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Jun 21, 2012 Phoenix0879 commented on Bisexuals.
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Jun 21, 2012 Phoenix0879 commented on Bisexuals.
Dan, attitudes like yours wherein you automatically doubt a teenager who says they they are bisexual caused me to live a closeted life as a gay man for almost a decade. I struggled with bullying at school and there was no way I would make myself a greater target by coming out. Then I finally got to spread my wings and go to college. At the tender age of 18 I started to come out as bisexual. Everywhere I turned I met the same response: "Ugh, that's gross", "you can't like both, you have to pick one or the other", "You'll come out as ga eventually" and so on.

Since the news spread like wildfire that I liked guys, I embraced it. I identified as gay, for almost a decade. I exchanged one closet for another, all because of attitudes like yours. Externally I was a happy, gay college kid. Inside I was in turmoil. I was living a lie for the benefit of others, wasn't that what coming out was supposed to stop? It took almost a decade and a personal epiphany for me to throw that aside, to ignore the expectations of others and to come out again. To this day, I still face discrimination. "You sleep with guys, then you're gay", "You'll come out properly one day", "You're just in denial" and so on.

Today I'm an openly bisexual man and I am honest before I begin any relationship and I can tell you, it has closed a great many doors (and beds). I can understand why some keep it a secret - being honest has lost me many potential relationships, because many still harbour attitudes related to yours: that one day, I'll decide I'm gay (or straight) and leave them. Or that I'll cheat on them. Or that I want a open relationship...

So yes, you're welcome to your opinions, you even have the right to air them. But have you considered it may not be the right thing to exercise that right? All words like yours do is make vulnerable and impressionable young bisexual men and women feel pressured upon to act in a certain way, to be something they're not. Is harming potentially young people really worth you saying what's on your mind?
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Jun 21, 2012 Phoenix0879 commented on Bisexuals.
Dan, attitudes like yours wherein you automatically doubt a teenager who says they they are bisexual caused me to live a closeted life as a gay man for almost a decade. I struggled with bullying at school and there was no way I would make myself a greater target by coming out. Then I finally got to spread my wings and go to college. At the tender age of 18 I started to come out as bisexual. Everywhere I turned I met the same response: "Ugh, that's gross", "you can't like both, you have to pick one or the other", "You'll come out as ga eventually" and so on.

Since the news spread like wildfire that I liked guys, I embraced it. I identified as gay, for almost a decade. I exchanged one closet for another, all because of attitudes like yours. Externally I was a happy, gay college kid. Inside I was in turmoil. I was living a lie for the benefit of others, wasn't that what coming out was supposed to stop? It took almost a decade and a personal epiphany for me to throw that aside, to ignore the expectations of others and to come out again. To this day, I still face discrimination. "You sleep with guys, then you're gay", "You'll come out properly one day", "You're just in denial" and so on.

Today I'm an openly bisexual man and I am honest before I begin any relationship and I can tell you, it has closed a great many doors (and beds). I can understand why some keep it a secret - being honest has lost me many potential relationships, because many still harbour attitudes related to yours: that one day, I'll decide I'm gay (or straight) and leave them. Or that I'll cheat on them. Or that I want a open relationship...

So yes, you're welcome to your opinions, you even have the right to air them. But have you considered it may not be the right thing to exercise that right? All words like yours do is make vulnerable and impressionable young bisexual men and women feel pressured upon to act in a certain way, to be something they're not. Is harming potentially young people really worth you saying what's on your mind?
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