Dec 8, 2014 Keey commented on The Rolling Stone Rape Story Correction Is About a Failure of Journalism, Not a Failure of Trust.
Whenever a story of rape or any other crime pushes every single button in your rage-zone, that is the time to ask: is it possible that someone deliberately pushing those buttons? Do the accused perpetrators belong to a group that you dislike and would really like to see nationally humiliated?

I have a feeling that if Jackie's story had been absolutely identical except for the demographic of her alleged rapists (white, privileged frat boys) the outrage would not have been quite as intense. You may argue that this is simply because frat boys are a suspect group of people, and perhaps they are….but admit it: a lot of progressives view frat boys with antipathy. Indignation toward them was an easy sell. Perhaps Jackie knew that at some level.

This particular event DOES have some parallels to the Satanic Day Care abuse craze of the 80s, where it wasn't just regular pedophilia, it was prepubescent demonic orgy pedophilia by child daycare workers. It's hard to imagine a more over-the-top transgressive scenario, and it got traction fast. Jackie's account was similarly "it couldn't be worse" in nature: It's wasn't 'just' rape, it was gang rape on pile of broken glass. It wasn't 'regular' men, it was privileged fraternity guys from a mysteriously wealthy organization. It wasn't some impulsive, clumsy, brutal act, but a premeditated occult, ritualized rape as part of an initiation process. Afterwards, EVERYONE betrayed her - nobody helped her at the party when she staggered down the steps. Her OWN FRIENDS decide their future social life was more important than helping a bleeding rape victim. Then the university blew her off. The cruelty and evil here approaches an almost camp level of caricature. And people ate it up.

What amazes me is how many people are saying "but Jackie could be partially telling the truth!" This is true, of course, but what a weird thing to be hoping for. Some people are probably saying this because they want to support her, but I think many others subconsciously want to protect the integrity of their own biases against "the perfect villains." It is no accident that it was these very biases that Jackie chose to exploit, and that Rolling Stone (and everyone else) was so eager to believe. This kind of scenario is where "I believe you" can go from a noble impulse to a self-indulgent vice quite quickly.

Dismissing the "false accusation" rape rate of 2-6% as negligible and irrelevant is a BIG MISTAKE. It's the same type of unethical "yeah, but…." treatment that so many unpopular targets have been subjected to over the decades. It seems like every few months we see another innocent person of color released from prison for a crime he didn't commit. Was it okay to lock him up if 97% of the other prisoners are guilty?

It is okay to be wrong if you TRIED. It is NOT okay if you didn't give a shit if you were wrong, because you want to send a message to a community and so what if a few innocent people get fucked over in the process, because they've had it easy anyway. That is a morally unsound foundation to build any type of movement upon.

There can be a place for unflinching advocacy, but there must be a place for unsentimental skepticism as well. Perhaps that is where responsible journalism should step in. Otherwise, rape advocates will be duped again and again, and the public will lose more and more confidence in their message and judgement. Do not let the mantra of unwavering support work against the very people you want to help.
Oct 3, 2014 Keey commented on Ebola Thrives on Poverty and Disparity.
Well, I've heard two different versions about why the ER sent him home: (1) he told the triage nurse he had recently been in Liberia, and she did not put that information in the chart (2) he was asked if he'd been in contact with any sick people recently, and he lied and said "no." It's certainly possible that both (1) AND (2) are true.

You see, all this gobbledeygook about how we are protected by the fact that Ebola is only transmitted when people have symptoms overlooks the fact that PEOPLE LIE.

So the poor ER doc, faced by dishonesty combined with incompetence, figured that the man might have a run-of-the-mill virus, or possibly a bacterial gastroenteritis. So the guy was sent home with antibiotics, which might help against a bacterial illness.

I have a feeling that people at the CDC are logical, honorable, common-sense scientist types, and their plans and questionnaires would work great if the general public was not full of irrational, dishonest, reckless kooks.
Sep 18, 2014 Keey commented on LAPD Detains Black Woman for Kissing White Boyfriend.
Gotta go with the cops on this one. When you pork in your car in broad daylight in front of an office building, and ignore the request of people who can see you to take your very sexual behavior somewhere private, and throw your jizz-Kleenex onto the lawn, you kind of lose the moral agency to be indignant about the appropriateness of the police asking for some proof of who you are. There's plenty of racism out there folks, but this is just a case of being a selfish, entitled pig.
Sep 9, 2014 Keey commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Son-in-Law.
See, this is when it IS appropriate to tell your gay child that their significant other isn't welcome in your house.

You say to the son: "I'm always there for you, even though I truly think taking back that cheating scumbag is a terrible decision. He has abused you and will continue to do so. I'll always give you as many chances as you need, but I'm not giving him any more. He isn't welcome in our home. You always will be, and if the day comes when you meet someone else who is good to you, he will be welcome too."

Then, in private, to Mr. Scumbag: "I don't like you. I don't trust you, and I don't think you're good for my son. Watch your back, asshole, because I'm definitely NOT on your side."

This is also a good time for the other siblings in the house to let their brother know what a dope he is being, and to leave a clear impression on Scumbag that their family is no longer an easy mark for quick loans and associated bullshit.

It ALSO sounds like a GREAT time for a background check!
Aug 28, 2014 Keey commented on Kid Comes Out, Family Disowns Him.
Yeah, what Sam @65 said. Thanks mom & dad.
Aug 28, 2014 Keey commented on Kid Comes Out, Family Disowns Him.
I hope that someday those people are going to be very embarrassed of the way they treated that young man. They are the ones who are not fit to live in the same house as him, not the other way around.
Aug 28, 2014 Keey commented on We’ve Got to “Police the Police”: Photos from the Local NAACP's Rally for Ferguson.
I have feeling that Dorian Johnson made up an "execution-style" murder scenario, that Brown was indeed falling forward (or at least had his head down) when he was shot, and that the ME (and family's autopsy) will likely contradict Johnson a lot more than the police officer. Why is that bad? It's bad because if it turns out that way, then this will be another "Duke Lacrosse" case where legitimate grievances about broader social issues are dismissed because this one particular case turns out to be based on a lie.
Aug 22, 2014 Keey commented on We’ve Got to “Police the Police”: Photos from the Local NAACP's Rally for Ferguson.
I have a really, really bad feeling that Dorian Johnson is going to turn out to be a huge liar. If Michael Brown rushed that cop after punching him in the face, then all this potentially constructive energy is going to burn out into wasted heat of humiliation and frustration. Ugh. I don't know what to hope for.
Jun 11, 2014 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
@ 232, Sometimes we have to realize that our personal damage or illogical terrors are our own burdens to deal with, and it's not the responsibility of others to protect us from them by burdening their own discourse to the point of absurdity. There are matters of degree in such things, and while Dan shouldn't "rush" to judgement, I think it's okay if he walks slowly towards it and then stands his ground when he gets there. Compassion is important, but 'right' and 'wrong' have to matter too.
Jun 9, 2014 Keey commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
@ 204

It may have been a single word, but it was the one word that was most critical to specific point he was trying to make. It's a bit like saying "I don't mind you talking about your heritage, but please don't say the word 'Italian,' because I was raped and beaten by an Italian."

I suppose there are times when someone's feelings are rightfully dismissed, and to me this seems like one of them. We have to stand up to bullies, even ones with hurt feelings.