PJB863
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Jun 20, 2012 PJB863 commented on SL Letter of the Day: Do Monogamous Gay Couples Exist?.
I'll add a slightly different perspective here. I was in a monogamous relationship for 24 years, right up until the "death do us part" ending of it. Was it wonderful? Yes. Was it perfect? God no, but I wouldn't have had it any other way.

It wasn't what I was really looking for when that relationship started, but somehow monogamy just felt right and it worked for the two of us. I'm still healthy, relatively young (well at 52, I don't consider myself old yet). Will my next relationship be monogamous? It might be, but I don't view that as the gold standard anymore. I think in the context that SFMCN writes, he's talking about the physical/sexual aspect of monogamy, but the reality is that there's another, more important aspect to a relationship: the spiritual and emotional intimacy. That part is very important to me, but as far as the sexual part, meh, maybe not so much.