commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Why Is My Gay Son Hooking Up With a Girl?
I think eleven is a bit to young to making any hard life choices. That he's bi or experimenting is a good enough explanation. I think #2 had a good point that sexuality is more flexible then we give it credit for and cementing into an identity just to fit in can back fire.
But the important thing is that the LW's knows about birth control and how to use it. And yes he will need this if he gets a boyfriend somewhere along the line.
And #1 I'm pretty sure there are many people who walked back from homosexuality. You do realize the Gay Mafia isn't a real thing right? They don't leave carousel horse heads in the beds of guys who realize they like girls too.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Straight Guy Can't Win
[During sex, if the man doesn't come, it's the man's fault, because he clearly has problems with his dick and is barely even a man and should be ashamed of himself. If the woman doesn't come, it's also the man's fault, because he's clearly bad at sex and doesn't even care and is barely even a man and should be ashamed of himself.]
I've never heard that. What I have heard is that if a man can't come during it's the woman's fault for not being hot enough, not being kinky enough, not being permissive enough.
If a woman can't come during sex it's her fault for being frigid, for being demanding, for thinking her orgasm matters in any way.
I doubt any of this has ever happened to the LW. He just wants a reason to treat women like shit.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Abhorrence and the Machine
LW level with this guy. Tell him that sex with him HURTS and he needs to change things if he wants to keep having sex with you.
This is the crucible for this relationship. If he's horrified and makes an effort not to treat your pussy like a door that needs a battering ram keep him. Give him Dan's advice.
But if he thinks you should just deal with it no matter how uncomfortable DTMFA.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Fishing For Sympathy
Honestly even if she's real at some point sympathy and offers help wind up turning into enabling. I mean she has no real motivation to leave when her situation it getting her what she wants, sympathy and attention.
She has options, she' s just refusing to take them.
I think you should tell her not to contact you until she's ready to leave. If she wants to waste her life trying to win over her family that's her choice, but you don't have to be an audience for it.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: We're Not Moving To Canada (Yet)
Lava #12 had it right that emigrating to a new country isn't something a lot of people can do. It means leaving behind everything, including your job and assuming things will be better when they might not be.
Cracked had an article that made a good point, we can't run away from this. Nothing will change if we do. The best thing we can do is stand and fight. Take back our country and for once LEARN from history. Yes it will suck but what choice do we have?
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Snooper Boyfriend Keeps Snooping Through Passed Out Girlfriend's Phone
I think Dan forgets that sex often improves because the cheating partner feels *guilty*. It's not that they discovered a new burning love for their partner, it's that they feel bad so they use sex to hide it/make themselves feel better.
This is not sustainable. Either the guilt will turn to resentment which will end the relationship, or confession which might end the relationship.
Either way the relationships ends. Maybe the LW should just DO that instead of acting like the relationship is the Mona Lisa and must be saved at all costs. Even though his girlfriend doesn't feel the same.
commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Newly Engageed Woman Debates Confessing Bullshit "Infidelity" Or Keeping Mouth Shut
Floriobama I would recommend you not marry your fiancé then. If their attitude is anything like ExplosiveAnonymous then you need to get out of the relationship.
Because people who value truth above all don't actually care about the truth. They care about the power the truth gives and how they can use it hurt the people around them. They don't care about causing pain and destroying lives because truth trumps those things.
And of course these rules never, eve apply to them. They can lie through their teeth about anything it's completely acceptable in their eyes. Should you even try to call them on it they'll bring the thunder.
Dec 15, 2016
commented on Savage Love
@35 Except it's also true. Hell DONE and #29 are great examples of the 'I'm more tolerant than you bullshit' that pushes people away.
Maybe we should trying to point fingers at who's the most racist and instead work on stemming Trump's damage.