Savage Love Episode 262

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I love Lucy!

Great guest.

HaroldZoid on October 25, 2011 at 5:17 AM

Where did you find her? In the Sky, with Diamonds? (And why didn't she tell Linus she was going to kill the pumpkin??)

LML on October 25, 2011 at 6:46 AM

for the dudes looking for a stripper for the bachelor party:
Have they considered finding a burlesque dancer or going to a burlesque show? It's much classier and still sexy.

dmzzz on October 25, 2011 at 6:53 AM

There appear to be editing issues in this episode: The first several words spoken by Dan are obscured by the theme music. Also, in several places there is a gap between when Dan finishes speaking and when the next call begins, and then Dan's voice can be heard before the call is finished.

mynameistaken on October 25, 2011 at 7:19 AM

Lucy is great. I hope she comes back!

on October 25, 2011 at 7:24 AM

@dmzzz no one likes burlesque; only people who think they're too good for proper strippers and/or have too many fat friends.

as for "how to act" w/ strippers - It should be fun for everyone. whoop and holler. throw dollar bills in the air [by the way - you're budget includes like $200 in 1's, right?]. Don't stare. The strippers job is to make you want (pay) them; your job is to pretend like you want them and to do things that you wouldn't tell your wife, but if she found out, it wouldn't be too big a deal.

fetish on October 25, 2011 at 10:33 AM

Lucy has SUCH a cute voice and laugh. We want more Lucy!

UmJammerLammerz on October 25, 2011 at 11:10 AM

THANK YOU for airing this first call!! I just had to tell a friend of mine to quit talking to me about the ass she was screwing that she fully expected to treat her like they were boyfriend/girlfriend. She isn't speaking to me at the moment, which wouldn't be a problem except she's a coworker. She will get over it. Or not. I did the right thing! Yay!! Thanks Lucy!

freewoman121203 on October 25, 2011 at 11:52 AM

Dan, In a recent column you advised a woman not to put quotes around the word "wife", because it feeds into bigoted views that two women can't really be married. I think you made the equivalent mistake on this podcast when you prolonged pronunciation of the word huuuuusband when referring to Terry. You sound embarrassed to be using the word ... so If you feel that he's your husband, be proud of it.

Nancy S on October 25, 2011 at 12:32 PM

I was listening to this show, and for a moment I thought it was Howard Stern and whatever his friend's name is.

Here is a transcript of Lucy's lines:
========
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Hahaha!"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Hahaha!"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Hahaha!"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Uh huh"
"Hahaha!"

Call me a mean-ass internet troll, but I'm not sold on this corporate floozy.

on October 25, 2011 at 12:33 PM

This was the most disappointing podcast ever. Lucy's laugh was like nails on a chalkboard. I look forward to listening to Dan and his sexy voice, not some groupie's inane comments. Could not get to the end - hope she never is back.

Gabby Rick on October 25, 2011 at 1:33 PM

Re Strippers:
A friend of mine recently got an in home stripper for a party. Having had that experience I would hesitate to hire an inexperienced dancer. Part of what the dancer did was put everyone at ease and really provide some entertainment (while being naked.) The other part of what she did was try to get tips.

Also, the dancer who visited her apartment brought with her a dancer "in training." So it is clearly not just something you jump into.

Since you are in Missouri you might consider a road trip to east St. Louis. There are a number of clubs just across the state lines there. Hotel rooms in St. Louis are not too expensive (I live in Chicago though, for perspective.)

on October 25, 2011 at 2:39 PM

I liked Lucy! She was funny and sassy, but I have to agree her voice seemed so much louder and shrill and up in my earhole than Dan's voice. It was also cute to notice (in my personal estimation) a change in Dan's deamenor around her. Was it just me, or did he sound faggier and like he was sitting on a shag carpet in pajamas braiding Lucy's hair? And I mean that in the most positive way! hahaha!
I thought they went a little phobic and over the top about the skidmark thing.
ps. Dan, how could your PA not be a Lovecast fan!? Hire me! I will not wash your underwear, though.

