Sep 28, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Face Sitting
I just hope they remember to accommodate his ability to breathe.
Why not just have her turn around and to the chin dildo thing?
Aug 31, 2012
commented on Lying Liars and the Television Critics Who Enable Them
I dunno.... even Fox News is calling them out on their lies.
"...to anyone paying the slightest bit of attention to facts, Ryan’s speech was an apparent attempt to set the world record for the greatest number of blatant lies and misrepresentations slipped into a single political speech. On this measure, while it was Romney who ran the Olympics, Ryan earned the gold.
"The good news is that the Romney-Ryan campaign has likely created dozens of new jobs among the legions of additional fact checkers that media outlets are rushing to hire to sift through the mountain of cow dung that flowed from Ryan’s mouth. Said fact checkers have already condemned certain arguments that Ryan still irresponsibly repeated."
May 19, 2012
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Show This Woman Some Love
I just want to add a thought about this kid's mom. I know at least one person touched on it, but--isn't it kind of amazing that she reached out to you to come get her son? Maybe, just maybe, deep down she knows that the environment he was in wasn't safe for him and that he needed to get out of there. Maybe she even supports him deep in her heart, but doesn't feel safe enough herself to say so. Even saying she supported him would take a lot of courage in a family like that. I grew up a Jehovah's Witness, which has some similarities to Pentacostalism, and I can imagine a scenario where the mom tells herself and everyone else that she's "kicking the kid out," but underneath it all she's trying to save his life by getting him out of a dangerous place. She sent him to a safe place--she sent him to you.
Yes, it would be better if she actually stood up for him loudly and proudly, but I'm not going to be the one to cast the first stone at someone immersed in that sort of family. I struggled a lot over why some of my family did the things they did when they knew it was wrong, and eventually came to forgive them when I realized they just didn't have the courage. They didn't have the strength. You have that courage and that strength, and if your nephew came out to those people, it looks like he does too. And you now have the opportunity to build on that strength together. And in time, maybe you can even forgive your family. (Remember, forgiveness is a gift you give to yourself. It has nothing to do with whether the person you forgive "deserves" it or not; it has to do with whether YOU deserve to let go of the burden of resentment, however justified it may be. But it still takes time.)
I could be totally wrong about your sister's intentions, of course, but it seems possible from your letter.
Mar 4, 2012
commented on Who Will Speak Up for the Poor Brainwashed Women Who Have Been Lead to Believe That Their Bodies Are... Theirs?
Just to play devil's advocate, it's possible that he was not contrasting a woman's control of her own body with handing that control over to other people. He may have meant that women should not necessarily try to control their bodies and instead let their bodies control themselves.
Which is still an utter shite argument because nobody is trying to force women to take birth control or get abortions. Women who choose to let their bodies control themselves have always had that option and no one has ever suggested taking it away.
But looking at his statement that way transforms it from jaw-dropping to merely "bad."
Nov 9, 2011
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Short & Sweet
Guys, calm down. You're assuming this guy is a jerk but he really might not be. The letter doesn't give enough information. It totally depends on the tone and other context, which we don't have.
I had a brief fling (not even a fling really, more of a release of sexual tension a couple of times) with a friend who also had this problem. He was apologetic about it. He wasn't trying to trick me. We used a condom, and yes, there was a clear difference in his ability to maintain his erection after he put it on. The second of the two times we had sex we did not use a condom, and he was fine.
This was a real problem for him. He didn't want to be the asshole who refuses to use a condom. Hell, he didn't want to not use a condom, period. He was so excited when he found a condom that was better for him (Inspiral). Not perfect, but better.
Maybe there are "training" things he could have done, but this was a long time ago, and neither of us had heard of such things. It's easy for people who have been active for years in educating themselves about all things sexual (e.g. most slog readers) to say "but there are ways to fix that, so he's just a jerk for not doing them!" The fact is, we don't know this guy's attitude, we don't know what he wants, we don't know what he knows to try, and we don't know what he's already tried.
So, go ahead and make suggestions, but don't act like you know a damn thing about this guy because you don't.