Mar 21, 2012 downon commented on Savage Love.
Cheers to 19 and 20.

Although I think there is some support for the conclusion that identifying as submissive is an order of magnitude different from identifying as gay, there is also a valid basis for arguing they are similar. For example, one reason to come out as gay is to help other struggling gays to know they are not alone or weird or whatever. That same justification could apply to someone who is submissive. Surely, SUB's question about whether he should come out as kinky deserves more of a response than that Dan doesn't consider it coming-out worthy.

I also have got to call out ivy-league educated 49. Interesting that you "don't believe in porn addition", as if that somehow puts the matter to rest, because people masturbate when they look at porn. It's not a big deal for most, but for some, porn obsession can have significant negative affects on real life. As in, you have no real life because you look at porn and masturbate all day. But the only real response I can give to your argument is -- I believe it can be an addition.
Mar 21, 2012 downon joined My Stranger Face
Mar 21, 2012 downon joined My Stranger Face
Mar 21, 2012 downon commented on Savage Love.
Cheers to 19 and 20.

Although I think there is some support for the conclusion that identifying as submissive is an order of magnitude different from identifying as gay, there is also a valid basis for arguing they are similar. For example, one reason to come out as gay is to help other struggling gays to know they are not alone or weird or whatever. That same justification could apply to someone who is submissive. Surely, SUB's question about whether he should come out as kinky deserves more of a response than that Dan doesn't consider it coming-out worthy.

I also have got to call out ivy-league educated 49. Interesting that you "don't believe in porn addition", as if that somehow puts the matter to rest, because people masturbate when they look at porn. It's not a big deal for most, but for some, porn obsession can have significant negative affects on real life. As in, you have no real life because you look at porn and masturbate all day. But the only real response I can give to your argument is -- I believe it can be an addition.