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@2, I'm not sure what you need to say, really, but Spanish speaking peoples from the Americas comprise many races. I think it is useful to draw and maintain the distinction between race (grouping by physical characteristics) and ethnicity (grouping by cultural characteristics). Many latinos living in the U.S. are brown skinned, but many are not. It is racist to look at a brown person and decide, without speaking to them, that they are latino.
I would know. People (including Latinos), on occasion, attempt to speak Spanish to me, and are surprised when I have no idea what they are saying.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Exing Out Exes
As most of the above commenters have already said, run! Run, run, run.
My ex did precisely the same thing to me. She isolated me from all of my exes, my friends, everyone. She forbade me to speak about her or our relationship to anyone else. When, in a futile attempt to point out the absurdity of her position, I told her that I would stop talking to my friends if she stopped talking to hers, she said "ok."
I did end up having a child with this woman. We are divorced, but she still, through our daughter, has the power to hurt me (and is using it).
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@25 yup. That is exactly what I do, and man, do I ever have a lot of really good female friends (seriously).
Unfortunately, although Hoinsky's advice sounds unbelievably horrible, it works. The guys I've observed who are the most successful at picking up women--and having them fall very, very hard for them--use exactly these tactics. They assume yes until they get a no, and then they stop immediately. Not at all rapey. Ostensibly very, very creepy, but also highly successful.
And @28, please. Women pick up men (and women), men also pick up men, and absolutely it is a challenge with a reward if successfully met. That this is true does not deny women or men any ounce of humanity.
commented on Why Street Harassment Matters
What men need to realize is that street harassment is injurious to people of both genders. I hate that as a man, if I'm riding the bus alone or walking down the street or otherwise in public, I hate that women react as if I am about to assault them. I hate those fearful looks, that retracting into themselves, that nervousness as they wonder if I'm going to sit next to them, and I hate that I won't, even though it's the last seat on the bus. And I hate most of all that women are right to react this way, that they are right because some men out there think there is nothing wrong with "hollering" at them.
My ex used to have me escort her on her walk to and from work because the harassment was incessant. And even worse, when she was pregnant, men (and actually some women too) would call her fat, destroying whatever was left of an already too fragile self esteem.
I wish there was some sort of simple and effective public policy solution to this, but I can't imagine what it might be. Addressing the issue in public schools? Perhaps if these harassers understood what Anna was talking about, the incidence of harassment would decline.
commented on Damsels in Distress: Put That Woman in a Fridge!
@9, So then is that device off limits when it comes to women because of the broader cultural context? Or if women were represented more equally in video games would it then be okay to use it? (I am not being sarcastic)