Feb 8 jasha1 commented on We Need a Ruling On the Snickers Superbowl Ad.
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Dec 25, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: High Hopes.
@154, I can only note that you indicated that a 6'2 liar would not have been a problem, but a 5'7 liar was (and 5'7 isn't even particularly short). I don't even blame you, the female preference for tall over short men is about as close to universal as anything I've seen in my life.
@157, not denying your experiences but in my whole life I've never heard any men indicate that they were not attracted to/did not want to date women who are taller than themselves and I HAVE had friends express the opposite preference (i.e. liking taller women).

During my single years I tried online dating several times (never lied about my height) and had absolutely no luck. No women ever contacted me. I wrote dozens of well thought out, personalized messages to women and got only a few perfunctory responses and no dates. (And I'm not alone; see http://www.ayi.com/dating-blog/online-da…)

So that's the reason for my original advice: don't date online if you are a man significantly below average height. Take dance classes, join toastmasters, or develop other hobbies where you can meet women. Ask your friends to set you up. And when you find the right one, do everything you can to make it work because chances are going to be few and far between. I'm married now *HUGE SIGH OF RELIEF* and I hope I never have to seek a mate again.

Merry Christmas all, got to get back to my family now!
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Dec 24, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: High Hopes.
@152 so it would have been just as bad if he'd been three inches taller than his profile said vs three inches shorter? I think we both know the answer.
Dec 24, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: High Hopes.
@145 you might want to consider how you might act if you were required to enter your weight in pounds or your dress size as part of your profile. Don't you think you might be fudge a bit and not want to be judged too harshly for it? As long as women use height as a strict criteria for consideration men are going to fudge it. It doesn't sound like you gave the guy a chance; if it was the fudging of his height that's pretty judgemental, and if it really was the height (I suspect it was) that's pretty shallow.
Dec 24, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: High Hopes.
@139 yes, I think what you describe is fairly typical; you have a preference for tall men (like almost all women, I'm afraid), but it's not a must for attraction and in the long run other things are more important. Online dating doesn't give short men any chance to roll out their positive traits because because the height is the first, and maybe only, thing someone browsing their profile will notice. And they might not even get that if the reader, due to the sheer volume of profiles she has to deal with, employs a height filter when searching. I'd just add that its unfair that short people (especially men, since they are the ones who will be filtered out for it) have to list their exact height rather than just general categories like "Tall/Average/Below Average". Imagine if instead of general body type categories people had to enter their exact weight or BMI numbers! I'm sure women wouldn't stand for it

Oh, and Merry Christmas eve, everyone!
Dec 22, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: High Hopes.
My advice is even simpler: don't do online dating (or if you do, de-prioritize it compared to other things). All dating sites (*ALL* of them) have far more active male profiles than female ones and women have to use filters just to make things workable for themselves. You will never get a fair shake in this environment; you will be filtered out right away by women who, if they met you in real life, might give you a chance to impress them with your other positive traits.
Finally, get married when you find the right one. I'm so relieved to not have to deal with dating anymore.

5'4, married w/ 2 kids
Sep 25, 2015 jasha1 commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: God Hates Fags Blah Blah Blah.
That man wants your evil agenda down his throat so badly that its funny
May 7, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Destructive Criticism.
@25
Yes of course you are right but who doesn't like talking about blowjobs? It's a great topic!
May 7, 2015 jasha1 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Destructive Criticism.
Try:
Ice in mouth
Rim his ass
Dirty talk with his cock in your mouth

These are things I like :-)
Jan 4, 2015 jasha1 commented on Savage Love.
@297 Re: Andrea Dworkin, I'm afraid that "All sex is rape" is a very fair synthesis of her arguments, and her disclaiming this is just sophistry (on her part, not yours for quoting her). What do you think she meant by "equality", which sex and pleasure could survive? I'd say you can look to a quote from another of her books: "For men I suspect that this transformation begins in the place they most dread -- that is, in a limp penis. I think that men will have to give up their precious erections and begin to make love as women do together."

So sure, she didn't think all heterosexual sex was necessarily rape so long as the man didn't penetrate the woman or get an erection.

No opinion on the rest of the thread :-)