Jan 8, 2012
Not What You Think
commented on Savage Love
I don't have time to read all 200+ comments, but I agree with comment #225.
I think example #2 is a "success" because he found a way to get his sexual needs met, not pressure his wife and give her space, and find a way to keep his main relationship alive.
Perhaps his wife knew but never confronted him. She MUST have figured her husband found SOMETHING to do while she dealt with her issues. Maybe she was relieved, grateful, appreciative.
A "successful" monogamish relationship can be defined many nitpicky ways, but for me the common factor is whether or not everyone is getting THEIR sexual needs met.