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I think with so many of us dating for years (maybe decades if you are gay and can't marry) before marriage, the cheating/adultery distinction is kind of pointless.
Posted by wxPDX on December 14, 2012 at 10:01 AM · Report this
secretagent 6
Ummm... or maybe you could fuck one of the millions of women who aren't in a relationship, thus saving yourself the potential trouble and keeping your ethics? Also, in young, totally immature women, "I'm not over you" means "I'm not over being turned down". You're not really that special of a snowflake, or else she would have dumped the bf and been with you.

Doing the wrong thing - pay now, or pay later, you're eventually gonna have to pay.
Posted by secretagent on December 14, 2012 at 10:15 AM · Report this
But there's also the fact that she didn't take his NO seriously and pursued him when drunk. That's sketchy behavior.
Posted by darkbluecaravan on December 14, 2012 at 10:22 AM · Report this
geoz 9
Given this was 2008, I'd love to see an update.
Posted by geoz on December 14, 2012 at 10:30 AM · Report this
I think Dan's basically right. There's one other factor to consider though, and that's the "crazy" factor. And just to be clear I'm not saying "Oh, all womenfolk are crazy" just that there are people who are crazy enough to use things like cheating to gain power over other people. Maybe her b/f is the insanely jealous type who may become violent (towards you) if he were to discover her cheating. She lets this slip to you after you've done the deed, and now she has that hanging over your head.
The above example was the situation a friend of mine found himself in, and while such things can be long shots they do happen. Check to see if she has some screws loose before you hop into bed with her.
Posted by MarquisDesMoines on December 14, 2012 at 10:42 AM · Report this
You guys are crazy. If it's wrong for her to cheat on her boyfriend, why are we endorsing that this guy help her do that?

He can fuck anyone. He should stay away from the crazy one.
Posted by Lauchlin on December 14, 2012 at 10:54 AM · Report this
I agree with Lauchlin. We can argue over whether helping someone cheat is okay or not (I lean toward not) but I think we can all agree that putting it in crazy is a bad idea. You never know what crazy will do next.
Posted by mran on December 14, 2012 at 11:06 AM · Report this
Shame on you, Dan. Women who sleep around are not whores. Is all the slut-shaming and misogynistic language really necessary?
Posted by msmave on December 14, 2012 at 11:32 AM · Report this
urn 15
@10 YES. THIS.

Been there, done that, and the crazy one kept saying all kinds of things like "it'd be a shame if anyone found out."

The regret from not participating in her cheating will be significantly less than any regrets that are possible if you do. Plenty of fish and all that. Move on, dude.
Posted by urn on December 14, 2012 at 11:32 AM · Report this
It's a good way to get your face rearranged by her boyfriend. This may be something she does to get attention from him, make him jealous by going after other men, having men fight over her to boost her self-esteem.
Posted by choppermark on December 14, 2012 at 11:37 AM · Report this
venomlash 19
@14: She's going behind her boyfriend's back to try and get with other guys. That's not okay in most circumstances.
Posted by venomlash on December 14, 2012 at 1:51 PM · Report this
Bonefish 20
7, 10: Exactly. If it's not a problem that she'd be cheating with you, it should be a problem that she just won't leave you the fuck alone and respect the answer you gave the first two times.

People like this tend to get worse, not better, after you've slept with them. Fuck somebody else.
Posted by Bonefish on December 14, 2012 at 6:33 PM · Report this
John Horstman 22
Wow, how was this not setting off more potential-stalker/rapist alarm bells, Dan? Plying someone who's intoxicated for sex after they've already said no and looking them up to continue to proposition them after moving far away are red-flag behaviors.
Posted by John Horstman on December 15, 2012 at 9:45 PM · Report this

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