Sep 3, 2014 Dirk7 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hate the Game.
@42 people play this 'game' every night at bars everywhere. They've just gotten a little smoother in their delivery (hopefully). Same goes for colleges. Or online dating.
Sep 3, 2014 Dirk7 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Hate the Game.
I can totally see how this would become a thing in a group of teens that are starting to explore their sexuality. It sounds like a convenient way to express desire for another person while having a ready made escape plan to avoid rejection.

A: "I want to have sex with you"
A: "haha just joking"
B: "haha you're such a joker"

A: "I want to have sex with you"
C: "oh yeah?"
A: ".... maybe... not joking?"
C: "lets talk about this more..."

I assume pretty much everyone in the situation is not telling the whole story but on the face of it it seems like someone who was not emotionally ready for such a 'game' was drawn into it and reacted poorly. The lw child reacted as they normally would by trying to laugh it off but the other child treated it seriously and after telling her parents about it the situation apparently became worse.

So conservative parents freak out about a semi serious proposition and probably further traumatize their child rather than teaching them how to cope with propositions and rejecting advances. LW and their child have doubtlessly learned that there can be serious consequences to any expression of feelings and such things should not be taken so lightly.

I don't understand how an apology would not already have been made judging by the letter "the girl's father expressed his displeasure, and my daughter avoided the girl the rest of the time we were with this family" How could you possibly have that conversation without an apology being offered?

Was the advance inappropriate? Hard to say from the details given. Obviously it was unwanted judging by the reaction. But you can't find out that someone isn't interested until you express an interest in them. If there was actual bullying or power dynamics involved (ie babysitting type situation) then it would be inappropriate but we have no evidence of that being the case.
Nov 22, 2013 Dirk7 commented on Vancouver Bans Doorknobs in New Housing.
Relying on your knob type to contain children/pets/raptors seems short sighted.
Sep 24, 2013 Dirk7 commented on What Do You Think of Charles Bukowski Starring in a Scotch Ad?.
Need more good epic poetry and authentic fucking feeling in culture. If it takes a liquor ad, or a jeans ad (Walt Whitman / Levis) to do it then fine.
Sep 3, 2013 Dirk7 commented on Airline Customer Explores Depths of Pettiness.
Why do they get away with "We'd love to help you what is your number/name/id etc" Do they have so many unresolved complaints that they have no hope of tracking it down without a number? And if so.... why are they so bad at their business?
Jul 30, 2013 Dirk7 commented on Julian Assange on the Bradley Manning Verdict.
I think that 95% of what any government does should be publicly accessible. Keeping things you do secret from your supposed bosses should require extraordinary reasons.
Jul 29, 2013 Dirk7 commented on The Monday Morning News.
How much does it cost to deploy 1200 firefighters? How much are those 69 homes worth?

Forests need to burn, its what they do, the longer you keep them from burning the worse the fire is. Can we please start managing forests responsibly with controlled burns.
Jul 24, 2013 Dirk7 commented on Another View on Upward Mobility: It's All Downhill from Here.
Modern capitalism would not be able to handle a world of stagnant growth. Without constant growth the whole system will fall apart. I'm surprised Mudede hasn't commented on this.
Jul 23, 2013 Dirk7 commented on Rave Fail.
In other words...

STOP LIKING WHAT I DON'T LIKE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11111!!!1one!!one!11!!eleven
May 31, 2013 Dirk7 commented on Lindy West vs. Jim Norton: Are Rape Jokes Okay?.
Jim Norton destroys his own side when he mentions that comedy is about speaking truth to power. Rape victims have no power. Making jokes at their expense is not only offensive it is bad comedy. If you want to make good comedy about rape it should start with being at the expense of the rapist(s) and their enablers.

So, yes a joke involving a rape situation could potentially be 'okay' but it certainly is more of a minefield than say... how many Starbucks' are in Seattle.