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Nov 27, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on SL Letter of the Day: This Is the End.
Don't forget to change the password on your cell phone account. And any other passwords or PINs you may have shared with him. And in the future, don't share passwords for anything that you wouldn't want an angry ex to have access to.
Jul 9, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on A Beginner's Guide to Ingesting Marijuana.
Also hide edibles from your PETS.

My friend is a vet tech at a large clinic (not in WA or CO), and a couple of times a month someone will bring a dog in because "It's acting all weird and shit," and when the vets/techs try to take a history, they get some "umm"s and a lot of looking at the floor.

Actually, don't just hide your edibles, hide your bag of bud too, because chances are a dog will think it's either food, or a chew toy, or some amazing combination that's more delicious than dried pig snouts.
May 12, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on The Devil Made That Lesbian Do It.
"Growling demonically" made me think of this:…
May 7, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on Savage Love.
Whoops, that was @27.
May 7, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on Savage Love.
@6 - I know what square brackets are generally used for, I was just puzzled by their use in this particular letter.

Letters in advice columns are routinely edited for style, grammar, clarity, etc., but I don't think I've ever seen brackets (or ellipsis points) used to indicate where these edits have taken place. I've certainly never seen them used that way in Savage Love before. Writers/editors of advice columns just edit the letters to make them shorter or more coherent without using any punctuation to call attention to the fact. (For example, last week's letter from Gay Boy Problems, which was a heavily edited Letter of the Day.)

I thought it was possible the LW used offensive terms that Dan edited out without explanation (but somehow wanted to call attention to them with the brackets?), but it seems more Dan-like to reproduce the original offensive language and then point out how that kind of thing ain't cool.

The other possibility is that the LW just doesn't know how square brackets are actually used, and is giving the "Blog" of "Unnecessary" Quotation Marks an idea for a sister site.

Either way, it was just weird, and I can't believe how many people are obsessing over the actual content of this week's column and not the mysterious square brackets.
May 6, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on Savage Love.
Mmmmkay, what's up with those square brackets? They're odd and distracting. I've got two guesses:

1. The original letter used offensive terms for transgender (and something like "real women" instead of "cis women") and Dan helpfully substituted more acceptable terms, or

2. LW doesn't know how to use brackets the way some people don't know how to use quotation marks.
May 4, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on This Gave Me Nightmares.
This ad and the DirecTV marionette ads are nothing compared to a series of Duracell ads from the early 90s:

I kept waiting for that little bladder to smash through a wall and yell out a squeaky "Oh yeah!"

And I'm imagining the argument in the ad agency's offices: "Make him yellow, like pee! It makes sense!" Others: "No! That's gross! Make him red like an internal organ! That makes more sense!" Still others: "You're all disgusting! Make him pink, which is like an internal organ, but cute and not gross at all!"

Also, if you say Myrbetriq backwards, does it go back to the dimension from whence it came?
Apr 2, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on SL Letter of the Day: Geezerdom.
@48 - I don't doubt that the wife cut him off. I was talking about how there was no reference in the letter to the LW going to his wife and having a conversation with her about how her cutting him off was affecting him.
Apr 2, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on SL Letter of the Day: Geezerdom.
I'd have more sympathy for this guy if he had explicitly said that his wife had cut him off, and that he went to her with the issue and her reaction was, "Tough shit kiddo. We're celibate now. Get used to it." (Or even, "I really and truly am sorry, but there's nothing I can do about it." [See misspiggy's point @29.])

A lot of comments are assuming that's exactly what happened, but my instincts are telling me the opposite. Why? Because something that important to the story would have been in a letter where he's trying to justify and defend his actions. But it wasn't. It's possible he left that part out because his expositional skills just aren't up to snuff, but it sure sounds like his Plan A was prostitutes, not something radical like talking things over with his wife. For me, that puts him in CPOS territory.

And echoing what some others have brought up, I sure hope this guy is swimming in moolah. If he's been married for 45 years, we can guess he's 65 to 75 and his wife is of a similar age. Either or both of them could easily live another 20 to 30 years. If he's spending his money on pros now, what happens when they need assisted living or a nursing home and their savings are gone?
Mar 18, 2014 Chelydra_serpentina commented on Savage Love.
I think MOTHER can try to convey to his smug and horribly repressed mom just how badly she hurt him without outing himself or his wife as kinky. What if the bondage and the MILF slaves were just something he explored as a teenager, which never really made their way into his adult sexuality? The damage would still be there.

She thinks she helped her kid, when what she really did was emotionally abuse him. This is probably my outrage speaking, and it might be better just to let this go, but I really feel like she ought to know what she did and what the consequences were for her son.