commented on SL Letters of the Day: Just Say No to DSGs
@35 - Really? Do you have some sort of reading disability? How does "This person is making out with me, I'm pretty sure they're sexually interested in me!!!" become "This person is making out with me, I'M FOR SURE GOING TO GET LAID AND WON'T TAKE NO FOR AN ANSWER IF THEY CHANGE THEIR MIND"?
As for some of the other comments... Maybe it's hard for opposite-sex attracted people to understand. But when you're limited to a really small portion of the population for sex/dating/whatever, you tend to not want to get your hopes up and be disappointed when it turns out that you never even had the *potential* for whatever you were hoping for.
I understand for the younger crowd, being a member of a sexual minority just isn't that big of a deal. But for us older types (even those of us who were born as late as the seventies), it was generally HARD to accept our sexual identity. It's something we were taught was unnatural and sinful. I talk to people in their early to mid twenties, and they were out in high school. That's such an alien concept to me. So, when you see someone you think you have a kinship with, who may have been through the same struggles you've been through, and they turn out to simply be *assuming* that identity frivolously, it tends to grate.
I've been at a gay man's bar and seen women making out to try to get some guy going. So, here I was, looking for *at the very least* some other queer women to hang out with, and they turned out to be DSGs. IN A FUCKING GAY BAR.
People keep talking about how there are worse things going on in the world. Sure, there are worse things. But that applies to just about everything we worry about here in the US. So, we've got marriage inequality / discrimination issues. So what? A ten year old got stoned to death for being raped. Does that mean that we should suddenly stop caring about discrimination issues or marriage inequality? NO. It means that we all have to work on what we need to work on. No one person can tackle ALL of the evils in the world. Trying to shame us because we're annoyed or pissed at DSGs is fucking stupid. If you're that worried about these other things, why the fuck are you posting about this, rather than concentrating on your issue of choice??
commented on SL Letter of the Day: There's A Word For People Like You
Transerasure, ftw. Trans men are men, folks. Even if they haven't had bottom surgery. I know for some people it's hard to wrap your head around the idea of gender not being tied to chromosomes or other aspects of physical sex, but these *are* distinct concepts.
commented on Savage Love
"I once chatted for an hour with a guy who married his horse."
This is what happens when we allow heterosexuals to marry. They pervert the definition of marriage so that people feel comfortable marrying their horses!
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Ruff Butt
@7 - I am totally not okay with rimming, but am okay with being anally fucked without lube. Of course, I also dislike oral sex in general. Ah, the trials and tribulations of being a masochist. You may need to widen (hahaha) your sample.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: Daddy Day Cares
I've met a decent amount of gay guys who are misogynists. They pretty much assume that women have nothing to offer them, and so treat them like shit. So, I don't think I agree with the assessment that misogynists who aren't homophobes are rare. I would entertain the idea that I might be reading too much into the behavior I've observed, except that I'm not the only one who's noticed this phenomenon. Other (less dickish) gay guys have observed it, as well as other women who hang out with gay men.
I suppose they could have just assumed I was a hag, rather than a fellow queer, and disrespected me because of that, but I don't think that's a very valid excuse, you know?
commented on We Were All Women Once
I appreciated that they commented that some consider that stage of development gender neutral, but I wish they'd put more emphasis on it. A lack of penis/testicles does not make one a woman any more than a lack of breasts makes one a man. Prior to the development of the sex organs, the gonads truly are gender neutral. So, phenotypically speaking, the organism is neither male nor female.
commented on SL Letter of the Day: A Married Bi Man Makes His Move
@36: It's great that your anecdotal evidence indicates that small children take divorce better, but ACTUAL data, ie longitudinal studies in which children of divorce were followed over years or even decades of their lives indicates otherwise. Generally, young children DO NOT do well in response to their parents divorcing. Generally older children do MUCH BETTER. So, I'm pretty supportive of Dan asking if someone has small children before suggesting splitting up.