Mar 1, 2012
latingem commented on SL Letter of the Day: Not Wanting Kids—Your Own, Someone Else's—Doesn't Make Someone an Asshole.
My partner has 3 children. He said when we met he couldn't believe how I just seemed to take it all in my stride and not be horrified about it or anything. That's because I had never dated anyone with kids before and did not know what I was getting myself into. 3 years later I am still with him. But if I ever broke up with him, I would never again date someone with small kids, or even worse, teenagers! I would really run the other way, knowing what I know now. A completely thankless task. I do not want to live with these kids whom I have no authority over. They put up with me and all that, but there is no lost love between us. I am always, always, always, number 4... And when I end up in a nursing home, they will not come to visit much. I have tried and tried... And this coming from someone who worked as a nanny for years and had plenty of very fulfilling experiences as one! If it happened again, I'd put the whole thing in the too hard basket. The dynamic is just too much for everyone involved when you are the step-parent, no matter how much you love kids.
Jan 25, 2012
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Jan 25, 2012
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Jan 25, 2012
latingem commented on Savage Love.
I had a very beautiful and meaningful relationship in the past with a man... The subject of "opening up" came by chance... New Year's Eve, 1992... We were partying, him , me and another female friend of his... We partied all night... When the sun came up, I said : "Thats enough, time to go home babe..." His female friend didn't want us to go, he didn't want to go... She suggested we all jump in the jacuzzi... He looks totally delighted and says: "That's a great idea! Why don't we stick around and all jump in the jacuzzi?" I said: "NO problem! But call your brother (who was just as or maybe even hotter than him), and if he comes round, we can all jump in the jacuzzi and have some great fucking fun! How about it babe?!! Great fun huh?" He proceeded to say his goodbyes and we left.. U wanna open this shit up, huh babe? Well then let it be something in there for all of us, then we can talk!
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I once dated a guy a few times who dumped me by text. I was horrified! I was telling a friend that I thought it was the most callous and disrespectful thing to do, how could he, etc. when he said: "Babe, when you dumped ME, you did it by text." Er, ouch! I agree with Dan, there is no nice way to be dumped, all of them suck.I now prefer not to take it personally and try to understand that for whatever reason, this person does not think you are right for them or want to be with you. More than half the time they won't tell you the truth anyway. (Have you ever told anyone you are breaking up with them because they don't smell right?)Even if they found someone hotter, sexier, richer or whatever than me, it is still their right to move on. Will it make me feel better to know all this? I don't think so. These days I tell my current beau: "If you want to dump me, please text me, don't make me get dressed and come out to meet you just for telling me to my face, thank you!"