Feb 4, 2015 chotis commented on SL Letter of the Day: My Boss Is a Married Lady and I'm Not a Single Lady—Should I Fuck Her Anyway?.
Dan, why do you never seem to address the fact that if you tell the married person trying to get into your pants "you're married so no, leave your spouse if you want to be with me" and they respond with "Ohh, I caaan't, we haven't had sex in years but she neeeeds me, I need this to stay sane and beeeee there for my faaaamily"... they might, you know, be lying? Because, like, they want to sleep with you, and will say whatever it takes? Unless you personally know their spouse and their situation, you have no way of knowing whether someone's actually "staying sane" or just being a CPOS and lying to you in the process. If you don't know their spouse and you're willing to accept the "staying sane" excuse at face value, you're clearly fine with possibly enabling a cheater-- why pretend you care about their marriage at all? Just own it!
Jun 7, 2014 chotis commented on About That Hate Crime I Committed at University of Chicago.
One good thing to come out of all this, though: the phrase "drama monarch" which I will now use all the time forever.
Apr 4, 2014 chotis commented on SL Letter of the Day: Resources and Support?.
Glad OP chimed in-- I was reading Dan's response going, "Umm... I think you misunderstood the question... and now you're being a little judgey... this is awkward"
Feb 14, 2014 chotis commented on The Best Valentine's Day Card Ever.
Or, if you're a uterus owner, just take the whole question off the table by getting your period (and associated fuck-deterring cramps and discomfort-- I'm not squeamish, but ow) over V-day, as I have done now two years (and two partners) in a row.
Dec 2, 2013 chotis commented on Savage Love.
LW1, you did the right things. My former partner got depressed 5 years into our relationship. For almost two years he resisted all my attempts to get him to get out and do things, to seek counselling/medical help, to meditate/journal, to exercise, to keep doing the things he loved: all he would do was work, sleep, eat unhealthily, and play increasingly violent computer games. He fell out with all his friends and became a complete shut-in. He kept telling me that this was just who he was now and I should accept him, and even though I knew he wasn't himself, eventually I came to believe him and I left. Now he's meditating again, he's back in touch with his friends and family, and he's getting help and taking care of himself. It had to come from him-- as long as I was the one trying to "change" him, he resented it, and resisted, and only once I was out of the picture could he take the initiative to help himself.
Jan 15, 2013 chotis commented on SL Letter of the Day: Lifted Program.
LIFTER: Go take an acrobatics/ weight sharing/ theater movement class together. I've lifted guys that big before (though never in a sexual context) and I'm even smaller than you! There are ways it can be done-- it's all about centers of gravity and stuff-- but both parties have to know what they're doing, and MAKE SURE YOU HAVE A SPOTTER the first few/several times!
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Aug 9, 2012 chotis commented on Some Restaurant in Seattle Needs to Start Offering These, Like, Now.
Warning: those things are SO GOOD but they make you SO FAT! When I was in Munich for a couple of months several years ago, I ate those all the time because they sold them at the train station where all my friends bought cigarettes (EVERYONE smoked but me so I ate instead.) I came home and none of my pants fit me. Sad but true.