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Sex (and Summertime) in the City
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That certainly could be the case, suddenlyorcas. But I'm a romantic at heart, so I'd like to believe they're genuinely happy.
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My experience has been overwhelmingly that straight men are near-silent in bed. Now, mind, I have had a few that were quite... expressive, but they are the rare ones and they always surprise me.
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Female sexual vocalization is a known thing, womenfolk tend to be louder and more vocal than menfolk during the sexing.
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Yelps floating out of open windows into the summer sunshine are one thing; headboards banging rhythmically against the other side of your wall at 2 a.m. are another.
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You'd make noise, too, if you were having something thrust into your body.
Also: I do wonder how much of this is cultural. I, um, may or may not have had lots of sex with Latin Americans in Latin America, and I, uh, may or may not have learned to be quiet, as the men seemed to find my, uh, "vocalizations" disquieting. And when you consider that I shared a wall with some pretty conservative neighbors - without even the benefit of a roof that met the walls - well, you know, maybe this is cultural.
Maybe gringo men need to feel like gods in bed, so we appease them.
Or maybe I shouldn't post comments when I'm well into my second glass of 8% beer.
Also: I do wonder how much of this is cultural. I, um, may or may not have had lots of sex with Latin Americans in Latin America, and I, uh, may or may not have learned to be quiet, as the men seemed to find my, uh, "vocalizations" disquieting. And when you consider that I shared a wall with some pretty conservative neighbors - without even the benefit of a roof that met the walls - well, you know, maybe this is cultural.
Maybe gringo men need to feel like gods in bed, so we appease them.
Or maybe I shouldn't post comments when I'm well into my second glass of 8% beer.
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No, I'm totally with you, Brendan. There's creepy prurient voyeurism - it's okay in its place but that place is at sex clubs in arranged consent-based scenes - and then there's the kind of passive enjoyment of other people's enjoyment that you're talking about. Maybe there's an erotic component, maybe it's still slightly prurient, but mostly it's just feel-good.
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What you're actually hearing is porn videos being viewed at high volume while men silently masturbate to them.
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I was gently tripping the other night on Queen Anne, sitting outside smoking a cigarette and listening to the neighbors across the street "vocalizing", when I saw the curtains fall directly on the guy's head. They didn't stop, and I laughed my ass off. It was partially pure slapstick funny and partially I was so happy for them to be having so much fun that mere drapery couldn't stop them.
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@9 - Because Capitol Hill is so GAY you can't differentiate the men from the women!! I get it!! Fucking hilarious!
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@18 Because we don't trust ourselves not to holler like a baboon. The neighbors might come running to see what happened.
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@18 - I masturbated a ton when I was growing up (don't most guys?) and because sex was shameful in my family, I learned very quickly to keep my enjoyment quiet.
Avenue Q teaches us that "You can be loud as the hell you want when you're makin' love" and that's the guidance I now follow on the subject.
Avenue Q teaches us that "You can be loud as the hell you want when you're makin' love" and that's the guidance I now follow on the subject.
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