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Jul 4 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

She's 31. It's the first thing she says about herself.
Jul 2 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

First off 'sex work' as a whole isn't illegal. There are lots of forms of legal sex work. But the criminalization of certain kinds of sex work does have consequences like those you've mentioned.

At the same time, sex work is more complicated than you're implying and you could very easily admit that this isn't really your area of personal expertise as I've encouraged you to do or...
Jul 2 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

"I'm on the spectrum."

So... no, in other words.

There's a big problem with people who have no personal experience as sex workers trying to talk about what sex work is like. I appreciate the sentiment of what you're saying but I personally don't think it's helpful.

The first point you made (that sex work is like other work) was valid, and that's where the focus of de-stigmatizing goes for a reason.
Jul 2 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

Have you ever done sex work?
Jul 2 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.
If a man's favourite sex worker wasn't a better listener than his wife, the business would look a lot different.
Jul 2 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

Hunter's actually... right on that one. (So is Eudaemonic) Sex workers can and do deny service to people unwilling to pay the asking amount. Some are economically pressed into compromising just like other workers are pressed into working off the clock, or coming in with the flu etc etc etc.

Hunter is of course, SO wrong, about his other point. Sex workers give 'much more than just sex' as a matter of course.
Jun 30 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.


I've been out of school for a while so I'm rusty but I'll be getting back into it soon. Neurodevelopment was dryyy, lots of colour-coded diagrams of blobbies that eventually become the brain, lots of awkwardly named genes, etc. Though I found the processes by which axons direct themselves to be pretty interesting. When I took physiology of pregnancy and birth we were told the youngest a baby had ever survived was a whopping 21 weeks(!!)

You probably told me this before but what do you do these days?
Jun 30 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

This conversation started when someone blithely compared abortion to treating a bacterial infection. Someone objected to that comparison at which point a bunch of people chimed in to point out how irrational it is to have emotions about abortion.

"you're in US?" No, I'm Canadian. It's a non-issue here politically (there may be feet-on-the-ground access issues in rural areas I'm unfamiliar with but I haven't heard anything).

Birth makes even less ethical sense than 6 months to me (as I hinted above) but you're grasping the point that we're talking about approximations and pragmatics - not moral truths which is what I've been trying to get at this whole time with little success.
Jun 30 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

I'm pro choice. I've mentioned it MULTIPLE times in this thread alone. So is Lavagirl. Obviously not a blanket statement.

"Believing that it's your body and you should be able to feel what ever feelings you want with it would be more in line with the pro-choice philosophy."

I agree. See above.

"If your experience is otherwise, you either run into a lot of inconsistent pro-choicers..."

Yes. See above.
Jun 30 mydriasis commented on Savage Love.

Yeah agreed. I mentioned above that I'm an atheist but people looove to pretend it's a religious argument.

Look. After fertilization is the first time you have a living organism with it's own distinct genome. That is a perfectly logical cutoff for life. However, I'm pro-choice for pragmatic reasons.


"Why has this digressed into a "how do I feel about abortion" round robin?"

Because pro-choice people like to unwaveringly assert that an abortion is a 100% non-issue and anyone who PERSONALLY has issues for it themselves is stupid/religious/irrational/brainwashed. It's unnecessary to the political point and yet...

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