Feb 5, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Boss Is a Married Lady and I'm Not a Single Lady—Should I Fuck Her Anyway?
@7: For the record, my parents were subordinate and boss when they started dating. In fact, my dad was only separated from his first wife at the time, not divorced. My mom found a job at another company partly because they started dating. They were married for 24 years before my dad died. They were very happy together.
However, there is a certain way that people who are a couple should behave when they are at work, and part of that is never, EVER flirting at work. This doesn't work so well when you're having a clandestine affair and most of the time that you can see each other is at work, because it essentially means no flirting. I work at the same company as my fiance, and if we talk to each other at work, it's strictly professional or logistical (I'm leaving, should I pick up anything on my way home?). We also don't go out of our way to see each other at work. I don't think this is something you can pull off if your time after work together is super limited.
Jan 18, 2015
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Violating New Rules
@50: Yeah, that is certainly what it reads like, isn't it?
I think there have been a lot of good points in this comment thread. I'm with the crowd who thinks that she actually thought she was following the rules by calling to ask before actually sleeping with the guy. Also, I think her horny brain probably said "call before the guy eats me out, call after... is there really that big of a difference?" and decided "No" because it was more convenient.
And honestly, the amount he is flipping out seems out-of-proportion to the offense. I think he's either flipping out because he didn't think it would actually happen and didn't really think his permission through, or there are other problems in the relationship that are causing him to give this more weight. I honestly think it's probably the former, but I understand why some people think it's the latter.
Jan 8, 2015
commented on Gentrifying While Black
@25: Honestly? Yes, if we're talking about good jobs. It might not be directly from one of those people, but generally, the jobs you get are the ones where you or someone you know already knows someone who works at the company. The way most private sector companies fill their positions goes something like this:
1) Open position up to current employees.
2) Tell employees to pass along resumes of people they know and can vouch for.
3) Open position up to limited public lists (university recruitment sites, for example)
4) Open position up to general public.
These steps stop as soon as the company finds someone they like. If they like a current employee for the position, the chain stops there. If their employees vouch for someone they like, the job never gets beyond the current employees' range of connections. This is the entire reason why some universities have frats that produce a disproportionate number of rich and powerful people, by the way. The old members, who've gotten to be rich and powerful, tend to want to hire someone from their old frat, and so those people become rich and powerful, etc. It's really only the low-end private sector and normal government jobs that are not gotten through at least the friends of one's friends and family.
Jan 6, 2015
commented on I, Anonymous
Ugh, why does anyone think that this woman was "just trying to make small talk"? She basically said "I think your boyfriend is taking too long to propose to you." Even if the relationship were going really well, that's super awkward. It's even worse when they're not engaged for very good reasons.
@18: The article you cite mentions a perfectly good way to get a conflict-free diamond: get one that's man-made, not mined. A lot of ethical people are fine with vintage stones, as diamonds don't really change much and if people were exploited while they were mined, it was a very long time ago and there's not much you can do about it now.
Dec 3, 2014
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Zoning Violation
@38: While I agree with you, I at least hope you acknowledge that some of us can't help but "dress sexy" because clothes that are demure on normal people look "sexy" on large-breasted women. Also, if you're staring overlong, I hope you're embarrassed when the woman brings it to your attention. Not traumatized for life, but suitably embarrassed.
Dec 3, 2014
commented on Savage Love
@17: Wow, those are incredible. I don't think I ever understood how anyone could think it looks like a flower until seeing a couple of these.
As for MiM: I had the same feelings when I was 17- I wouldn't even take my pants off for my high school boyfriend because I was so paranoid about what he'd think. I didn't know what the vulva was "supposed" to look like, so I didn't know if mine would be good enough or not. Having put my face in several other vulvas since then, I've learned this: vulvas do not need to be visually appealing. Some people love the way they look, and that's great for them, but I stick my face in pussy because I like having my face there. I like the way it smells, tastes, and feels. I don't need pussy to look good. I'm betting that's what your boyfriend thinks, too.
Dec 2, 2014
commented on UK Bans Production of Porn Featuring Female Ejaculation
The only one on this list that I agree with banning is strangulation, because I think that there's a legitimate interest in not giving people a financial incentive for doing something that can't be done safely. The rest of this list is just anti-kink and anti-women for no reason.