit of a sociopath, but who fortunately decided to abort. Now at 40, seeing the direction our lives took I thank my lucky stars every day, and donate to Planned Parenthood and always vote pro-choice.

So yeah, @2 go piss up a rope.
Aug 9 drjones commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Rest of the Story.
@1 yeah exactly, the original letter was super vague and would apply to tons of men in the english speaking world at any particular moment. If I scanned every Savage letter for possibly being my wife I would hit a lot of false positives. I say that as someone who has had a very specific call answered by Dan and still had to tell my wife that it was me.
Aug 1 drjones commented on SL Letter of the Day: In Demand.
Yeah the three way thing seemed like a red-flag (even though many people would probably be ok with it if broached correctly). If it seems like the LW only wants to be the center of a c-type triad and get 2x the love while everyone else is dedicated to her.. that is a huge ask.
Jul 25 drjones commented on Revolution Now Eating Its Own: Bernie Supporters Boo Bernie Sanders.
American liberals make the best circular firing squads in the world!