Jun 16, 2011
commented on The Bravest Woman in Seattle
I am glad you wrote what you did and how you did. Most of the time the word "rape" is used and people can use it as a cover up of the true horror that is involved. The fact that you spelled it out for all to see will hopefully help people to understand that there is NOTHING that can be construed as "asking for" this kind of encounter or anything similar.
This woman has courage beyond measure. The tears that are wept for this woman and her partner hopefully come from the understanding that when she ever says, "I was raped" it doesn't mean she had "uncomfortable sex one night".
Good on you for shining a very bright light on the real meaning of a word that many victims use in lieu of the true and massive violation that many would find far too horrific for polite conversation.
I hope that anyone who reads this and someone has ever confided, "I've been raped"; can now say with much more understanding, "I AM sorry."
I think we are all sorry for this crime and sorry for the existence of any who continue to perpetrate it.
Jun 9, 2011
commented on Why One Rape Victim is Marching in the Seattle Slut Walk—And Why She Wants You To Join Her
@15: It is excellent that you are putting up this point of view after this particular article. This is an excellent example of the kind of mentality that women who have been victimized are constantly fighting against. Without you coming in and so eloquently stating your point of view it reminds the world that this kind ofwalk for awareness is still so necessary. No one can be complacent when there are still people, such as yourself, who are completely in the dark about these issues.
Clearly, one could merely tell all women to wear men's clothing and cut their hair and speak in a lowered voice so that they will never be mistaken for women who wish to be raped. Already, as evidenced by this very article, even dressing modestly does not prevent rape, wearing a headscarf to cover our hair will not, so the only option left is to cover ourselves from head to toe with nothing at all to identify ourselves as women at all. We won't even look at a man in the eye so as not to give the impression of interest. Then, as I'm sure you will agree, there will be no more rapes at all.
Or perhaps rape has nothing to do with how we dress. Perhaps it has to do with the person committing the crime looking to exert power over his victim. Perhaps, it only has to do with the person committing the crime. As stated previously, perhaps, just maybe, people don't want to believe that it could happen to them or to anyone they care about so they look for any reason why the person must have contributed to their own victimization.
Hindsight is always so clear. Anytime anything goes wrong people go over in their heads all the things that they could have done differently. The problem is that reality is not the movies. We can't plan out everything perfectly and expect all crime all the time without becoming paranoid of even leaving our houses. Maybe we should instead shine the light of hindsight on the people who actually had foresight in the matter; the criminal.