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Feb 22 dave1976 commented on Apple vs USA: What's the Real Issue?.
@8, uh, no. Even if they're just like assholes, we're all entitled to them (except for that poor kid who had his ripped out while jerking off and sitting on a pool drain. Definitely lost his right to an asshole). My lack of coding skills doesn't negate that right.

Anyway, I was flopping between the two sides in this debate...but I'm leaning towards Apple now (my initial opinion was that Apple saw a very juicy pr opportunity to repair some of its privacy failings, and I may still feel that way).

That said, I've since learned that the Feds simply fucked up and accidentally changed the password on the phone and/or cloud account. Now they want Apple to pick up the ball and mend their fuck up. To that I say fuck no. If you can't manage a competent investigation, deal with it; and don't go fucking with my security to cover up your faults.
Feb 15 dave1976 commented on The Walking Dead Recap: The Convenient Rocket Launcher.
@1, stupidity is pretty much a necessary trope of the zombie genre. The fact is that zombies are pretty easy to deal with, with a modicum of intelligence (at least the zombie of TWD universe). However if characters started using their brains for something other than zombie chow, the zombie survivalist genre would be pretty boring.

All of that bring said, I have to admit that the walking dead, even though I still love it, has painted itself into a corner, and it doesn't really feel like there's much it can do that isn't a rehash of other storylines.

I've really come around to Z Nation though. I love it's b movie approach to the genre. If you're gonna be implausible, at least make it funny.
Feb 10 dave1976 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Using "Crazy" Like That Is So Gay, Dan, And Pretty Lame.
And here I thought she was going to critique the use of "crazy" as a misogynistic word to describe women who get attached after men sleep with them, and then don't return their texts/calls/dm's/whatever-can-and-string the kids are using these days.

Have we moved beyond that? Would that critique itself be considered paternalistic, since it assumes that women need an emotional attachment to go with their sex?

Don't get me wrong, I do think that political correctness overall is a good thing....but sometimes it gets tough keeping up with all the outrage.
Feb 2 dave1976 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Crying Game.
@41, like at @43 said, nothing the lw said gives any indication that he's a pedophile. But a conservative judge may not be so nuanced when it comes to distinguishing between a safe adult fetish (even if I'm personally a little squicked out); and activity that legitimately poses a danger to kids.

Now, if she legitimately believes that he could be a danger to the kids (she did mention that he threatened to take his life)...then by all means run into court and waive those emails.

However, my only point was don't be vindictive just to be vindictive. She should think about what she wants first (and/or what's best for her kids); and if she wants a divorce, then talk to a lawyer about the best way of achieving those results.
Feb 2 dave1976 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Crying Game.
Yes, the guy is an a selfish as whole, dtmfa, and, imo, this is a fetish too far in the context of having all the already diapered young kids around the house.

That said, if she chooses divorce, she should be very careful about using this fetish as leverage against her husband in any divorce proceeding. I think every state has a no-fault rule when it comes to marital assets; and who knows if they even have enough assets make it even worth it.

So, the fetish stuff may only come into play with respect to parental custody....but be careful what you ask for. Does she really want sole custody? Being a newly divorced single mom with three kids (including a newborn) means she will have virtually no social life for years...if she has sole custody.

The best punishment, er joint parenting plan, might actually be making sure he gets the little rugrats every Friday to Sunday so she can start moving on with her life.

Divorce is one of those things where your first inclination is scorched earth, and that sentiment is certainly understandable in this case. But it's almost always healthier to think of the long game.
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Jan 19 dave1976 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: How Can I Unscrew This Screwed Pooch?.
For all the people saying he needs to take time, repair himself, you're a trainwreck, etc....the LW already admitted that he was not good boyfriend material at the time of the breakup, that he needed time, and now that time has passed and he's ready to get back out there.

Granted, we don't know if that amount of time is measured in weeks, months or years...but the tone of letter seems to indicate that enough time has passed (or at least it's getting pretty close). Anyway, he sounds pretty self aware, and far from a "train wreck" imo.

Sure he screwed up, but nothing unforgiveable, and he's owning his mistakes and seeking advice on how to move on.

So I guess this is a long winded way of saying Dan's advice was spot on, and the LW should ignore most of the comments thus far.
Jan 18 dave1976 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Pay to Lay?.
@4, for all of your semantic sleuthery, did you ever consider that "irregular" is referring to the frequency of the encounters, not the fwbs?
Dec 25, 2015 dave1976 commented on Taking the Christ Out of Christmas.
@22, perhaps "indoctrination" was the wrong word, but I think you missed the point of my post. The author is a public figure writing about atheism and the war on Christmas (relatively controversial topics), and now she has dragged her 8 year into a public forum and public debate. Regardless of what side of the debate you're on, I don't thing that's fair to children.

There's also a tone of elitism and condescension to this tactic that I find really off putting. Whenever I see this done, the message I receive is "my child is only x years old, and even he can see that (insert controversy of the week) is the right path....if you as an adult can't see that, well you must be an idiot". Hollywood also loves this false trope: the idea that kids are simply smarter than adults.

I havea 7 year old son. Sure, sometimes he says things that I find utterly brilliant and astounding. Then he misspells "may" on his spelling test.

At that age, they're works in progress, and despite their moments of brilliance, they're also generally idiots.

Anyway, this is getting to be tl;dr. Basic point: while we all want our kids to share our core beliefs, let them bake until they're at least in their teens and don't make them the subject of your controversial/public displays.
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Dec 23, 2015 dave1976 commented on Taking the Christ Out of Christmas.
First, just so my bona fides can't be questioned in making this comment: I was raised Jewish; I'm pretty much somewhere between agnostic and atheist at this point (but I still celebrate some holidays to make my mom happy. The only thing more boring than church, is church/temple in a language you can't speak); and my political leanings are relatively far to the left.

All of that being said, I despise when parents publicly drag their too-young kids into political/social/religious issues...and that's exactly what this article does. I hate when parents have their kids hold up signs of aborted fetuses; and I hate when precious little young'uns march in support of liberal causes (although I do think there's an exception for LGBT issues, simply because it's important for the public to see that family issues are involved).

It's simply not fair to the kids considering they're often to young to have made any rational decision on the matter. Maybe the author's precocious little one is the exception and he really has firmly made up his mind on the existence of god...but how about you spare him the public indoctrination into atheism just in case he changes his mind during the next 10 years.
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Dec 10, 2015 dave1976 commented on I Can't Believe People Tell Sex Workers to "Go to the Police" If They've Been Raped.
@7, this is strictly my anecdotal observation, but here's the problem as I see it: something like 3% of sexual assaults result in a conviction, which is obviously horrible, a direct symptom of rape culture, and at least partially attributable to the misperception that women make up rapes...and it's this that's very problematic.

The reality is that a small percentage of reported rapes are false and/or fraudulent. Unfortunately, it's these false reports that get much of the press. Maybe it's because these accounts are so sensationalized (i.e. the UVA frat case); and/or maybe it's because celebrities are more susceptible to false rape allegations because of their fame/wealth...and thus get more press

Regardless, the false reports taint the legitimate claims of everyone else...and I don't know what the answer to that is, except to change the culture so that the gut response is to believe woman upon initial report, and not do the "innocent until proven guilty" slut shaming routine.