commented on Savage Love Episode 328
I worry that someday I'll end up in the same situation as the caller with the overweight bf. Between school, working part-time, and a sick parent on the other side of the country, he has a lot of stress that's affecting his libido, so I'm hopeful that things will improve once his schedule is a little lighter. But he also struggles with his weight even though I tell him he's sexy as hell (and most of my friends agree).
I also agree with the person that said he violated the rules by telling his partner about his encounter. But I'm also annoyed that someone would consent to opening a relationship and then get upset that his partner had the gall to follow through with it.
@14 Not be a dick, what are you waiting for? Four years is a long time to avoid confronting an issue that's obviously taking a toll on you and your partner. It's nearly half the time you've been together. Why not consult a therapist?
Sep 12, 2012
commented on Savage Love Episode 307
Re: sex bots, I find the image of an eager old man being first in line to order his belching, morbidly obese fembot incredibly hilarious.
Jul 12, 2012
commented on Savage Love Episode 299
Gay guy here and I once hooked up with a bi guy who liked me to bite his cock. He'd be limp while I'm blowing him but once I gave it a little bite he'd get hard in no time flat.
Jun 14, 2012
commented on Savage Love Episode 295
I'm glad Dan mentioned that gay guys don't necessarily like dick pics either. Dicks for the most part look gross to me. The only reason I'd look at someone's is either we're in the midst of getting it on or its size noteworthy. The latter wouldn't elicit a reaction beyond "Impressive"
Jan 30, 2012
commented on If I'm a Transphobic Bigot...
Another transphobic bigot? This is a silly question, Michael Richards and Mel Gibson can't post a video of David Duke to combat accusations of racism.
(I actually don't think Dan is a transphobic bigot, I just find the argument he's making fallacious)
Oct 5, 2011
commented on Savage Love Episode 259
I got gynecomastia surgery in July, so today's podcast was very relevant. As a gay guy who tries to stay in shape, it frustrated me to no end that guys much heavier than me had flatter chests. I didn't even realize that you could be really skinny and still have man boobs until recently. I'm 5'11, 185 lbs so I always thought that if I lost 10 more lbs the boobs would go away.
My doctor's actually doing the surgery in two passes. He said if he removed too much fat and breast tissue in the first procedure it would leave the chest with a "deflated" look. Dr. Law suggested doing an initial surgery in which he removed most of the fat and breast tissue, then, after letting the skin tighten back up (9-12 months), he would perform a second surgery to remove the rest.
I had the first surgery two months ago and honestly I don't see why he couldn't have removed all of it in one swoop. Right now the only difference I see is that it doesn't looks like I have boobs when my nipples are soft. The first surgery cost $4900 and the second costs $1800, which is still in the typical range for the gyne surgery, so it's not like he's trying to squeeze extra money out of me.
I still have scarring around my nipples but I still have some sensation there. YMMV. Finally, check out gynecomastia.org. Their forums have a lot of people sharing their own personal experience and some doctors answer questions there as well. Best of luck!