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SL Letter of the Day: Where Do I Meet Young Kinksters?
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Dan--
You're always in L.A. and have never done an open event... Not a slog-happy, not a live Savage Love, nada.
The reason everyone is being boring is that developing entertainment puts you in contact with professionally bland people. I think your readers would be less boring.
You're always in L.A. and have never done an open event... Not a slog-happy, not a live Savage Love, nada.
The reason everyone is being boring is that developing entertainment puts you in contact with professionally bland people. I think your readers would be less boring.
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No, wait-- there was that cable TV filming in Glendale 4 years back or so. Waited in 103 degree heat for an hour and got screamed at by a 3rd-rate stand up "comic" before seeing you on stage. Your bit was fun, but it doesn't really count as a social event, as there was no mixing, even between readers....
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As a 21 yo, male, bi (okay, I haven't slept with a girl since I was 19 - so, gay) kinkster, Recon is absolutely the place to look. The downside is that the vast majority of the guys on it are old - or at least, far older than me. First off, I recommend not knocking people off just because they're old - when I was 19, I spent 10 months getting tied up by a 52 year old dom who knew exactly what he was doing - it was awesome.
However, if old guys don't get you off no matter what, then just go through Grindr, Adam4Adam, or manhunt and hit on as many young guys you find attractive as possible. A lot more of them are into kink than you might think - and many of them don't even know it yet. Two of my best, most recent subs (including one who's currently my slave), I met on Grindr - and neither of them knew how much fun kink was until they jumped in my bed.
In short - shotgun theory it.
However, if old guys don't get you off no matter what, then just go through Grindr, Adam4Adam, or manhunt and hit on as many young guys you find attractive as possible. A lot more of them are into kink than you might think - and many of them don't even know it yet. Two of my best, most recent subs (including one who's currently my slave), I met on Grindr - and neither of them knew how much fun kink was until they jumped in my bed.
In short - shotgun theory it.
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Fetlife.com in invaluable as a place to discuss kink. It's designed not to facilitate hookups they do happen. While is it dominated by straights, gay guys have our groups there. Start with the Gay Male BDSM Mentoring group.
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There are probably a lot of people who may disagree with me, but it might be worth making an okcupid profile. A LOT of the match questions on sexuality have a BDSM bent. Besides asking people straight out whether they're kinky, they ask people particulars about what might might turn them on. Some of the questions might also help the LW find people who have kinky tendencies but might not be part of that community yet. For example, one of the questions is, "Would it excite you to get slapped across the face?"
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Fetlife is great. I also know people who have had success with OKCupid so that's a good idea too.
You might want to look for TNG groups (at least that's what they're usually called around here) - it stands for The Next Generation and they generally cater to the 18-35 range.
You might want to look for TNG groups (at least that's what they're usually called around here) - it stands for The Next Generation and they generally cater to the 18-35 range.
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@8: This is true; although latex and whips aren't my personal thing, I could imagine accepting if Sir Patrick offered to wine and dine me and take me back to his place...
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