May 21
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Did You Think I Was Going To Tell You Not To Come Out? (PLUS: Help Free Kate!).
My little British mind has been utterly boggled by the discussion here - particularly the assertions that this type of prosecution has happened before. In the UK the police and the Crown Prosecution Service would refuse to take the case, as the younger girl was over 13, the age gap was relatively small, and the younger girl was evidently happy with the relationship.
The authorities would recognise potential creepiness and problems with power imbalances, but they would conclude that any harm caused was much smaller than the amount of harm needed to constitute a crime which should be prosecuted in the public interest. And they'd be right.
The authorities would recognise potential creepiness and problems with power imbalances, but they would conclude that any harm caused was much smaller than the amount of harm needed to constitute a crime which should be prosecuted in the public interest. And they'd be right.
May 14
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Insane Demands.
I agree with Dan. Nobody should ask for information that specific about their affair's partner, even leaving aside all the CPOS issues. This sounds like some kind of revenge trip and will not end well.
May 3
misspiggy commented on Mother of the Year.
And did you see the earlier bit where the kid waves it at his sister? Nice. The fact that people on SLOG are defending gun use for young kids is quite mindblowing to me as a British type person.
May 3
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mr. Wonderful.
Very awesome advice from many commenters. Once the dumping is done, perhaps the LW could look at how she could try to make single life more enjoyable, so that she doesn't feel being with an asshole is an improvement.
I identify with the feeling that you'll never meet somebody better, so you have to put up what you've got. But it is your Jerkbrain lying to you.
Unless someone is good to you at least 90% of the time without you having to hurt yourself, get out. If you don't know what this feels like, get out. Enjoy spending time with yourself, until you happen upon somebody who treats you that way.
I identify with the feeling that you'll never meet somebody better, so you have to put up what you've got. But it is your Jerkbrain lying to you.
Unless someone is good to you at least 90% of the time without you having to hurt yourself, get out. If you don't know what this feels like, get out. Enjoy spending time with yourself, until you happen upon somebody who treats you that way.
Apr 25
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
@10 - surely there's no excuse for not knowing how to give a blowjob. Do these women not have any Internets?
And why the lack of enthusiasm? Although, thinking about it, I do remember from my youth the teen mag advice, 'if you don't feel comfortable doing something, don't let anyone pressure you into it'. At one point I took this to mean, 'if anything is at all physically uncomfortable, it is wrong to do it for a man because you will be a total doormat!'
It's not till you experience how much fun it is to make a man come spectacularly in your mouth that you realise why it's worth putting yourself through all the jaw-ache.
And why the lack of enthusiasm? Although, thinking about it, I do remember from my youth the teen mag advice, 'if you don't feel comfortable doing something, don't let anyone pressure you into it'. At one point I took this to mean, 'if anything is at all physically uncomfortable, it is wrong to do it for a man because you will be a total doormat!'
It's not till you experience how much fun it is to make a man come spectacularly in your mouth that you realise why it's worth putting yourself through all the jaw-ache.
Apr 25
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Wrong To Completion.
If he were to ask his girlfriend if he can get blown by a guy she might well assume he's gay, particularly if she's as non-adventurous as one might expect from someone who's only up for 2-3 mins of oral. (But even then, why couldn't those 2-3 mins be delivered at the end of the 'completion' stage?)
Anyway, wouldn't it be simpler to show her how to give him better oral sex, and explain what a big deal it is? There are so many ways to do it 'to completion' whilst avoiding uncomfortable deepthroating that it doesn't seem a lot to ask. Unless the LW is actually interested in the male dimension...?
Anyway, wouldn't it be simpler to show her how to give him better oral sex, and explain what a big deal it is? There are so many ways to do it 'to completion' whilst avoiding uncomfortable deepthroating that it doesn't seem a lot to ask. Unless the LW is actually interested in the male dimension...?
Apr 22
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
@19 - you put it so well. But why does anyone think loving someone is enough? You can love someone who is appalling to you, or a really bad match. It's sad when people don't have confidence in their ability to find someone they love who is actually nice to them.
At least with longer life expectancies, people have a chance to get out and try again; which is why this guy's letter is so depressing.
At least with longer life expectancies, people have a chance to get out and try again; which is why this guy's letter is so depressing.
Apr 22
misspiggy commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mate Or Mat?.
The main thrust of the letter doesn't seem improbable to me, although it does seem exaggerated. If this is a realistic representation of a relationship, I don't understand why anybody would leave and then return when no change seemed to be on offer. With this level of mutual distaste I don't know what keeps people together. But Dan's answer was the only one possible in the circumstances.
Apr 3
misspiggy commented on Freedom Is Frustrating.
Can anyone explain how a country with so many constitutional protections can allow people to be locked up without being charged with a crime? Genuinely asking from an appalled European perspective.
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A similar experience would have totally freaked me out when I was 14, and wouldn't be very pleasant now. I don't think it's unreasonable to expect a partner to look for signs of enjoyment, and check in with me if they don't find them, at any age. Just saying, 'but they were 14!' isn't very helpful. It might explain why redress is unlikely to be forthcoming, but it doesn't cancel out the evident unpleasantness of the experience. What's wrong with seeking to tackle difficult experiences, no matter how they were caused?