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Sep 7 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The End of the Kinky Affair.
The Madonna/Whore answer seemed most likely to me, but I'm not inside the H's head. So print out Dan's list, including the CPOS choice, put it in front of the H and tell him, "You got 3 minutes to read this list and another minute to circle your answer(s). If you can't find enough spine to manage that in the next 240 seconds, you don't have the strength of character for a long-term marriage and far less than is needed to raise a child!"

@10 raises a good point, and while some people can work through a M/W complex, it ain't this guy. He isn't self-aware nor in sufficient control of his emotions or actions to manage that rewiring job.

So W needs to look at his answer and make up her own mind if it's a price of admission she's willing to pay.
Sep 7 DAVIDinKENAI commented on The Election Is Tightening—Don't Waste Your Vote.
@7, @8, @9: If the only goal is "not President Trump", then, yeah, that logic holds.

Could we aim higher and aspire for such a resounding defeat of Trump that other politicians (perhaps with a little more sophistication and inner filter) wouldn't try such demagoguing in the future?
Sep 7 DAVIDinKENAI commented on The Election Is Tightening—Don't Waste Your Vote.
What scares me is that fewer people will tell a pollster "I'm voting for the racist" than will ink in the bubble for the racist in the secrecy of the voting booth. So Trump will get a bump up from the polling numbers on election day.
Sep 7 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Give a Dog a Chance.
@20: For whatever reason, my mind went to German Shepard. An apparently very desirable shepard who was scoring with lots of girls. Dog-fucker / fake letter / I'm-missing-something were all swirling around in my head for way too many paragraphs. I'd like to claim I figured it out before the dog was sending a text, but. . .
Sep 2 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Large Earthquake Off Coast of New Zealand.
@11, treacle: "we don't have disasters often enough"

Agreed. To which I'll add that among transient populations, there's no oral history about disasters in the recent past. As a 5G SFer, I grew up hearing my grandmother's stories of 1906. Their wooden house in the Sunset District was undamaged, but, children at the time, they watched downtown burn for 3 days and nights. And the relatives from downtown came out to live with them "in the country".

My own children and I were woken up by a 7.1 this January, and in the minutes and hours afterwards, two adjacent houses exploded and two more burning down from the natural-gas-fueled fires. Add to that the various times our only highway access has been cut off by floods or avalanches and there gets to be some common local practices:

In winter, everyone travels with food, water, warm clothes, snow shovel, boots and gloves in their trunk and never lets their gas tank get low.

If there's a car stopped by the road in possible distress, you check to see if they need help.

Most people have emergency supplies in a second structure (garage, shed, cabin) in case they have to evacuate the main house in sub-zero weather (low indoor humidity in Winter makes houses and their contents more flammable).
Aug 25 DAVIDinKENAI commented on A Feel Bad Story in Disguise: Two Florida Hospitals Won't Bill Orlando Pulse Shooting Victims.
@3: sarcasm. It's a thing.

Regarding a less morbid and lethal area of charitable giving: If you're going to donate after some iconic natural disaster (currently, the Louisiana floods but Sandy, Katrina, etc) by writing a check to the Red Cross or another relief organization, please make it an undirected donation.

If you write "Louisiana flood" on your check, then they HAVE to spend it on that, even if that disaster is over-funded with donors. But single-family house and apartment fires cost them more in most years than big disasters do - essentially no one donates for those smaller-scale, far-more-numerous events.
Aug 23 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: One and Done?.
Maybe @14 is right, and the LW is disgusted by the idea, but I didn't read that into the letter. I get more being-in-charge, won't-do-anything-I-don't-benefit-from in the letter.

She asked if there was anything the BF secretly wanted to try, and the FIRST thing she wants to do is shut down the possibly of it happening more than once?!? Versus, oh say, trying it first? Or negotiating pee role-playing without the actual pee or using a runner's hydration bladder full of fake pee (warm Coors?)?

How likely is he to ever roll out any of his kinks or desires in the future? @16 is right - a half-hearted, feeble "one and done" is not going to satisfy the dude over the years to come. So the years to come won't come.

1/DTMFA (the reciprocal of DTMFA = BF should dump her). Unless she was lamely fishing around for her own kink to offered up by the BF and is unconsciously pissed (pun intended) at him for not sharing her undisclosed interests. Then she needs to ovary-up and confess her desires.
Aug 23 DAVIDinKENAI commented on SL Letter of the Day: Asexuality-It's a Thing..
@2: Yeah, I had a vibe of that, too. And therefore would replace Dan's advice of, "Keep listening to your daughter" with "believe your daughter about her own (a)sexuality, let it be HER (a)sexuality, don't initiate discussions about it, don't put lots of energy into researching it, and just let your 18-YEAR-OLD, ADULT daughter be herself, a lot more BY herself than she has been.
Aug 17 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexy Business Tips.
And +1 x2 on @5's comments.

If you don't have retail experience, get it.

And since many people prefer to shop on line for stigmatized items, how can you (1) satisfy immediate, local needs, (2) make your brick&mortar store a fun date for an established couple or (3) a place to meet someone? I thought a high-end grocery store hosting a Single's Night was brilliant because it cost them nothing and the customers would buy many profitable items to impress potential partners.
Aug 17 DAVIDinKENAI commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexy Business Tips.
Find a sex-positive CPA.