May 19
msanonymous commented on Remember This Guy?.
@25 This was more a response to 8's comment which seemed to be implying that murder with a hatchet is a reasonable response.
[Also sorry for the shitty spelling in the previous comment].
[Also sorry for the shitty spelling in the previous comment].
May 19
msanonymous commented on Remember This Guy?.
@8 called the police?
Gone to hospital to get a rape kit done?
Left the house and seek help at a neighbors?
Gone to hospital to get a rape kit done?
Left the house and seek help at a neighbors?
May 18
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Living Discomfortably.
@44 What? How is trusting someone to be a decent human being exactly the same as walking into the street drunk? It's not the LW fault this guy waited until he was dependent on him to reveal his inner creeper?
I mean unless the guy was giving off red flags before nothing in the letter indicates that LWIR was wrong to trust him.
I mean unless the guy was giving off red flags before nothing in the letter indicates that LWIR was wrong to trust him.
May 17
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Living Discomfortably.
@32 I would not be laughing at the LW if the gender was reversed and I find it downright disturbing that you think that do that is A-OK reaction to the situation.
But then it's victim-blamey as hell to act as if LWIR fault for actually trusting his friend and not reading his mind and realizing he wanted to fuck him.
But then it's victim-blamey as hell to act as if LWIR fault for actually trusting his friend and not reading his mind and realizing he wanted to fuck him.
May 14
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
@22 usually a lot issues like this stem from misplaced guilt and shame.
May 13
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mind Control.
@14 My question would be is he in a rut, or is this just free floating guilt? Far too often people are made to feel guilty about anything that is either sexual or isn't vanilla sex. If he feels this fantasy it taking over his life that's one thing. If he feels bad because he's fantasizing about using something that doesn't exist to do naughty things to people who aren't real that's something else.
May 9
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bonus Advice for Too Soon To Quit.
I don't know if that's true 19. Men really aren't expected to 'parent' their spouse which is what a lot of the commenter seem to want from TSTQ.
Also doctors aren't magic. You can't force someone to go to an appointment, to listen to the doctor or to take their meds.
Also doctors aren't magic. You can't force someone to go to an appointment, to listen to the doctor or to take their meds.
May 8
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bonus Advice for Too Soon To Quit.
@18 I'm wondering how willing people would be to make excuses if the husband was a wife. There really does seem to be an undercurrent of her being the woman means she has to manage his life even though he's a grown ass man.
I know from my Mom's depression that even if you're depressed you still have to do the work. My Mom rarely did. She would lie to her doctors and not take her pills. My Dad had to manage her medication for her and he nearly buckled under the strain, and she never was able to get on top of it.
I wish folks would stop acting like a depression screening is some sort of magic wand. I mean if he's not willing to do marriage counseling would he be willing to go for a screening? And to be honest with the doctors? And take the medication [if he's given any] properly?
I know from my Mom's depression that even if you're depressed you still have to do the work. My Mom rarely did. She would lie to her doctors and not take her pills. My Dad had to manage her medication for her and he nearly buckled under the strain, and she never was able to get on top of it.
I wish folks would stop acting like a depression screening is some sort of magic wand. I mean if he's not willing to do marriage counseling would he be willing to go for a screening? And to be honest with the doctors? And take the medication [if he's given any] properly?
May 8
msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bonus Advice for Too Soon To Quit.
@ 1 and 13. I think you guys nailed it.
If the husband's depressed that's not his fault. But treating said depression is his responsilibty. TSTQ can't do it for him no matter how much she may want to.
And I wonder if the genders were reversed if the reaction would be different. That because TSTQ is a woman it's her job to fix her husband. She has to sort out his life. And if she walks away well she's just selfish and mean for not putting up with awful behavior.
If the husband's depressed that's not his fault. But treating said depression is his responsilibty. TSTQ can't do it for him no matter how much she may want to.
And I wonder if the genders were reversed if the reaction would be different. That because TSTQ is a woman it's her job to fix her husband. She has to sort out his life. And if she walks away well she's just selfish and mean for not putting up with awful behavior.
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Sure it's possible the guy was giving off red flags like a red flag giving machine. It's also possible that he never expressed the slightest romantic or sexual attraction to LWIR until he was under his roof.
Heck haven't we all seen something like this before? The boyfriend who seems so nice until you move in and then he gets controlling and possessive. The friend you though you could trust with you mother who just wouldn't leave the drunk girl alone?
I agree dude needs to move out but what I don't agree with is that this situation is somehow his fault.