bella28 on October 25, 2011 at 3:09 PM

I'm not a stripper but I have spent many hours staring at them and dying a little bit inside -- at bachelor parties, semi-private traveling events, and full-on strip clubs. IMO bachelor parties are in the realm of "advanced stripping" and are no place for a beginner. The girl needs to show up with a bodyguard she knows and trusts, and set of music she knows, a well-rehearsed performance routine, and her own personal limits firmly in her own mind and in the mind of her "escort." In the absence of these things, a scene with a friend of a friend could turn into the awkward eighth-grade dance that Lucy describes, or an even more awkward drunken gang-rape.

skoobie on October 25, 2011 at 7:45 PM

Great response to the "Bent" guy (please let's do everything possible to stop that term being used, we already have Bi/Pan/Omni/Queer which all mean basically the same thing, we don't need another term)
I think my advice would be a little different if he wasn't in a LTR right now.

Troy from IN on October 25, 2011 at 8:45 PM

Lucy is awesome, funny as hell.

soul13 on October 25, 2011 at 9:55 PM

I love Lucy! The guest, also Ball. But the guest especially - she was a delight :)

Solid advice all around...I think the skid mark thing wasn't the worst thing in the world. Sometimes you aren't at home and the toilet paper in a public toilet just doesn't do the full job...shit happens (ugh, I did it again. Sorry). Though on the flip side, if it's leaving giant skid marks, maybe he didn't wipe at all, and THAT'S a problem.

bripatrick on October 25, 2011 at 10:05 PM

Lucy was amazing!!!!!!! You have to have her on more!!! She has a ton of great information! YOU NEED TO HAVE HER BACK ON! :)

on October 25, 2011 at 10:10 PM

Hi Dan! You made an offhand comment about how you found it hard to believe that Lucy could have been in an abusive relationship for so long because she's so smart and put together. I used to have the same assumptions until I read this awesome and thought-provoking piece on Feministe about feminism and abuse called "I Can Handle It." It's a great read and you should check it out: http://www.feministe.us/blog/archives/20…

daftgiraffe on October 25, 2011 at 10:31 PM

I adore Lucy, but more accurately, I adored Dan's response to her. The chemistry between them was great.
I can understand why some people are reacting negatively to her, with her reactions often being "uh-huh"ing and laughing. But when she did speak, about skid marks, banter with Dan, about her previous bad relationship - she was interesting and funny.
I would like to point out that she is not a rehearsed guest, not a speaker, not an expert, not someone prepared to offer advice, so of course she isn't going to say as much as Dan. She was brought on to be a reaction-center, a sounding-board for Dan. And she did great at that.
I would love to have Lucy as a guest again. She was fun, but more importantly, she made the podcast fun for Dan. You could tell. :)

TickledPurple on October 25, 2011 at 10:58 PM

I enjoyed this week's podcast....Lucy sounds like an awesome chick. I need a wife like her. (Just kidding, I'm as gay as the locker room at the Ice Capades)
The one thought that I wanted to add atop my mountain of praise, would be for the guy with the tainted couch; perhaps...who knows? but perhaps his trick is into scat. There ARE men who get off on such shit. His otherwise awesome trick might just have left a "calling card" to suggest that their next date might involve a game of Scategorries.

TampaDink on October 26, 2011 at 12:09 AM

I liked Lucy quite a lot, I'd be okay with her coming back!
Also wanted to say that the friend amateur stripper thing is a TERRIBLE IDEA. Any idiot can see how it ends: excruciating awkwardness and bad feelings all around AT BEST.

argyle on October 26, 2011 at 2:38 AM

@7 - I noticed the same thing as well. It's as if Dan's entire recording was about 3 seconds off from the rest of the podcast.

on October 26, 2011 at 5:32 AM

Lucy was a great guest! She worked so well because of their strong chemistry and what she brought out of Dan. He seemed more relaxed and it was like listening to two good friends bantering. Plus she was pretty funny. BRING YOUR WIFE BACK ON SOON, DAN.

And thanks for the link #19, that was a really thought provoking article..

