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Jan 1, 2014 Abmindprof commented on Savage Love.
Obviously, the feminizing guy gets off on the role play in particular defining the top role in terms of traditional gender norms. If you want him, you're probably best off playing along and being the bottom so long as he understands that it's really just play. With the right guy, I'd find that really hot, but it doesn't sound like you do. So maybe you're just not sexually compatible enough and should move on.
Jan 31, 2013 Abmindprof commented on Straight Guys More Depressed and Stressed Than Out Gay and Bi Guys.
Well that's changing. The absolutely spectacular and apparently straight UK diver twin Chris Mears appears naked (but showing no genitals) on the cover of the Brit Gay Times, and then put the pic on his twitter photo. He's not worried. It's symptomatic of a lot less gay panic generally among young straight guys.
May 9, 2012 Abmindprof commented on Savage Love.
Not anyone on earth, Dan. You're program isn't available in Spain from what I can tell, probably anywhere in Europe. Thanks MTV.
Mar 1, 2012 Abmindprof commented on The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints: Champions of LGBT Equality!.
Seems to me that these after death baptisms are a form of spiritual masturbation with necrophiliac theme. Creepy, but ultimately a fantasy, and you can't do anything about someone else's fantasy.
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Feb 27, 2012 Abmindprof commented on Arizona's Conservative Gay Sheriff....

Dan has never advocated teacher-student relationships, and this was no ordinary such teacher student relationship because the guy was a headmaster in a highly authoritarian if not abusive school. Of course, BDSM involves power imbalances, but Dan at least describes them as cops and robbers for grownups. in other words, it's all fake. There are relationships in which the power imbalance spreads consensually beyond the sex play, but it is kind of hard to imagine that happening in this situation consensually. Whether or not the boy wanted it or not, the power imbalance was there in the kind of visceral way that only occurs in highly authoritarian settings. One word from a headmaster in that school, and the boy would suffer severe physical and psychological torture. When I taught high school by contrast, the extent of my power was sending a student to the office or calling their parent, and I had too much power to engage in sex with my students according to B of E policy.

Dan's being entirely consistent even without the politics.