May 15, 2013 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
Dan, I think you totally missed the question for LW1. She didn't ask about moving this guy. She asked: "I would like him to have a sexual outlet, but one that doesn't involve me. Any ideas?"

Answer: You set some boundaries in your conversations. When he brings up the topic of cross-dressing, you respond that you really enjoy having conversations with him, but that you don't want to discuss that topic anymore. Then, change the subject. If he can't move past, then you politely excuse yourself.

Apr 3, 2013 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
I'm going to disagree on Dan's answer to FetLife dude. If he's on FetLife, and especially if he plans on getting involved with his local scene, they are going to cross paths, and they are going to need to learn to be civil to each other. The problem with Dan's advice is if LW is at an event giving out his FetLife name, and she hears of the deception that way, she's gonna be pissed.

A simple, "Hey, I thought you should know it's LW. Realized after hitting the 'like' button that I probably shouldn't have, but what's done is done. Hope you're doing well. Take care. LW"

An even better option, if he doesn't have any FL friends yet, is to just jettison the FetLife account, start a new one, and be a little more careful with that 'like' button next time.
Oct 24, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
For LW1: Really? Porn is for men who can't get laid? Some absurd percentage of men watch porn. Something like 90+%. Are you really saying that we (yes, include me) can't get laid?

Some of us (yes, include me) even watch porn with our wives.

For Gay Republicans: There are gay people who go into economics and finance and business, and they tend to be fiscally conservative. Are you seriously going to tell me that Log Cabin Republicans are self-hating homos?

Also, your impression that Republicans are all a bunch of bigots is ridiculous. Even on your current favorite issue, a Fox News poll from earlier this year showed that 57% of Republicans favor legalized same-sex unions. That is not a typo. Fifty-seven percent. A simple majority of Republicans.

You have my permission to stop reading Maggie Gallagher. She does not speak for the majority of the GOP.…
Sep 26, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
Agree with #5. Most straight men will gladly accept a blowjob from any woman with a mouth, but that doesn't mean we want to marry you.
Sep 12, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
#70 you can go to any tobacco store and buy herbal cigarettes. And no, they are not marijuana. They're just various dried plant matter that are ground up to look like tobacco cigarettes.

For what it's worth, herbal cigarettes are roughly as bad for you as tobacco cigarettes, but they contain no nicotine, so they won't cause nicotine addiction. Any time you burn something and breathe the smoke into your lungs, it's going to be bad for you. It doesn't really matter what you're burning.
Sep 12, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
#68 if you're hammered on tequila, how can you be so sure that you're fooling anybody?
Sep 12, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
LW1: I have a pretty cool uncle, and if he had given me a fleshlight when I was 14, I would have freaked out something fierce. We're talking completely mortified.

The advice of a good book and an Amazon gift card are spot on. That way, she can use it on something else if she's a late bloomer.

LW2: Even in rural areas, there is probably a kinky group within a workable distance from you. We kinksters are everywhere! Look for localish munches and start meeting people.

LW3: He's not gay or even bi. If he was, he'd have accepted the blowjob without thinking twice. At most, he's a bit "hetroflexible", and there's nothing wrong with that. And you don't need to worry. He's not going to leave you for a dude because he once, a decade ago, almost got blown by one.

LW4: Another option is a hookah with flavored tobacco. The smoke is filtered through water, so it is very easy on your lungs. It's still tobacco, so obviously you're not going to want to do this every night, but once in a blue moon isn't gonna give you cancer.
Sep 5, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
#21: Snowguy may have been exaggerating somewhat, but you have to admit it is way, way easier for a woman to find a man for some action, than the reverse.

#23: I think it's pretty natural for GF to stop talking about HBM completely after HBM "confronted" (his word choice) her about it. Why walk on eggshells when you can just sweep them out of the way?
Sep 5, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
Maybe I'm naive because I've never been to Burning Man, but is having tons of sex with tons of people the main attraction? Or is it possible that she just likes the vibe there and isn't nailing a bunch of other dudes? Presumably, HBN would have known from the forum he read what GF's intentions were.

I agree with the rest of Dan's answer: you can't have it both ways, HBN. You tell her not to talk about you, then you wonder why she doesn't talk about you. You've got her walking on eggshells, then you wonder why she isn't adventurous with you.

Personally, I think you should break up with her. Not because she did anything wrong, because she didn't. Just because you two aren't very compatible. And because you're not so good at this whole "communication" thing, you'd to well to find someone who is naturally a bit more on your same wavelength.
Jul 11, 2012 lorcha commented on Savage Love.
LBS, vigorous sex can burn a lot of calories, you know. Just sayin'.