ThomZ0rz
Middle of Nowhere, MA
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Aug 5, 2015 ThomZ0rz commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Reality Check.
@2 If I've learned anything about making mistakes in dating, both from my personal experiences, my friends' and what I've read from Dan, it's that age and good-relationship-decision making rarely correlate.
Aug 5, 2015 ThomZ0rz commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: The Reality Check.
I'm confused - the letter writer seems to say that he hadn't sold his house - that he was airBNB-ing it in order to save money and had moved into an apartment in the meantime - so he actually got dumped in time to just have wasted money on an apartment rather than having sold his house.

Dan, did you maybe edit the finalizing-the-sale portion of the letter or something?
May 29, 2014 ThomZ0rz commented on Justin Bond On RuPaul, Trannyshack, and the Word Police.
@25 Just because RuPaul won't do everything one part of the trans* community tells her to do, doesn't mean that she has no compassion or respect for the entire community.

I don't think it's fair or realistic to expect to be able to dictate language for other people who are a part of your community. I choose not to use the term tranny because I know it hurts some people, and I'd rather avoid it. On the other hand, I didn't use the term for decades to describe myself and my friends, only to be told that I'm a bigot and an enemy for ever having said it.
Feb 24, 2014 ThomZ0rz commented on Closeted Bisexual Complains About Bisexual Invisibility.
I remember when I (a bi guy) came out to my parents and family. They were fairly confused, and the question was pretty much, " Well, what about (name of my then girlfriend)?" And I just had to say that being bi meant I could and would date people of either gender.

I also found that when I was dating a woman, people accepted my bisexuality at face value (I think the reasoning was: why would a straight dude lie about that, and why would a gay person uncloset himself and still date a woman). Later, when I dated a man for several years, the assumption became that I was gay. I had to be consistently out to people that I met who reasonably assumed that I was gay because I had met them while with my boyfriend. I encountered a fair amount of snarkiness from some gays and lesbians about bisexuals (bi now, gay later or UGH I am so done dating bisexuals) but all I could do was reiterate my bisexuality and metaphorically slap people down when they needed it.

Interestingly, now that I'm single again and at an age where I am more serious about settling down/getting married, I feel that there are a lot of impacts to the gender of who I end up with long term. Sometimes I feel like even if I'm out about my bisexuality while I date or marry a woman, I'll feel a little bit like I'm going back in the closet. It's something I think about a lot.
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Feb 24, 2014 ThomZ0rz commented on Closeted Bisexual Complains About Bisexual Invisibility.
I remember when I (a bi guy) came out to my parents and family. They were fairly confused, and the question was pretty much, " Well, what about (name of my then girlfriend)?" And I just had to say that being bi meant I could and would date people of either gender.

I also found that when I was dating a woman, people accepted my bisexuality at face value (I think the reasoning was: why would a straight dude lie about that, and why would a gay person uncloset himself and still date a woman). Later, when I dated a man for several years, the assumption became that I was gay. I had to be consistently out to people that I met who reasonably assumed that I was gay because I had met them while with my boyfriend. I encountered a fair amount of snarkiness from some gays and lesbians about bisexuals (bi now, gay later or UGH I am so done dating bisexuals) but all I could do was reiterate my bisexuality and metaphorically slap people down when they needed it.
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Jan 8, 2014 ThomZ0rz commented on SL Letter of the Day: Bubble Boys.
Oy vay. I don't know if I could stop myself from grabbing and shaking him while yelling, "Are you crazy?!? Why don't you want a real relationship with someone you really love?!" I know it would make it worse, but that's all I can think of when I deal with closeted guys,
Jan 7, 2014 ThomZ0rz commented on SL Letters of the Day: Two Satisfied Customers.
Jeez Louise, for a minute there I thought that the first letter was from my ex, he dumped me in a very Dan Savage way, and in the end it turned out to be for the best.

For a while I thought about thanking Dan for helping me with a great relationship and now I'm thanking him for a good breakup; life is weird as heck.
Nov 11, 2012 ThomZ0rz commented on What Will Joe Go Fo'?.
@64 Perversely, I think it will eventually be a Republican that is able (not just willing) to lead the American portion of the fight against climate change. In the same sense that only Nixon, a staunch anti-communist, could go to China. I think it will take a conservative coming to his senses to lead that half (or enough of that half) of the country to believing that this is a real issue that needs to be dealt with.
Nov 11, 2012 ThomZ0rz commented on What Will Joe Go Fo'?.
@62 Are you fucking kidding me? Massachusetts isn't America? Who are you, Sarah Palin?

Furthermore: do you think that Harvard University hires professors on the basis of 1/32nd native American heritage? It's not like she was applying for undergraduate admission under a minority scholarship.

One last thing: I don't think Warren ought to run, but if you're waiting for a candidate that Republicans will have zero ways to attack, then you will be waiting a long, long time.