As for the "bent"...oh, who am I kidding- the guy's pan/bi! Those terms define him perfectly, the LGBTLMNOP does not need another irrelevant letter. Anyway, I understand his rationalization of why he doesn't need to 'come out' to the rest of his family, but really, his rationalization has nothing to do with why he hasn't. The real reason is solely because he doesn't like the prospect of the awkward conversation with the family and, as Dan brilliantly lampooned, part of it is because of the link straight= default, all relationships, while gay= sex. And NO ONE likes talking about sex with their extended family. Maybe if he thought of telling them about his orientation as telling them about who may become the most important person in his life, it might be slightly less awkward. But that conversation is always going to be awkward. And it's something that has to be done. The only way is to suck it up and get it over with.

on October 26, 2011 at 7:23 AM

Oh god no more fucking Lucy. Dan doesn't need someone laughing at his jokes, echoing his advice, and saying uh huh at the end of every sentence.

bliffer on October 26, 2011 at 9:19 AM

I liked Lucy!

royskeen on October 26, 2011 at 9:35 AM

Just wanted to add my voice to the "I Love Lucy" team. Don't mind the others, Haters Gonna Hate.

commisaro on October 26, 2011 at 10:21 AM

I'm not a hater, I just did not enjoy Lucy. Well, I hated Lucy, but I'm still not a hater; she's seems like a very nice person. However, I'd rather not listen to an inexperienced 22 year old chime in on Dan's answers.

bliffer on October 26, 2011 at 10:33 AM

I liked Lucy a lot. I thought this was a lot of fun. Also, she did have her own opinions, and was not echoing Dan. Dan was the gentleman here, and was more echoing Lucy himself. He went very soft on the skidmarks and then adjusting his position when she was grossed out. She did the same thing with the guy in the open relationship, she was more adamant than Dan. I think we should give her credit, I would have been much more nervous sitting with Dan and taking calls from people. She was fun, had her own opinions, and was very sharp with her quick comments. And I love people that laugh and giggle a lot. That doesnt bother me. The podcast was not recorded in perfect conditions, that is true, but it is not really her fault. I love Lucy, I would like her back. This was so much fun.

Big hugs from a your #1 fan in Argentina.

XRodriguez on October 26, 2011 at 12:14 PM

Lucy sounds like a good person, with her own views on a number of topics. I liked the dynamics between her and Dan: doing duo shows may be a good idea, at least every now and then.

Her voice sounds eerily like Mistress Matisse's.

Ah, and I loved to hear her say, matter-of-factly, 'just sit on his face.' Ah!...

ankylosaur on October 26, 2011 at 12:47 PM

Dan, for all the claims of your supposed biphobia (and I don't ENTIRELY disagree with them), I have to say as a bi girl that you are doing a huge service to our community by putting these people who are looking for every excuse in the world to identify as something other than "bi" or "pan" in their place. In their desperate attempt to avoid all the bisexual stereotypes by coming up with their own special-snowflake terms, people like the "bent" dude are actually hurting bisexual visibility. Funny how it is that straight people and gay people seem to be fine with the labels the language has given them - it's only bisexuals who want to twist themselves into a pretzel to avoid the big bad B-word.

Whoop Di Doo on October 26, 2011 at 1:00 PM

Caught the _Little Shop of Horrors_ reference, Dan. My "Straight Dude" card is in the mail.

on October 26, 2011 at 2:22 PM

I'm not a hater. I just enjoy the podcast when Dan talks to the callers, or at least talks like he is addressing the callers directly. There was just too much time it sounded like he was talking and joking with Lucy. Didn't find that very interesting. I don't think Dan needs a sidekick. Very different when he has guest experts who have something to add the the answers.

Gabby Rick on October 26, 2011 at 2:24 PM

Holy crap, people. Stop encouraging this fucking sidekick bullshit.

Uh oh - I opened my big mouth and now the retaliatory posts will begin. Let me have it, Lucy's college friends.

on October 26, 2011 at 3:23 PM

Dan - re: the boyfriend who had trouble getting his dick up once in a while .... erectile dysfunction can be the 'canary in the coal mine' for heart disease. Sometimes it's about the blood flow and he should probably get his arteries checked, calcium scoring, whatever. If he is the 'alpha male', 'very manly' type of guy the caller suggests, he could also be shunning the veggies and eating one too many McHeartAttack specials. Erectile dysfunction should not just be pushed aside with some pat advice for her to shove her pussy in his face. There could be a larger health issue at hand.

