commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Why Is My Gay Son Hooking Up With a Girl?
Is 11 too young to know your are gay? If a boy says he likes a girl and wants to marry her some day no one would think to say "you're too young to know you're straight yet".
We assume that a boy who likes girls at 11 knows they are like girls . But a boy who likes boys at 11 is typically though to be too young to know they actually like boys.
There are no shortage of gay people out there who knew damn well by 11 that they liked the same gender.
May 18, 2016
commented on Elle/Esquire Magazine: Science Says Run From Any Guy Who Is Friends With His Ex!
Hmmm. I don't have regular contact with most of my exs. Only one. But that's just because our lives have gone in different directions, we live in different parts of the country now. Not because there is any animosity. Of all the people I've dated there are only about two I would think that I would actively avoid. Most, if I ran into them, I'd be pleased to see.
We don't hang out with most of them, but I like to think I am on friendly terms with pretty much all of them. I don't see why anyone should see that as a problem. I liked them enough to date them for at least a little while. Why would the fact it didn't work out mean I have to dislike them suddenly and want to avoid them?
May 16, 2016
commented on Travis Weber's Youth Pastor Watch
On these bathroom bills, yes, even my gun toting, right wing, Trump loving sister thinks they are ridiculous and an attempt to distract from important issues.
May 2, 2016
commented on Trump Rally Delayed By Riots in Orange County
Violence give the bigots the high ground.
I agree, being polite with them isn't the answer. They aren't polite to anyone. And lots can be done to disrupt things without resorting to violence. What happened to a good, old fashioned sit in or human chain? Block the entrances, shout over them. But once you resort to violence you lose.
Mar 16, 2016
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Off the Couch, Onto the Sheets
As a former counselor I can say people falling for their therapists happens ALL THE TIME. It's pretty much to be expected.
She can ask him out, but if he has any sense, both ethically and professionally, he will say no.
Also, odds are he most likely has no interest. From the other side it's not an easy dynamic to change even if you are attracted to them. And being attracted to a client is something you are trained to be very self aware of and lock down tight. But it's easy for a client to take your concern and care for something it isn't.
So the odds that he is attracted back are small. And if he is odds are he has compartmentalized those feelings into a box that is never going to be reopened. And even if he could it is unlikely he will risk his career over it.
So ask if you must, but he SHOULD say no.
Feb 24, 2016
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Dog's Life
Regardless if this is what he wants or not, this is maladaptive behavior and is both physically and mentally unhealthy. This isn't a kink. This has crossed the line into mental illness. They guy is wearing a shock collar and is now mostly mute? How is this OK or healthy?
I would inform his parents or other relative, the police, and social services. Share the communications with them and let them take it from there. This is just too off the wall that I wouldn't even want to be involved in any way. Anyone who would be willing to be a dom in this kind of situation I would consider dangerous.
Feb 23, 2016
commented on Hillary Clinton Used to Be Terrible On Marriage Equality
If you look at it as voting for the lesser of two evils or choosing the best out of a list of imperfect candidates, that is just a shade of interpretation. In the end we are always doing it.
In the end if Bernie doesn't get the nomination it is no contest. I'll be voting for Hillary. Because if any of the current front runners for the GOP win it isn't a choice between the lesser of two evils. It's the choice between pure evil and something other than pure evil.
If the democrats nominate an orangutan who does nothing but fling it's poo at congress all day I'm voting for the freaking orangutan, because it's still better than Trump, Cruz or Rubio.
Feb 22, 2016
commented on Donald Trump Is Currently In a Flame War With Pope Francis
Not a fan of the Pope or the Vatican, but the Vatican walls are open. You can just walk into the Vatican, no passport required. Just walk in. The walls are a relic of a violent past. Comparing the Vatican walls, which anyone can pass without hardly any scrutiny at all, with building a wall along a border intended specifically to keep people out is disingenuous.