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What book have you read the most?: The Stand
What piece of art would you steal?: Edvard Munch's 'Love and Pain'
What song or movie makes you cry?: Just Breathe
What song do you never want to hear again?: Roxanne
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May 15 jujubee80 commented on Savage Love.

@22 that sucks but you sound realllly angry. Dating pretty much blows for most people who are looking for an actual relationship. I can only assume it's that much harder for lesbians. But getting pissed at the people who raise your hopes isn't productive and can lead to bitterness which we all know aint sexy.

The best way I've found to deal (as a straight woman who is a magnet for douchebags) is a) raise my expectations for who I spend time with; b) trust my gut--I usually have an inkling someone is playing games--I no longer ignore that instinct because I am wishing for a different outcome.

May 8 jujubee80 commented on Savage Love.

@24 depression is different for everyone and internal dialogue can be very different from external. 24 is young, he may not even realize he is depressed (assuming he is and it seems like a really good possibility). At that age I literally had no idea what I was feeling let alone why I felt it. That being said, the only currency the LW should accept is ACTION. Until then, take Dan's advice and separate.

May 5 jujubee80 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mr. Wonderful.

VAG, please listen to Dan and the comments here. Seriously--this guy is no good for you. You remind me of my younger self; i wasted four years in a miserable relationship because I didn't know I deserved better. Believe me--you deserve better. DTMFA.

May 1 jujubee80 commented on Savage Love.

@29, to clarify the breakup dance lasted a year, we were together for four...let's just say I hadn't yet realized that loving a person with severe mental health issues didn't mean I could help him overcome them. Lesson learned the hard way but that's how it goes sometimes. Glad we've both moved forward! :)

May 1 jujubee80 commented on Savage Love.

@31 definitely agree and think your clarification shows I was misinterpreting somewhat. Thanks for the reply :)

May 1 jujubee80 commented on Savage Love.

@22 while I wholeheartedly agree that HIM should use this as an opportunity to better himself, doing it in the context of showing up his ex seems to defeat the purpose. If it gets him over the hump of the first few months that's great but keeping it up is kinda creepy imho. But maybe I'm misreading the intention in your post. If I am, forgive me--I really do need more coffee.

May 1 jujubee80 commented on Savage Love.

@16 & 20--right on. Clinging to the idea of first and everlasting soul mates in spite of massive piles of dramatic bullshit equals misery. Cut ties, move on, clean break. Ten years ago I went through the same thing; it was an awful drama-filled game of back and forth that lasted over a year until I finally pulled the plug for good. Six miserable months later I had my head (mostly) straight again. It's worth the misery--cut the cord!

Apr 19 jujubee80 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Mystery Bulk.

Wow that cab driver thing is so freaking gross and WEIRD! Seriously, who the fuck does something like that??

I'm with others, the guy could have a fetish, but it's just as possible if not more so that he has a medical issue that requires varying degrees of 'protection'.

Apr 19 jujubee80 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Big Time.

@56, I love you, your comment is priceless.

Good on Dan for calling this guy out on his bullshit. Having such disdain for the people you're attracted to is pathetic and seriously creepy. I sincerely hope this guy's wife has divorced him and that no chubby 'hick' chick ever gives him the time of day.