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Aug 24 msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Asexuality-It's a Thing..
@31 I don't think I've ever heard of a dude not watching porn being called a 'castrate'. And yeah I'm sure guys who don't watch porn are out there.

But what gets an eyeroll from me about the request is that it's almost always about jealousy, insecurity. and control. That's it's not about the porn it's about the belief that interacting with other women, even on screen, is a threat to the relationship, and isolating their partner will protect them from heartbreak. Neither of which is true.
Aug 24 msanonymous commented on Savage Love.
@16. AGREED.

LW 1 listen. You don't owe it to this guy to be his urologist and his walking-talking copy of the Karma Sutra because he didn't treat you like crap. Being nice isn't a precious and rare flower, it's BASELINE.

And this guy cares about you but not enough to DO anything about his soft dick. Yes it's not his fault, but it is his fault for not making a doctor's appointment, buying Viagra, or getting a strap-on.

Look he will be hurt but he will get over it. And I agree with Dan that ending things now is far kinder than drawing things out and letting your resentment poison the relationship. If nothing else it might be the kick he needs to either find women who like men and don't want dick, to go to the doctor.
Aug 24 msanonymous commented on SL Letter of the Day: Asexuality-It's a Thing..
@11 Hey I agree. I recall the was a letter from a woman who said she didn't like oral sex and the comments were filled with people telling her how wrong she was, how she hadn't had *good* oral sex, how she needed to keep doing this sex act she didn't like until she magically liked it. Because clearly the idea she just didn't like it was just plain wrong and she didn't know her own body or experiences.

@15 how on earth would a kid's sexuality be boundary breaking? I mean yes if you don't want your teens fucking in the house make that a rule but being asexual [ or gay, or straight] is not something one does at you. Nor is it breaking a boundary that your kid is having relationships you don't approve of. Also yeah they do get to make decisions about their own lives, even if you don't like 'em.
Aug 16 msanonymous commented on Report: Lesbian, Gay, and Bi Students Subjected to Appalling Levels of Violence.
@3 This THIS is the problem. This belief that bullying somehow helps people, that getting the shit kicked out of you, and being endlessly humiliated, somehow imparts strength and wisdom, when all it does is impart lasting damage and anger.

You should want better for your kids fetish. You should want them to not get beaten up or bullied for any reason. You should want the people that do it to be punished. You should want this toxic macho crap that ruins so many lives to GO AWAY.

That you don't is really, really sad.

@8 I totally believe your story and don't think you made it up at all. Also you're really noble for not sticking up for someone who was being bullied.
Aug 16 msanonymous commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Daddy's Pretend Girl Worried About Daddy's Actual Girl.
@22 straight from the horse's mouth VP.
Aug 16 msanonymous commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Blown Opportunities.
@18 I agree. Hunger might just want to preserve her anonymity, and honestly it's really none of our business what surgery he had, only that sex is off the table for a while.
Aug 12 msanonymous commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Swinging Double Standards.
LW if you don't want to go to the club you don't have to. Admitting that seems better then wailing 'what about the meeennnnn'.

And yeah being surrounded by hundreds of horny, grasping guys, sounds like a nightmare. I would think even the women into in would get burned out after an hour or so.
Aug 9 msanonymous commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Worst Breakup Story Ever.
@2 You realize the child might suffer in a completely different way right? That growing up with parents that resent you and aren't nearly as good at hiding it as you expect is hell.

And of course you'd be willing to adopt and raise the kid right? You'll put your money where your mouth is.
Aug 3 msanonymous commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Back To the Dorms.
@6 Agreed. There are options beside 'homelessness; and 'staying forever'. Contact the school, have her contact her parents. Maybe they can help pay for housing. But in the end she has to learn how to adult, it's not the LW's job to be a safety net for her.
Aug 2 msanonymous commented on Seattle Becomes the Third American City to Ban Conversion Therapy on LGBTQ Youth.
@16 so you would be okay with parents beating their children? Raping them? Starving them? If not then why are you okay with this? Abuse is not something that should be sanction by anyone anywhere, even if a church says it's okay.