Amanda Huggenkiss
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Feb 16 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on New Head of Kinsey Institute: "I think human sexuality must be viewed in the context of relationships.".
This seems like a very narrow view of the term "relationship". I did not pick up on marriage, monogamy, etc at all from this. ALL of our sexual "problems" come from how they affect our interactions with others, otherwise where is the "problem"? If you like to fuck stuffed animals and you live near Toys R Us and have a lock on your bedroom door, you don't have a "problem" until you try to introduce this hobby/fetish to others. Whether it's a coworker or a rando you want to get naked with, that is a "relationship". If all of our sexual acts were autonomous, this column would not exist. All sexual neuroses comes from how it operates and is perceived by the people in our lives, the "relationships" we have with other people. Studying the habits of balloon fetishists in and of itself isn't nearly as useful as learning how those people can best navigate their fetish with other people to both enjoy said fetish and happily engage in a community of supportive and/or similarly-kinky people. They don't have to marry 'em, they just gotta feel happy and comfortable around them.
Feb 9 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on Black Sabbath at the Tacoma Dome: The Super Bowl of Rock Shows?.
I thought the show was great! I mean, I couldn't understand 99% of his stage banter, and during the "I can't hear you!" *crowd shout* "I can't hear you!" *crowd shout* parts I thought maaayyyybbbeee he couldn't really hear us? But all in all a fun show, they sounded great, fun crowd, cheesy/awesome video and pyro displays. Only complaint: they didn't play Sweet Leaf! I found that surprising considering it was the only WA state show.
Jan 29 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Debt and the Maiden.
I definitely agree w/ commenters pointing out the big issue that these 2 people are not at a place of financial compatibility and due to these they probably would not work well in a marriage together. But damn the moralizing about this woman's debt! (which, of course, we only know LW's side of.) We have no idea if she expected him to pay it off, if she had made other arrangements that fell through, if her parents were handling her college finances and withheld info, who knows. The neglect she showed in amassing this information is immature/lazy/ignorant of the situation, but for all we know, LW was playing White Knight Daddy of His Castle and telling her he's handling everything and was doling out only tidbits of info regarding the process (saying "hey honey, I need your student loan papers" over dinner once a month is not effectively co-partnering a house purchase.)

Also, what if it wasn't student debt? What if his dreams of home ownership, dinners out, and vacations were derailed because she had serious illness and racked up $90k in medical bills? Would she still be a burden? Would the plan seem so important? What if HE was the one to get sick and find his financial security destroyed? What would his expectations be of her?

I don't disagree that this couple should not be getting married or buying a house anytime soon, but damn, the sanctimony is thick in here!
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Apr 23, 2014 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on The Fight Over a Late-Night Hangout Called Waid's.
RAGE!!! I live 3 blocks from Waid's, what "shootings"? What "fights"? The sirens that keep me awake at night are consistently being called on drunk college kids living in the new condo hi-rises around Seattle U. The fights I see are on 12th and Jefferson on Sunday afternoons because the dudebros can't handle their bloody marys. The worst noise is coming from Von Trapp's on Saturday night and if you want to see underage drinkers just walk past the front door. These complaining "neighbors" sound like a bunch of racist assholes.
Feb 7, 2013 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on SL Letter of the Day: The Birthday Girl.
Not to exonerate the letter writer, but 18 or 28 or 48 or 88, WHO HAS UNPROTECTED SEX WITH A STRANGER?!! Also, so he maybe got herpes. Did she, I dunno, maybe get HIV from barebacking someone she doesn't know? This kid knows how condoms work and he was completely willing to put her at risk as well by not putting one on. It is very telling that she refers to him as an "18 year old boy" and herself as a "28 year old woman" as if their ages are in any way indicative of past experience. I've met 28 year old virgins and 18 years olds with a litany of STIs. Frankly, they're both irresponsible adolescents and I can only hope that this experience taught them BOTH a lesson.
Feb 1, 2013 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on The Rent Hike.
I feel bad for everyone in that building and that neighborhood and really any community that is seeing similar changes. That said, this company is doing what almost any property management company would do, which is make the most profit from its investments. The only thing that will stop things like this from happening is if people stop moving in to these buildings. If people stopped paying $1200 for an apartment that was $750 two months ago, there would be no profit in this. If people stopped wanting multi-amenity high rise condos, there would be no profit in this. Put people ARE willing to pay premium to live in a neighborhood they perceive to have this culture and allure about them, regardless if that culture and allure is being destroyed by their very presence. To stop this sort of "Commodification of Community" you have to change people, the consumers. It's their money that drives this industry.
Jan 31, 2013 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on Lunchtime Quickie: Drunk Lady vs Lady Reporter.
Mean, and also socially stigmatizing to people who do have STDs. I get it, drunk people are annoying and she'strying to do her job, but she's also on television and doesn't need to publicly shame a stranger having a good time in New Orleans during Mardi Gras.
Jan 24, 2013 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on I, Anonymous.
"I could have put up with the drinking, the mood swings, your vanity, your ridiculous schedule, and how selfish you were in bed if you had not insisted on talking about previous guys you had slept with and how many of them went on to do fabulous things."

Translation: I'm totally down to date a complete asshole as long as she doesn't dredge up personal insecurities regarding my masculinity and sexual prowess.
Jan 17, 2013 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on Prosecutor Rightly Blamed for Death of Aaron Swartz.
This is bullshit. You can't blame others when someone takes their own life. Many, many people have faced MUCH worse punishments (and been convicted!) and not committed suicide. She was doing what she is supposed to do, which is charge people who have committed crimes with those crimes. This is grossly irresponsible though sadly unsurprising coming from The Stranger.
Dec 12, 2012 Amanda Huggenkiss commented on I, Anonymous.
As a pedestrian who has almost been hit, AMEN! I learned very quickly after moving here that black coat + black umbrella + poorly-lit intersections = recipe for getting run over. Not to say that there aren't a lot of clueless drivers paying more attention to their phones than the road, but you can't fix stupid. We can argue ourselves blue in the face about what "needs to be done" to ensure the safety of pedestrians and bicyclists, but in the meantime, I'm going to make myself as visible as possible.