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Jun 3, 2015 tsapience commented on Colorado High School Cancels Valedictorian's Graduation Day Speech Because He Was Planning to Come Out.
@29: Oops, didn't mean to suggest that you were suggesting that :-). I'm in agreement on all counts.
Jun 3, 2015 tsapience commented on Colorado High School Cancels Valedictorian's Graduation Day Speech Because He Was Planning to Come Out.
@17 captured my thoughts on this. Principal is definitely a huge dick for deeming the student's disclosure of his sexuality 'political,' denying him recognition and his opportunity to speak, and outing him to his parents. No excuse for that guy. But separately from the issue of how the principal sucks and the student should have been allowed to give his speech, it's a pretty lousy valedictorian speech. The speech should be about the graduating class, not the valedictorian himself and his various accomplishments and confessions. But it's not terribly unusual for an 18-year-old -- even one at the top of his class -- to be self absorbed or miss the mark on a speech. So whatever.

@26 is ridic. Parents feeling overwhelmed or needing time to cope with their kids coming out has nothing to do with whether they recognize that we are 'normal.' Joining the peace corps is normal but I'm sure getting that news is shocking for many parents, too. And indeed, if the parent didn't yet realize that their child was gay then it's not a "normal, expected thing," it's an unexpected, but normal thing. And unexpected things of all kinds can be a 'jolt.' It's not unusual that affirming, loving parents of gay kids sometimes have to go through a process of adjusting their understanding of their child and their vision of that child's future, because they had previously made the statistically-not-unreasonable assumption that their child was straight. It doesn't mean that parent is making a value judgment about their child's sexuality. If a parent believed their child to be gay and was told the child was in fact straight, I would not be surprised to see a similar emotional response.
Jun 19, 2013 tsapience commented on SL Letter of the Day: Let Me Think....
Oh hay LW. I'm also a bisexual woman in a monogamous relationship with a lady and I have that exact fantasy during masturbation or sex sometimes, even though I similarly have no desire to be a man or even a butch woman. I've never worried that it was cheating but it's cool to hear that I'm not the only bi cis woman who has this fantasy.

I'm not sure how to explain it but I feel like mentally mapping my sexual sensations onto an imaginary penis can make them easier or more enjoyable to process, even though I don't want to have an actual penis. And stepping into the psychological role of a gay male top is obviously fun, too.
May 16, 2012 tsapience commented on So Those Christians Who Yelled At Me....
NOM promoted this guy's statement on their blog -- except they cut out the part about putting gays to death. I don't know what the status is on that Brian Brown debate, but if Brown tries to say, "well, the Christians who quote the wrong anti-gay Bible passages at you are different than us NOM folks, who only quote the gentler New Testament ones," I hope Dan sticks their support for this guy's statement in his face.
May 2, 2012 tsapience commented on Testaments Old & New.
I think Dan can really mitigate the damage from this whole incident if he does more to get his apology for “pansy-assed” and less-regrettably-phrased defense of “bullshit” out there. I think he should put it in a video. Yeah, he apologized and clarified on the blog, but how many people are going to read that while the anti-gays completely ignore it and keep running with this story? They LOVE being able to say “look everyone, the ‘anti-bullying’ guy is a bully!" So show them what anti-bullying advocates do when they make a mistake (even if it would probably be an overstatement to call that mistake "bullying"). Make it a teachable moment. The It Gets Better Project started with a video and continued with videos, and the conference clip is on video, too. Dan should make a video explaining that the world isn’t divided into the bullies and the bullied, and sometimes well-meaning people mess up and say things that are unkind, and the right thing to do in that situation is to take responsibility and apologize. Then say what he said on the blog: calling the walkout pansy-assed was wrong, but attacking hypocrisy isn’t the same as attacking Christianity, etc. I think a video, particularly if approached from his role as an anti-bullying advocate, would probably be a more effective way to remedy this than the blog.
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