how long would a society composed entirely of good homo folk last?
occupations and vocations are not innate biological traits.
(spoiler alert- genetic defects often occur as a consistent percentage of healthy members of a species....)
But many hetero men are similarly crummy husbands, or worse, because of their own particular demons.
Danny tries to pretend (and convince himself) that homosexuality is this stark innate unalterable trait.
It is a tendency but tendencies can be channeled and corralled.