DavidSavage on October 26, 2011 at 7:53 PM

Ooh! How about "bi-fauxbic"? :-D

John Horstman on October 27, 2011 at 8:48 AM

If that guy couldn't get it up most of the time, I'd suggest everything you said DavidSavage (#36). But if this is a every so often type of deal, it's pretty normal, and usually due to mental pressure to perform. Nothing to go get an entire cholesterol screening about.

bripatrick on October 27, 2011 at 1:02 PM

Dan: Lucy is a great addition to the show. She's funny, plays off you well, and sounds great. Make her a regular guest!

on October 27, 2011 at 3:28 PM

I'm in the process of listening to the podcast now, and the audio synchronization issues are really starting to get on my nerves after this second call....

jackdee on October 27, 2011 at 8:52 PM

@26 "Oh god no more fucking Lucy." Dan made it very clear that he is NOT fucking Lucy. Not that I would ever had suspected him ;)

LML on October 28, 2011 at 6:36 AM

I also enjoyed Lucy at the start, but was annoyed by the constant giggling. Also, she was an enabler, kinda the anti-tech savy ARY, in that she encouraged his divergences and made the program more about her rather than focusing Dan on the callers.

Bottom line: She seems nice, but please don't make her a regular.

NoOneSpecial on October 29, 2011 at 1:59 AM

More Lucy, please! She's funny and adorable, and it was really fun to hear Dan interact with her.

heinouslizard on October 29, 2011 at 8:00 AM

Please keep Lucy around for future shows, she was a great addition to the podcast! She has a great presence and her chemistry with Dan makes me wish I had a friend like her.

Soupersalad2000 on October 30, 2011 at 1:58 AM

I liked Lucy a lot, but I can see how people could be annoyed by the times she acted as a mere laugh track. Keep the laughing in check for the next time and perhaps less people will be rubbed the wrong way? My personal vote is definitely MORE LUCY.

Monarc on October 30, 2011 at 10:25 AM

Poopy. Keep a jug of water next to the toilet. Wipe. Rinse, using your hand (left hand has tradition). Wipe again to dry. Then wash your hands with soap very well. Cleanest ass in town!

on October 30, 2011 at 12:57 PM

No more Lucy - unless you put some fucking compression on her mic. Seriously. I didn't even mind her commentary or laughing, except for the fact that every time she laughed it sounded like a bomb was going off in my car. I literally had one hand on the volumen knob the entire time because Dan was soft-spoken and Lucy's laughing was like an ice pick straight to the brain. So I'm fine with Lucy coming back as long as you compress the hell out of her mic.

on October 30, 2011 at 2:38 PM

Damn, Internet people are really fucking mean. Lucy was not a "gigglepuss" she was laughing at Dan because he's funny and she was enjoying herself. When she did speak up, she had interesting and insightful things to say. As others have noted, she is not a rehearsed guest or an expert. I found her fresh and endearing. And I like her laugh. :-) Good job, Lucy.

on October 30, 2011 at 2:47 PM

Thanks for having Lucy on! This episode made me laugh out loud by myself in my car. I'm a long-time listener, and this episode is one of the best in recent memory. Have her back!

on October 30, 2011 at 6:50 PM

I have a hunch that Lucy fans will be rewarded, very soon...

mynameistaken on October 31, 2011 at 4:48 PM

I loved Lucy. Actually, by the 45th minute I was crushing pretty hard. Her voice is good, her laugh is infectuous--she sounds like....!!!...damn, can't place it--there was great chemistry between them.

repete on November 2, 2011 at 2:40 PM

Her laugh sounds like Marisa Tomei!!!

repete on November 2, 2011 at 2:41 PM

I love Lucy. She is fucking awesome. Her laugh is infectious she is super funny. As a gay man, she could be one of very few women I would consider going out on a date with. Keep up the good work you guys. ;)

on November 4, 2011 at 5:16 PM

Love your "wife."

ASX on November 5, 2011 at 9:38 AM

Wow. You have great chemistry with Lucy. I'd consider making her a permanent addition. You may have found your Robin Quivers.

quizoid on November 6, 2011 at 3:24 PM

Lucy was great!

evanne on November 13, 2011 at 9:50 PM

I too have found Lucy's bubbly personality and her genuine, infectious laughter absolutely adorable. And the fact that she so readily suggested to the woman with the ED hubby that she simply sit on his face was awesome. Make her a regular Dan!

on November 19, 2011 at 1:46 AM

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