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Readers Respond to Dan's Advice to NUMB
I was curious about the letter from the girl who said her boyfriends face goes numb my boyfriend has a similar reaction when he comes from oral sex. Sometimes it is just a tingly "pins and needles" feeling in which his eyelids flutter and all his muscles contract involuntarily while other times he says its so intense he cant move his hands because his fingers are paralyzed. I used to smoke but quit a few months ago and my boyfriend still gets temporarily paralyzed pretty often when he comes from oral sex, so obviously it has nothing to do with smoking. My question is, what the heck is causing it? He told me he likes it so I wasnt too concerned do I need to be?
Can Numbness Be Normal?
I read the letter from Not Underestimating My Blowjobs in this weeks column. I have experienced similar sensationsalthough I might add that my girlfriend does not smoke, thank God. When she gives me head for prolonged periods I also find my face starting to tingle and go slightly numb. The longer she goes at it the more it tingles and the more numb I become. So that probably debunks the nicotine hypothesis.
Numb in Norway
With regard to NUMBs boyfriends reaction to her blowjobs: HIS THEORY IS COMPLETELY WRONG. Im not a smoker, and I dont date smokers (Ive tried, but the cigarette breath, yuck!), and I get the same exact sensation when I get blownto be exact, whenever I get blown REALLY well. It starts as a tingling sensation, and as the intensity increases so does the tingling until my face goes all numb, similar to the way that your leg falls asleep, but way better.
If anything, she should be proud. NUMB seems to have one hell of a jaw, and she deserves some flowers! Or equally dedicated cunnilingus!
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Regarding the guy whose face goes numb while his partner is giving him head; hes just hyperventilating. Its got nothing to do with absorbing nicotine from his partners salivasheesh. Hes just breathing too hard, or rather just perfectly, since he likes the sensation. It used to happen to me all the time in mysighyouth. Only for me it wasnt just the face but my arms right down to my fingertips. Mind blowing. Really.
Numb No More
When I run hard or otherwise exercise to the point that Im having trouble keeping my oxygen level up, my face is the first thing to go numb. Ive had similar experiences breathing hard while getting a blowjob. The only girlfriend who has been able to do that to me was a smoker, but probably had about one cigarette every two weeks so I dont think it was the nicotine. NUMBs boyfriend is probably just hyperventilating more with her than hes used to. I found it was a lot of funhope he does too!
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As a physician and strong advocate of fellatio, I think it is very likely that NUMBs partner is getting a "numb" face while on the receiving end of NUMBs oral attention because he is hyperventilating (presumably due to the enjoyment) and thus making the blood flow to his brain decrease (by making his blood CO2 level drop and his cerebral arteries contract). Ive experienced this myself, and with nonsmoking partners. That said, I still wouldnt stick my cock in an ashtray if I were him.
I had a partner a couple of years ago who would give me head which resulted in my lips, cheeks, and even hands becoming totally numb. Besides the fact that my partner was a nonsmoker you might want to mention to NUMB that the penis is not "permeable" in the way that she implied. If it were, drug users everywhere would have been dipping their junk into things hundreds of years ago! But thats not the case.
Why did I go numb? Because I was breathing too damn hard, simple as that. It was just a case of mild, sexually induced hyperventilation. Id be willing to bet money that the nonsmoking boyfriend in question is a heavy breather too, and if these blowjobs lasted much longer or got much better, hed up and pass out.
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