Jan 4, 2012
commented on Savage Love
I agree that being a cheater doesn't really match the spirit of what I think of as monogamish.
My husband and I have been together for nearly 20 years. We've had an open relationship for probably...11 years? This includes swapping with close friend couples/a foursomes/threesomes involving these parties, and an occasional business trip hookup or three, which we are both aware of; there is nothing concealed here. Call: "Guess, what? I totally just got laid!"
We're not polygamous or swingers who take out personal ads/hit clubs for this purpose (not to suggest that there's anything wrong with that, we just don't fall into those two categories.) We're your basic urban yuppie couple who appear to be monogamous and the people we've messed around with are, too. We always insist on playing safe. We're not open about it because it's personal and family members would probably be judgmental.
Our philosophy is that a wedding band shouldn't cut off every other possibility for a the excitement of banging someone new ever again. Life's too short (or maybe too long) to only enjoy one flavor of ice cream for the rest of it.