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Jun 28, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Pregnancy Derails Poly Bliss.
Just to throw another possibility out there. Maybe she's fine with the poly arrangement, but just wants the dude to have a kid with her as well. It's not a crazy thing to want or anything, but it could certainly be a deal breaker for the couple here (or at least the letter writer, who it seems doesn't even have this possibility on her radar).
Jun 17, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Weeded Out.
While I find her most recent project to be quite misguided, it seems like she's done a lot of good for this guy. She should take comfort in the fact that his next girlfriend will surely appreciate the effort.
Mar 5, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: Sexlessish Marriage Less Sexless During Affair.
I normally find seandr a good source of amusing one-liners, but his brief take on this case cuts to the core issue better than I could: "...cheating as a long term solution to not loving your spouse is just selfish and cruel."

Dan is a proponent of ethical non-monogamy, but this case isn't that. There has to be some legitimate effort at communication, or some extremely compelling, strange circumstance to make prolonged lying the least bad option. There's nothing like that here. Dan has just given license to all cheaters, of both sexes, to lie to their spouses simply because they're more attracted to someone else. If you want some sort of hardship exemption, it must be better than, "My current life is comfortable, but I need to lie to and betray my husband/wife, to keep it that way."
Mar 3, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on WaPo: "Researchers have found strong evidence that racism helps the GOP win".
Democrats as a whole aren't all that progressive. It's really the moderate party in the US today, which is why the actual progressive is getting slaughtered by Clinton.
Feb 21, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Jeb! Bush Drops Out.
@33: Yes, we did such great work in Iraq, it's shocking, just shocking!, that they wanted us to get the fuck out.
Feb 20, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Hillary Wins Nevada, Donald Wins South Carolina.
He went from Jeb! to Jeb :-(

(please clap)
Feb 20, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Looks Like Hillary Is Going to Win Nevada.
For the record, according to the 3 polls released in the month of February (or at least the only three 538 thought were credible enough to cite). Hillary's lead was between 0 and 6 points. I, for one, was expecting a close race.
Feb 15, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Right-Wing Loons: Obama Had Scalia Killed!.
I solved this one. Ruth Bader Ginsburg was playing the long con. She suffered through hundreds of hours of opera and pretending to be Scalia's "friend" all so she could smother him in his sleep. Even now, she pretends to mourn her best friend. Nice try, but I figured out the truth!!!!
Feb 6, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Savage Love Letter of the Day: A Tall Order.
This letter seems so simple. Finding a bi/poly dude interested in fucking her and cuddling with both of them should be way easier than so many things I've read about here. This would only be impossible if they are a) giant assholes, or b) desperately want to drag a 3rd party into their drama, who will never be seen as a full human being or real participant, as an instrument to make the only relationship they care about (their own) stronger. Oh, wait, (a) and (b) are the same.
Jan 15, 2016 DrVanNostrand commented on Rick Santorum Urged Viewers to Google Him.
@3 raindrop

I agree. Rick Santorum the person is so disgusting and offensive that he's ruined the name for everyone.