Jan 24
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
I wonder what people think is the cut-off, distance-wise and expense-wise, for what counts as a destination wedding?
Last year the guy and I went to a friend's wedding at the beach in another state. It was a 4-hour drive, so we had to get a hotel room (also: open bar). Our friend lives near us, but I think the bride's family lives in the other state.
To me, that didn't really feel like a "destination" wedding, or at least not in the bad way, because it was within driving distance and the hotel wasn't too expensive.
Last year the guy and I went to a friend's wedding at the beach in another state. It was a 4-hour drive, so we had to get a hotel room (also: open bar). Our friend lives near us, but I think the bride's family lives in the other state.
To me, that didn't really feel like a "destination" wedding, or at least not in the bad way, because it was within driving distance and the hotel wasn't too expensive.
Nov 27, 2012
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
I think #2 will depend on whether the new gal is involved in the BDSM community or not. Personally, I see a little wear on BDSM toys as being a sign that the owner has some experience and I'll have a good time.
May 29, 2012
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
Sounds to me like EAT's just got some common insecurity about this.
Culturally, women are kind of made to feel like their vaginas are gross and smelly and need to be douched, deoderized, waxed etc. But frankly, that's bullshit.
To most people that're into women, a healthy, freshly washed (soap and water only, plz) vagina smells and tastes just fine. And once you get the hang of it, eating pussy is pretty fun and sexy too. :)
So relax! The guys that are eating your pussy are probably loving it, or at the very least are turned on by seeing a woman get off that way.
Culturally, women are kind of made to feel like their vaginas are gross and smelly and need to be douched, deoderized, waxed etc. But frankly, that's bullshit.
To most people that're into women, a healthy, freshly washed (soap and water only, plz) vagina smells and tastes just fine. And once you get the hang of it, eating pussy is pretty fun and sexy too. :)
So relax! The guys that are eating your pussy are probably loving it, or at the very least are turned on by seeing a woman get off that way.
Mar 20, 2012
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
That Instead cup sounds like a great idea, but I tried it and personally found it pretty uncomfortable and messy. I think the problem was that it only comes in one size, and that size didn't fit right.
Anyway, the thought of having my partner shove a piece of plastic against my cervix when it's already really sore from cramping isn't exactly hugely appealing.
Anyway, the thought of having my partner shove a piece of plastic against my cervix when it's already really sore from cramping isn't exactly hugely appealing.
Feb 5, 2012
notfromvenus commented on Church or Cult?.
Interesting article, and even more interesting comments from the people that've clearly drunk the koolaid.
Nov 15, 2011
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
While NQAD's boyfriend probably is just embarrassed to talk about his kinky interests, there is another possibility. For at least some submissives, being asked "How do you want me to dominate you?" is a huge, mood-killing turn-off. As unfair as may be to your non-dominant GGG partner, having to tell them "I want you dominate me by doing XYZ" can totally undermine the feeling that they're dominant and in control.
Nov 10, 2011
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
@126:
Not entirely. If the couple have really different sex drives, or one of them realizes that they're gay, or they're poly (when the other isn't), or they have a extreme fetish, or they just don't find each other attractive naked, that goes beyond GGG.
Not entirely. If the couple have really different sex drives, or one of them realizes that they're gay, or they're poly (when the other isn't), or they have a extreme fetish, or they just don't find each other attractive naked, that goes beyond GGG.
Nov 10, 2011
notfromvenus commented on Savage Love.
@10:
The trouble with talking to figure out if you're sexually compatible is that, if you've never even kissed, it's tough to know. Especially since - speaking as an ex-evangelical - the sort of people that wait till marriage to kiss also don't masturbate or look at porn (or at least pretend they don't) because these things are sinful.
How can someone like that have a serious, informed, and honest discussion about how often they want sex and what they like to do when they have it?
A hardcore evangelical virgin isn't going to tell the girlfriend they won't even kiss "I really like playing with my ass while wearing women's panties, but I only want to have sex once a month", and she's not going to reply with "I like to have sex everyday, and I need a vibrator and penetration to get off." Even if they knew those things about themselves, admitting them is confessing to sinning.
The trouble with talking to figure out if you're sexually compatible is that, if you've never even kissed, it's tough to know. Especially since - speaking as an ex-evangelical - the sort of people that wait till marriage to kiss also don't masturbate or look at porn (or at least pretend they don't) because these things are sinful.
How can someone like that have a serious, informed, and honest discussion about how often they want sex and what they like to do when they have it?
A hardcore evangelical virgin isn't going to tell the girlfriend they won't even kiss "I really like playing with my ass while wearing women's panties, but I only want to have sex once a month", and she's not going to reply with "I like to have sex everyday, and I need a vibrator and penetration to get off." Even if they knew those things about themselves, admitting them is confessing to sinning.
Nov 10, 2011
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DSG-type behavior contributes to the widespread feeling among straight men that real lesbian/bi women are only doing it for their arousal, and that "you just haven't been with the right man". Ugh.